she wasn't just my gf, more like a wife.. and we broke up b/c of many issues, but i never stopped loving her. I tried to comeback, she was really hurt. She said it was too late. I asked her if she had someone and she said no. She said she just doesn't want that anymore.
2006-07-23 16:47:54 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
well, maybe she was so hurt by the ending of such a meaningful relationship she just wanted to move on instead of getting caught up in something that ended in a mess the first time. honestly, she is probably just scared of getting hurt again, and going through the same thing yet again. She's probably sick and tierd of dealing with it. She just wants to move on.
I suggest you do the same.
I wish you luck.
2006-07-23 16:50:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need a good 6 months to get over a long relationship. If you get back together, all the old problems and bad habits seem to be even more annoying than ever. Then you are back to square 1 complaining about this or that. It is just going around in a circle with some people. You say one thing, and you both know what the other person is going to say, its like a 1/2 hour scripted argument.
Been there---*** that.
If you go back, she will assume that YOU will do the changing, and she won't have to do anything. No, it's REALLY hard, but move on dude......move on. Sorry...........take a deep breath, and move on.
2006-07-23 16:53:44 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not wrong. She's just confused because you hurt her. Your best best is to try to regain her trust. For the past 4 months, she has been worried sick about you and she questioned how you could claim to love her if you couldn't have the decency to communicate with her. If there is true love here, there is still a chance. But before you make any moves, make sure that you really want to do this because it would be wrong to play with her heart. Ask her if she's willing to meet up with you to talk... don't make her feel pressured to take you back... and explain what happened, why it happened, whawt you were going through, and what you want. Don't ask her to give a response right away... she needs time to think. Good luck to the both of you.
2006-07-23 16:51:51 · answer #3 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'd have to agree with the previous posters. Coming back after 4 months just isn't right on many levels. The key is her saying it's too late. You should accept it and move on. Hopefully both of you learned something from that experience. Good luck.
2006-07-23 16:53:21 · answer #4 · answered by scubalady01 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with giving a relationship a little time. Me and my now husband went over a year on bad terms and no sense of communication, and now we are having the best years of our lives. Giving someone a little breather is sometimes the best medicine.
2006-07-23 16:52:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No go back over there tomorrow and tell her how you feel or call her. If she tells you she would rather you not come over anymore than don't. A year from now you will have moved on anyway so what does it matter?
2006-07-23 16:54:41 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, obviously you are not over what you had with her yet. Give her some more time, let the time heal whatever she was hurt for. In the meantime, try to keep in touch with her, but dont push it too much.
2006-07-23 16:50:39 · answer #7 · answered by dugu$ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems that she's made it rather clear that she doesn't want you back. Then again, it might be the ego talking or whatever.
Make it clear that you're willing to amend things and that your feelings never changed. With some luck, she'll at least forgive you.
2006-07-23 16:50:26 · answer #8 · answered by Aimers 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry dear, but if she stated that she doesn't want that anymore,then tht's probably what she means...........People are all different in that aspect, some will be willing to try and try to make something work out that didn't in the first place, and others will sever all ties and start anew.....This is what I think you should do as well.........Take care, dear..........
2006-07-23 16:51:27 · answer #9 · answered by mizzzzthang 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It isn't wrong because of the timing....but women typically only want a man after that type of b/u, if the man doesn't want them.....so, unfortunately, if you want to play that type of game....act like you are not interested!!!!
She'll come to you....but you will probably have found someone else by then....
Go forward honey....never backward...you will regret it in the end.
good luck
2006-07-23 16:54:43 · answer #10 · answered by Imamamea 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋