She has asked already for one, she is going into grade 8.
2006-07-23 16:00:59 · 84 answers · asked by Raretommyboy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I am a single parent, who is a man. SO I have not been down this road in life lol
2006-07-23 16:05:53 · update #1
I have also worked with teens for years, as a youth leader. The last thing I want is for her to rebel. I am just tryin to keep an open mind on the whole situation. She has said its to hide panty lines.
I have told her that when it does happen, she will be 1. buyin them with her own money that she earns 2. Doing her own laundry (cause really, do I wanna see that) 3. she will be making sure that the tail is covered up. I have told her that if I see it, it gets cut off with sissors.
There has been lots of great opinions so far. This is my first question and I am sure I will post more now. Thank you all
2006-07-23 18:08:13 · update #2
Be proud that your daughter actually has a relationship that is good enough with you for her to even ask you for special underwear. If she really wanted them, I am sure that she could go behind your back and get them easily enough.
Ask her why she wants them. (I know, a hard subject coming from a dad, but bravo to you for thinking this issue through) She could want the panties just to fit in with her girlfriends. Thongs are unfortunately trendy and popular for tweens and teens, and girls share that sort of stuff with each other sometimes directly and indirectly (sleep overs, locker rooms, etc.).
If you are worried that thong panties will make her more promiscuous or sexually active, I think the fear is misdirected. If your daughter wanted to have sex it wouldn't matter if she had a thong or granny panties, she would have sex regardless. They are just a piece of fabric that serves a purpose. Hey, she might even find them uncomfortable and choose not to wear them after she has a couple of pairs. Try to respectfully ascertain why she wants them, and then decide if you want to pick this battle. It could be a good avenue for discussion for many things. Good luck!
2006-07-23 16:18:51 · answer #1 · answered by connorsmom916 3 · 7⤊ 0⤋
A "thong" is an ADULT garment and not meant for little girls in the 8th grade. My daughter is 14 and wants to wear a thong and there is no way on earth I will allow it!
She sometimes mentions rather I would allow her to wear a thong, and how "IN" it is, how all her friends are wearing them? How it is "cool" and she just wants to do it because she will be the only girl who isn't?
My daughters age says she is 14 while her body displays she could be 21 or older. (large breasted at 38DD)
A "thong" a "g-string" is for a grown woman. It is a sexually based apparel. An undergarment for those females that are emotionally prepared to appear provocative, alluring.
A teenager is not prepared for the repercussions of accentuating her body. A teenager is caught up in the "REVLON" of "chic".
An 8th grader is not emotionally prepared for the seduction of a "thong".
As a Mom of a 14 year old and a 2 year old daughter my focus is to give them a level of self esteem.
I absolutely do not allow my 14 year old daughter to dictate her clothing.
I allow her self expression, fashion and identity, connection to her own age group. But ultimately I am her Mother and I will determine the suitability of her age appropriate attire.
I submited my answer then saw your ADD-ON
That you are a DAD!
Being a Father may make this more stressful for you. I mean in that you may not be able to identify with your daughter's "womanly"needs?
So I will say that being a male perhaps you have even a greater understanding here.
Just bring to mind the picture of a woman in a g-string? Then put the face of your daughter on that?
So now what do you think??????????????????
2006-07-23 16:39:36 · answer #2 · answered by Anna M 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-23 16:03:07 · answer #3 · answered by tony pepperoni 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-07-23 16:03:07 · answer #6 · answered by Texas Cowboy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends upon her answer to why she wants one. If she wants one because "all the other girls in her class has one" and she doesn't want to feel left out, forget it. If she wants to have a whale tail everytime she bends over so it shows off some kind of sex appeal to the boys, no way. If she's got a pair of slacks that are snug on the hind end and doesn't want a panty line......maybe. You know your kid. But there are a lot of little hoochie looking and skanky dressing little girls out there, and you know your daughter. You know what motivates her, and you know what the real reason is for things that she wants. I guess what my mom had me do prior to thongs was go commando. Look mom! No lines!!
2006-07-23 16:09:50 · answer #7 · answered by frigidx 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
16 or 17
2006-07-23 16:02:10 · answer #8 · answered by starr 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2006-07-23 16:13:53 · answer #10 · answered by butterflies5082 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋