I have different interests- If you compared mine to others my age you would see a HUGE difference. I am a wiccan and love learning about vapirism (I do not practice that religion just like to lean about it) I am gothic and depressed. I know only one person like me but we have a pretty big age difference. My grandmas critisize me for the way I dress and acuse me of belonging to a cult. One of my grandpas makes fun of me (he asked of I hung out with skin heads, called my pretty lace I wore around my ankle a shoe polisher... yadda yadda) My mom and my few friends are the only ones who support me. I feel anger bubbling up, hopeless and depressed about this whole thing. I need help and fast before my mom and I get kicked out of my grandparents house because of me!
2006-07-23 15:40:06 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
I wish you would have said your age. I think you need to grow up and face reality in the world in which we live. When you are mature, educated and out of your parents' home, then you can make the kind of choices on how you want to live. Right now you are just being a sheep. Being a mature individual means standing on your own two feet and doing the right thing.
2006-07-23 15:43:33 · answer #1 · answered by Lydia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well vampirism and Gothic interests are common among the young and some older people too... You are not weird, I work in a Metaphysical shop and I see people dressed like you all the time...
You should be allowed to dress however you like, this is your life experience and I think its great you mother and your friends except this stage of your life.
It seems you are in the age to rebel and to start trying to figure out who you are, not everyone wants to dress in pastels.
Wiccan is a fine religion but there are many paths in the Pagan faith so don't decide on Wiccan because its the most popular.
I do think you should address the depression. Just because you gothic doesn't mean you have to live an unhappy life.
You have to realize like the cool punks with the great bright mohawks people are going to stair and say things. People are afraid of things they do not understand.
In the metaphysical store I work in I admit I dress trendy and professional but I chat with all the punks and goths, in fact I talk to whom ever comes in.. People are people, the one goth boy loves animals and is a vegetarian.. you can't judge a book by its cover.
You could try and tone it down and not share you with your grandparents who you are. You could also try talking to them and explain that you are growing up and this phase is part of part of your life and next year for all you know it might be pastel pinks or beat-nick poetry readings, you are just trying to figure out who you are.
Growing up is hard especially if you don't fit the mold. Old people are much more close minded then young ones... remember what their generation was....
As I look back now to high school I more admire the Goth and Punk kids I use to think were "weird" in high school. At least they had some sort of individual expression, at least they were not afraid to stand out. I always tried to blend...
2006-07-23 15:57:13 · answer #2 · answered by Twigglet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As others provide you with support and infromation, I offer this added piece: If you are under 18, living in someone else's home and either your behavior or fashion statement is going to be a deciding factor in whether you (and mother) will have to move, then (especially since mother's fate is also in your hands) maybe it wouldn't be an unreasonable sacrifice on your part to conform to enough of the house-standards, to make to your 18th birthday, and then you can leave and do whatever you please, taking complete responsibility for only yourself, and not being instrumental in taking your mother down too. You may argue that you are an individual and have a right to be the person you are. This argument works well for your grandparents too, and they happen to own the house. So it's a choice you have to make. Your independance does not trump their rights.
2006-07-23 15:48:42 · answer #3 · answered by nothing 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's perfectly okay to have different interests and be who you want to be. However, if you are depressed for a long period of time, you should tell your doctor. Talking to a counselor may help you not be depressed.
Your grandparents just do not understand. This is a common problem with people from different generations. I don't know what you can do about that, but just try and talk to them about how it makes you feel when they critisize you so much.
2006-07-23 15:45:41 · answer #4 · answered by Becca 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Grandparents will NEVER understand their grandchildren's generation...this is something you will have in common with almost all people your age.
If you are depressed, your family should be sending you to see a therapist or a counselor. Depression is a serious condition that may require medication.
As for your personal style and your religious beliefs...if this is who you are, you shouldn't care what others think.
2006-07-23 15:49:03 · answer #5 · answered by seattlecutiepie 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Newsflash: Vampires suck blood and kill people. It's not a healthy form of expression. Wiccans are generally messed up, too. Despite, all their rantings about light and good intentions.
You should be glad that your grandparents make fun of you. It means they are trying to connect. You baffle them and they have no frame of reference from which to understand your behavior (dress, attitudes, actions). Meet them halfway, if you can.
I assume that if you and your mom are living with your grandparents it's becasue you have no place to go. That kinda makes your mom a failure and indicates that you may have had a troubled life. Most Goth-type people suffer from insecurity (both physical and emotional) and other social disorders.
Test yourself: Stop wearing goth clothing for a short periods of time. I think they are a crutch for you.
2006-07-23 15:58:20 · answer #6 · answered by limendoz 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems you have a bad case of teenagitis. The only known cure is twenties-serum, but it usually leads to confusinitis. An alternative therapy is to pursue NON-DEPRESSING hobbies and interest, and just try to dress a bit more normal when grandma/grandpa is around, they WILL appreciate your effort to please them.
2006-07-23 15:49:04 · answer #7 · answered by lavendergirl 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
oookaay psychopath (just playing) forget vapirism and get in to psi (it is worth a try) it have nothing to do with religion.
2006-07-23 15:46:37 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋