Well, I'm "large" if you will, but I;m okay with that though, I find REALLY cute clothes (Torrid) but I don't have a problem with myself even though it's not healthy and all that... But whenever i feel like if i need to lose weight and everything i always see that those feelings are brought on by comparing myself to thin girls, but i feel like if I want to be like that to make everybody else happy ( parents, guys) but I don't think that's cool and that if I act upon things like that, I'll turn like thse girls who are so obsessed with their weight. I am not like a whale but i do want to be a bit thinner but other that im fine, should i change to make everybody else happy? And if i decide to, any tips?? No negativity please?
Also, why is everybody obsessed with if guys like big girls? I've gone out with guys that aren't big but I'd just as soon go out with a big guy, actually i prefer that, but how come poeple can't just judge people by personality? Why is it such a big deal?
2006-07-23
16:01:59
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Today i saw this girl i knew two years ago and she was as big as maybe teensy bit bigger than me... She is TOOTHPICK SKINNY NOW! I was thinking she did gastric bypass surgery or somethign but i was like o m g! i thought it was cool. I didnt even recognize her and i sat right behind her in church!
2006-07-23
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you should only change if you want to girl.. and hey you know what guys will like you with that kinda attitude because you are happy being you.. and the day you decide you want to try to lose some weight take don't drink soda and stay away from fast food and the most important no eating late at night i did all of those things and lost almost 30lbs.
and you are right people should judge other people on personality but that's not the way the world works i think as long as you are happy with your-self then screw everyone else who isn't its all about you
2006-07-23 16:13:30
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answered by crack _ rock 1
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My weigh tgoes up and down also. Sure it is easy for us to say that we are happy either way. And yes, this can be and is true for me also, but the truth is I am more happy when my weight is down.. I used to work out, the whole 9 yards.. I had the abs and was in Playgirl Magazine back in 1990. A few years ago, I broke my back and am unable to take care of my self as I once did. I am also married now and sadly I must admit that I may just be a bit lazy . I do feel much better both physically and emotionally when I am at fighting weight. So go ahed loose a couple pounds. I will make a commitment to loose 20 pounds also.. Send me an e-mail and we could lean on eachother, let eachother know how the other is doing etc.. Plus I just went to the back doctor a few days ago and he suggested I try to loose a few pounds.. I hope to hear from you..
2006-07-23 16:09:46
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answered by Anonymous
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Maintaining one's motivation during a period of losing weight can be very difficult.
You can only make a permanent change if you do it for yourself. That kind of determination must come from the inside.
Our society is obsessive. Not only heavy people feel it, but so does anyone not twenty years old and perfect.
That being said, lay the appearance aspect aside. Consider slimming down some for health reasons. A host of serious conditions, including diabetes, is exacerbated by excess weight.
Have a realistic goal.Not bony or thin. Not emaciated. Not model small.
Healthy.
A good weight? Try the website below to determine your Body Mass Index. It will give you the range that is healthy. Not bony or obsessive.
Good luck.
2006-07-23 16:16:01
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answered by Anonymous
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You have to find your sense of self. Then you will stop stressing about the skinny girls. I bet you are Beautiful, Intelligent, and all the good things. Just take up a bit of running and eat more low GI foods like wholemeal stuff and good protiens. if you eat some good well balanced meals, and follow about 1 hour of exercise a day there is no reason that you cant achieve your ideal weight. Also when you are doing somthing for just you, ie the exercise you will find your sense of self there and never need to compare you again. Dont change your personality because you are perfect the way you are. i know this is easy for me to say to a stranger but I can get a sense of you by the way you write. Feel free to PM.
2006-07-23 16:08:02
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answered by Anonymous
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Find the middle ground. If you feel like you need to lose weight, and judging by the question you do, then do it, but there is no need to "turn like these girls who are obsessed with their weight." Get to a point where you are happier with your appearance and healthier by default. The thing is, do this for the right reasons, that reason being for yourself, not for anyone else's sake, views, opinions, etc. If you do it for yourself you are much more likely to be successful anyways.
If you decide to do this, I recommend the combination of eating better and exercise. As far as eating better, try to incorporate more fruits, vegetables, and all around natural food into your diet (ie not processed or packaged). I find it all starts at the grocery store, if you don't buy junk food, then you won't eat junk food. So stay to the outer edges of the grocery store, that's where the best stuff is. Drink lots, and lots of water, try to avoid other liquids, specially sodas and juices which have so much sugar in them. Keep your portions smaller and if you must eat some junk, try to minimize it. Like eat only one slice of pizza, only go for a small hamburger, or only one or two pieces of candy. As far as exercising, do what you feel comfortable with. Start out by incorporating more walking everyday. If you park, park further. Take the stairs, etc. You wanna get to point where you are doing about 30 mins of exercise 5 times a week. But start at a point you feel is appropiate and work up from there.
As far as the last part of your question, our society is obsessed with appearance, and that really all there is to it.
2006-07-23 16:17:01
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answered by I77 2
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Girl.. look, If you arn't happy with your body than you need to change it. But if you are perfectly fine with yourself, than be happy with that. You don't need to change for anyone else but yourself. I used to be a bigger girl, And I made the change for myself because honestly, I was soo tired of being tired all the time, and not being able to do certain things. Now that I lost the weight, and I'm doing so many different things I could never do before, I'm the most confident person in the world. Just remember, being big is beautiful, and it doesn't matter what size lindsay lohan is in, it's all about you girl.. and that's all that matters.
2006-07-23 16:06:46
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answered by Jessica Marie 4
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It is good that you are comfortable with yourself. However you brought up a very good issue about your health. Instead of worrying about being thin, worry about your health and fitness. You should set a long term goal for yourself and then break that up into short term goals. Make the changes gradual. IE dont starve yourself, but try to drink water with your meals instead of sugary drinks, eat on a schedule instead of waiting until you are hungry. This will help you to control the amount of food you eat. Then you need to get out and exercise. Dont overdo it. Find a physical activity that you like to do and become addicted to it. If you gradually change your lifestyle, then your changes will be longterm and you will learn to appreciate your new energy, health and body.
2006-07-23 16:12:55
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answered by sb 2
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Answer to your second question first. A lot of people have low self esteems of themselves so they judge other people in negative ways. I'm glad your okay with your body. First get a complete physical. It could be your thyroid is under active. Your doctor will prescribe medicine for that. Ask him for a sample diet or get some recipes for a healthy diet. Exercise. I do a lot of walking.
2006-07-23 16:11:52
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answered by pmz 2
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finally someone esle sees where i am coming from. i would love to change to make everyone else happy about how i look and act. but the only reason i would truely want to lose weight was to feel better about myself. i am so happy that you feel comfortable with yourself. if you love yourself then others will love you too. so you feel good, then stick with who you are and who you want to be. who cares what other people think of you. it only matters what you think of yourself. and its because you love yourself that is why these other guys find you attractive. your personality does shine through sometimes. but only with the good guys. :) i hope that everything turns out just how you want it and you are happy in the end. because that is all that matters. good luck.
2006-07-23 16:16:52
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answered by caribouu2 2
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I don't think you should change just to make somebody happy.
If you are happy with yourself, be yourself. If they think you should change, then there is something wrong with them.
I have a history of eating disorder and I wish I am so confident in my own skin as you are. You have to be happy for yourself. Making other people happy in first place doesn't work.
So bottom line: If you feel that you need to loose weight for other people, FORGET IT! Be yourself and stay happy!
2006-07-23 16:07:25
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answered by Anonymous
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