Should I leave him? Or talk to him about it? Is it a fetish of his?
2006-07-23 16:11:43 · 13 answers · asked by Haley 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
I can't believe everyone in this thread.
What happened to accepting that people have different fetishes than you?
I think it's so stupid to think he's horrible for liking someting you might find gross.
It's only his fetish he might not want to do anything with it in real life at all.
2006-07-23 16:19:27 · answer #1 · answered by Adam G 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Well how attracted is he? Does he want to have sex with a tranny or does he just fantasize about them/look at porn (or even that?).
If it's just something he's attracted to and doesn't really want to act on, I don't think you have anything to be worried about at all so long as you're both ok with it.
It doesn't mean he's gay at all (I'm sure some gay guys are also attracted to trannies, but if he's attracted to you I doubt he's homosexual).
It's pretty cool that he trusted you enough to admit this. It might be considered a fetish depending on how much of a role they play in his fantasy life, but fetishes aren't necessarily a bad thing.
Remember that people often fantasize about things that we don't want to actually do (some women fantasize about rape, some straight guys get turned on by gay porn, things like that).
Don't leave him just over this. But do discuss any concerns you might have with him, while avoiding name calling and trying not to be judgmental.
Good luck!
2006-07-23 16:51:49 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say talk to him about this. Find out what he's really attracted to in regards to tranny's. Communication is key here, as in any relationship. How does his "fetish" strain your relationship?
How long has he been into transexuals?
These are some questions you should discuss with him. Find out more about his "fetish" and decide for yourself if he's worth keeping as a boyfriend
2006-07-23 19:45:02 · answer #3 · answered by Swift Ninja 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesnt make him gay. I kinda have a lil fetish about trannys and my girlfriend knows this we have talked about it and she is ok with it, but i dont want to have sex with one or anything like that. The best thing you could do would be to talk to him about it and find out how he feels.
2006-07-24 03:24:02 · answer #4 · answered by civic 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am shocked at the bigots answering this question...but I guess to each is own.
No, don't leave him..It maybe that he wishes that he could dress and experience is femininity or he is just fantasizing about it.
Transvestites often dress sexy and more feminine then real girls do.They do spend a lot of time perfecting what they image as the perfect female. Which could be why he is attracted to them.
Remember guys are visual creatures. They think with the little head and not the big one........
When we dress we try and emulate and not ex curate (as drag queens do) the feminine female.
But don't leave him because of this. He may have alot of fine qualities. Talk to him about his feelings.
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2006-07-25 06:03:33 · answer #5 · answered by Jill B 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's really up to you. If you love him, stay, but that opens up a whole bag of things that you'd have to worry about. It's really how much you like/love him. If you want to deal with it or just move on. This site might help you out. http://www.lauras-playground.com/support_index.htm there are tons of sites online to help you out. Plus if you have a livejournal there's a journal on there also for partners of transgendered people. My partner is on there since I myself am FtM. If you need to talk to someone, I'm almost always online, feel free to aim if needed.
2006-07-23 16:22:04 · answer #6 · answered by Danny H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hahaha. I don't think it makes him gay. I see ads for transvestites and whatnot in my porn mags so I think it's a fetish some straight guys have. I don't get it, it's ******* gross.
2006-07-23 16:14:51 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It would make him gay if he likes FtoM....It would make him str8 if he like MtoF...either way he is cheating on you. Would you stay with him or even be asking this question it they were not transgender?
2006-07-24 09:45:24 · answer #8 · answered by M 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I would think so. Should you leave him. Thats tricky only because you don't want a disease. I would only keep him as a friend.
2006-07-23 16:14:56 · answer #9 · answered by sweat mamma bear 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes,
dump him. Why would you care if it's a fetish?
Yuck!
2006-07-23 16:13:54 · answer #10 · answered by Acts 2 38 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋