i feel like i need to taste other boys and i am engaged .i feel like i am not good enough i am 22 and i have slept with 8 boys.
do you think it is right i cheat him?
not that is rong ...but ....
2006-07-23 16:08:46 · 37 answers · asked by mariana i 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You need to re evaluate your feelings for your fiance. You also need to talk to him and tell him that the engagement is off. You cannot marry someone if you are cheating on them. I would also look into some serious counseling for yourself to figure out why you feel like you are not good enough. Until you feel good about yourself, you really cannot be good for someone else.
2006-07-23 16:16:01 · answer #1 · answered by KIT-KAT 5 · 13⤊ 1⤋
OK, this appears to be a self-esteem issue that you're struggling with. You don't feel good enough? So let's really mess things up and screw around on your fiancee. Sounds like there is a part of you that thinks if lots of men want to have sex with you, then you must really be desirable. Is this close? Trust me, honey, having sex with lots of "boys" means they see you as easy and available, not that you are desirable. My advice? Call off the engagement for now and get some personal counseling to find out why you think so little of yourself ("i feel like i am not good enough"). And talk with your counselor about what (s)he thinks about you being engaged. I don't think you're ready, because you don't understand yourself yet.
2006-07-23 16:16:09 · answer #2 · answered by Lioness 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel sorry for the guy....I mean here he clearly loves you by asking you to marry him, and you repay his love by a feeling to cheat on him.
I really don't think you deserve a thing like love, or deserve a relationship for that matter, the way you are acting you might as well go be a hooker that way all the sex you want and no commitment.
That way you can go "taste" all the men you want.
I hope this guy finds someone better than you, that makes me sick. You need to grow up.
And Chuchi i believe he will already be crushed, he htinks he has found a girl who will love him, and he thinks he is going to spend the rest of his life with her.... looks like he is going to get a suprise, and a lot of heartbreak.
2006-07-23 16:12:20 · answer #3 · answered by Idiotman 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It looks like to me you have already "tasted" other boys. Do you love him? Engaged means you are supposed to be getting married. Marriage is forever. If you are going to cheat now, then you will later. Your man deserves better than that. Either grow up and love your man and treat him with respect, or end it now. Don't cheat behind his back.
2006-07-23 16:12:17 · answer #4 · answered by noseygirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you want to be cheated on? Treat others as you want to be treated. If you feel like you have more wild oats to sow, then break off the engagement and do what you need to do. Better to end things now, because it'll be a lot harder to do after you've walked down the aisle together.
I married at 19, and caused myself to miss out on a lot...and also regretted not having taken more time to date and have more experiences as a single person before I tied myself down to one man at such a young age...
Don't marry if you're not ready...but if you're determined to marry then get over your urges and face the committment and responsibility you've decided to take on...by cheating, you okay yourself to be cheated on....what goes around, comes around...
Don't do anything you don't want comin' back around on you...
2006-07-23 16:14:05 · answer #5 · answered by . 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should tell your fiancee before the wedding day that you don't want to get married and that you don't feel like it's a good idea for the sake of his future because you cheated on him.
2006-07-23 16:11:35 · answer #6 · answered by Chelsey 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are engaged and want to cheat, you have NO business being engaged, give his ring back, and go your own way, you are NOT in love with him, he deserves better
2006-07-23 16:12:44 · answer #7 · answered by southern belle 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are too immature and too young to marry anyway. Go play the field, have fun, earn a college degree, have great sex with many, many men, conquer the world and when you are older and ready to settle down, then you should think about marriage.
2006-07-23 16:19:07 · answer #8 · answered by iforbidu 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hunny.....then why are you going to get married to this man then? why did u say yes when infact you shoulda said no. and you wanna cheat on him. i feel bad for this guy. he must not mean enough to you if u wanna cheat.
i'm 19 and engaged and i haven't slept with any guys. and i'm not gonna go and cheat on him.
2006-07-23 16:12:01 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Brown Eyed Girl ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to call off the engagement and grow up. Clearly, you are not ready to commit...much less be a wife.
2006-07-23 16:10:42 · answer #10 · answered by ♪ ♥ ♪ ♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋