I think my Wife just had a miscarriage. She is going to get Dr appt tomorrow. Think she is in the state of shock stage. What do I say to her? she has been in bed all day, freaking out. I am too sad.
2006-07-23 16:38:32 · 10 answers · asked by sbeaz 2 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Dr on call sadi she nneds an ultrasound. Does she need the ER? Does blood happen all at once. she has had little all day getter worse w/ clots in it.
2006-07-23 16:47:58 · update #1
Oh my. first thing I said, was we can do it again next month & she started crying
2006-07-23 16:49:41 · update #2
I am very sorry She is most likely having a miscarraige if there is clotting. Go to the ER. Comfort her and support her, and be sure to realize that to her, she is losing her child, it is not something you can "do again next month." I have had a miscarraige once, I was only 3 months and had labor pains and all. The best advice I can give is to be there for her. Also, do not tell family members until she is ready (by this i mean do not call everyone and their brother until she has accepted what is happening and is ready to discuss it with others; just give her a day if she needs it) Also, my sister came to my house while we were at the hospital and had removed some items that we had purchased so that I wouldn't have to see them when i got home. While her intentions were good, I would have liked to put that stuff away on my own; like myself, most women still need to mourn the loss, as your wife may as well.
side note: a D&C, as another mentioned above is Diallation and Curretage (spelling?), they will diallate her at remove anything left behind. This may or may not be necessary.
2006-07-23 17:04:54 · answer #1 · answered by mlaurie406 2 · 5⤊ 0⤋
This is indeed a sad time, and the most you can do for your wife is to comfort her. Hold her and tell her you love her. Do not mention that you will try again, just listen to her and let her cry. Lie in the bed with her, and hold her tight in your arms. Pray over her, and if you need to cry, you go ahead and cry too. Don't hold it in. If you did indeed learn tomorrow that you lost your baby, ask your family to give you guys some space for a while to mourn. Depending on how far along your wife is, (especially if she is in the third trimester) the hospital will make footprints of your baby, on a certificate and provide your wife with a special pin for moms who lose their babies. But, if your wife is in the early stages of pregnancy (first trimester), she will be given a d&c (not sure what that is), and will be put on bedrest (heavy bleeding is common after a miscarriage). Stay with your wife, her mental status may be quite fragile as well as yours. Don't think about the future right now, and having another baby, just comfort each other and pray for strength. I too will keep you in my prayers. Give your wife room to discuss her feelings, and really listen to her. Just keep loving her and that's the most important thing.
2006-07-23 23:46:26 · answer #2 · answered by adjoadjo 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've both had a miscarriage, because you were both pregnant. I know that sounds crazy, but you were both in this together. If a miscarriage has happened, scream, cry, beat your fists, whatever you will go through to deal with this, do it; hold each other, tell each other you love each other and will not leave the other to deal with this alone.
Don't worry about trying to have children now, you will when the time is right. Don't feel rushed by people who might be insensitive enough to say stupid stuff. Just love each other through this and you'll both be alright on the other side.
2006-07-23 23:49:42 · answer #3 · answered by kellygirlaj 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry for you loss. Your wife is so blessed to have such a caring husband. It's hard for me to explain what she feels, and the best way I can say it is that she feels hollow and empty in her heart and is grieving terribly. For now, just be there for her and hold her. When she calms down a bit, it might be helpful for both of you to write the baby a letter telling it how much it was loved and how much you looked forward to having it, and that you will miss it very, very much. Then seal the letter and put it in a safe place. You will always treasure the baby you lost in your hearts, and when she is ready, you can try again. You will be okay.
2006-07-23 23:59:02 · answer #4 · answered by No Shortage 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
nothing you are going to say is going to help her if she did have one. I had a friend who had 3 and all I could do was give her a hug. A woman has so much more invested in a pregnancy than a man has. Yea you have lost something to, but she has lost part of her. Also during this time, they tend to blame themselves,,thinking that they have done something to cause it. Make sure that if she is blaming herself that you get her help. Just be the shoulder that she lends on and support her.
BUT you shouldn't be waiting,,,,if you think she has miscarried..then you should be taking her to the hospital and not on here.
2006-07-23 23:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by SouthernKNC 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Lots of people go through the same thing..my mom did when she was pregnant for her 3rd child..I would have had an older sister:(....and my friend had the same thing happen to her..look at the bright side..she can still have more beautiful children..as the saying goes..theres more where that came from!!! So cheer up..
2006-07-23 23:43:10 · answer #6 · answered by ~HaileyBebz~ 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should go to the emergency room immediately. There might be internal bleeding that isn't evident.
2006-07-23 23:40:56 · answer #7 · answered by the_mojo_wire 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, you should take her to the ER.
2006-07-23 23:43:35 · answer #8 · answered by bettyboop 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to er, after that just be there for her and tell her how much she means to you...
2006-07-23 23:44:47 · answer #9 · answered by randys_gem 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Comfort her....let her know you are there for her. Hold her...lay with her....just all around be there for her.
2006-07-23 23:41:47 · answer #10 · answered by Nurses have <3 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋