will our marrige fall apart?

Question

a week ago some girl call my husband phone and told me that my husband had been messing with her i was so ferious i left without an explaination why we have two little girls our communication has been non existant since i still love him and miss him like hell does he feel the same way.

Answer 1

no one can tell you that

Answer 2

Worst case scenario, he had sex with someone else and is now worried about putting you at risk because of his bad behavior. Second worse, he learned something about you that he didn't like (although in this case he might be more confrontive). The bright side. In either case he didn't leave you so he only has his own issues to deal with. The best revenge in this or any other case is to just be the best person you can be and set a good example for him to live up to. Not all men are completely grown when they get married. Sometimes we all have to take a hit for the team. No man ever felt bad about doing bad things to a woman that he felt deserved it so just don't be that woman and you should be ok. In other words, break out your guilt bag :P At 7 years and with kids you are both about due for a slip. A slip doesn't have to end in tragedy though.

Answer 3

You HAVE to sit down and talk with him. He's going to deny everything, be prepared for that. But you have to know that this woman didn't just call you up out of the blue to cause problems for you. She had a good reason. If you want the marriage to work, you HAVE to go to marriage counseling. If he's willing to work to make everything better, that's a good sign. I would keep tabs on him though. But I've found once they cheat, they always,always, ALWAYS cheat again. I wish you the best of luck. I truly mean that.

Answer 4

Understandable, you were furious, but he deserved an explanation. She only did this because she knew how you'd react. She wanted him, and knew he would never let you & girls go easily. My ex atleast knew why I gave up and why when I let go and filed for a divorce. Now both of them are miserable. In your case, he's miserable because he messed up and you didn't tell him face to face how you felt about it and you gave her exactly what SHE wanted regardless to his intentions. So, now you want have any closure until you get all of your feelings off your shoulder by talking to him. Communications is a must to make it through any relationship, especially after situations like this. Do what it takes to get this done before making any final decisions.

Answer 5

You should definitely talk to him about this girl to find out what's going on. If it is true that he's had an affair, then you need to decide whether to divorce him or whether to stay, but I'd advise against making a rash decision without hearing the whole story.

Answer 6

the best thing you can do is talk to a family counselor. there are alot of issues that no one on yahoo could possibly cover.
if your husband is willing to go with you that would be preferable but if he doesnt you should go by yourself.
the next thing you will have to do is...forgive him - whether your marriage continues or not. it doesn't give him the right to continue his infedility but allows your hurt to be released so that you dont become bitter.
if you dont have a relationship with Jesus Christ, now would be a good time to begin one. Jesus said to cast all our cares on Him and you will need Him to help you with the emotional pain you will experience. the bible also tell us to pray without ceasing, if you will put this in His hands, God will guide you through this and make "beauty from ashes".
God be with you sister.
I'll be praying for your family.

Answer 7

the best advise I could give you is for you to talk to your husband about it.

You cannot resolve a problem by just leaving and not explaining why.

As for your marriage falling apart - it is up to you to decide. Whether you accept what happened or just forget about it and move on.

Answer 8

No one here can answer that question for you; you must speak with your husband.

Things to consider:
Does he even know why you left?
Has he been acting strangely? Been doing anything to make you think he was cheating before this woman called?
Is this woman someone you know? Is she a known troublemaker?
Has your husband tried to contact you since he left?

You've got to get answers to all of these questions before you can even begin to think of what to do. Get together and get both sides of the story before jumping to conclusions. Good luck to you and your family.

Answer 9

first of all if you don't ask you won't know it could be some girl who wants your man, but then again your man could just be that dirty and you don't know about it and she wanted you to know because he just wanted some and she wanted love. I feel if your husband loved you i mean really loved you he would never be with some one else. Just be careful because the kids will be caught in the middle if he wants to be with other people then let him go. it is not worth fighting for if he is not going to fight for it too.

Answer 10

Talk to him and find out his side of the story. If you feel like he is not being honest, then try getting a hold of the girl that called you and you can both confront him. That oughta do it. If it is true then you have a decision to make.

Answer 11

i guess its only rite to give ur hubby a chance to explain himself. since u said u have 2 girls, its best to try to work things out properly. but did he call n try to explain first? or he didn't even bother to call n explain? if u still love him n he really did wrong to you, i tink u should give him a chance as nobody is perfect. but let's say he still make tis mistake after u forgive him, its time to move on lady.