my friend is a virgin, and hes gay but that doesnt matter. hes really super cute so its not that he cant get any its just that he chooses not to for some reason. you think he might be scared? hes too chicken to ask this question but he thinks being a virgin @ 19 is bad. what do you guys think?
2006-07-23 15:29:02 · 16 answers · asked by Reagan 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Cultures & Groups ➔ Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, and Transgender
i understand and agree with all of you. i try to tell him that too but he says that his other friends ridicule him for being a virgin. i dont know what to say to him that i already havent.
2006-07-23 15:44:30 · update #1
For your friend to be a virgin at 19 deserves a medal. This means he has decided to choose, in his own good time, the time and place to lose his virginity and hasn't buckled in to other people's whims and desires. I applaud him greatly. Yes, he will be teased. any one who strays from the "norm" will get teased. If he has the balls (forgive me...) to continue his wait, that will just make him a stronger person. Perhaps he's waiting for the "right" person. Maybe he *is* scared. whatever his reasons (and I don't doubt he's cute...) he's the only one who can decide when his time has come. Take it from Mom...a virgin at 19 isn't NOT bad. It's wonderful. He just has to realize how special he actually is.
2006-07-23 15:50:04 · answer #1 · answered by Mama Otter 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ha, you're never 'too old' to be a virgin. I completely get what your friend is talking about. He probably wants to wait until he knows it's about love, instead of a lot of idiot gay guys who just have sex for fun. That's not the life for everyone. Wish there were more guys like your friend out there.
2006-07-24 15:14:16 · answer #2 · answered by Ando 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with being a virgin. Im 22 and proud to be a virgin!! I chose not too because I want to wait until im married thats my choice. So its okay if hes 30 and a virgin. Dont be ashamed be proud.
2006-07-24 01:03:12 · answer #3 · answered by boyfriendlessMegin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude you are living in the Bush-Clinton-Bush era and virginity is prized above any rational thought. GAYS as well as straight people are strongly encouraged not to give up their virginity until they meet that one person who will be their mate forever. Haven't you heard Leno cursing actresses for dating, calling them whores for a cheap laugh, haven't you watched episodes of Law & Order and CSI where they hammer down the point that any sex outside of monagamy is evil & wrong? Your friend is a product of the times. Most Evangelican Christians can semi cope with virgin Gay people, it is when they start to have sex that they break that sacred covenent - - that is why many Christians tolerate loud freakish types assuming that no one would ever want to have sex with them. Peace.
2006-07-24 06:33:42 · answer #4 · answered by JVHawai'i 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Redcat and Riverotter and pretty much everybody else has got it right, being a virgin is a good thing until you are ready to have sex. Age doesn't matter. If you are waiting, for whatever reason, then wait until you feel it's the right time and with the right person.
2006-07-23 23:36:15 · answer #5 · answered by MindStorm 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can never be to old as a virgin. Being a virgin is a person choice, so if somebody wants to keep it (even at 60 years old) there is nothing wrong with it.
More power to you.
2006-07-23 23:27:00 · answer #6 · answered by sweetfeet 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That is a very individual question. There is no correct answer. You should be old enough to make an informed choice when you lose your virginity, and after that, you won't do it until you are ready. There is no perfect age.
2006-07-23 22:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by michael941260 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin til 21 and i am not exactly chump change. Uhm... apparently being a 40yo virgin is endearing in this culture. It's all in context really. 19 is definately not 'too old.'
2006-07-23 22:34:12 · answer #8 · answered by Todd C 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I was a virgin until age 29 - it is all a matter of ones personal beliefs and feels. When he is ready to have sex - he will. Personally I commend the guy for sticking to his convictions.
2006-07-25 00:25:57 · answer #9 · answered by rp_iowa 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
no age is too old. there is nothing wrong with being a virgin until you are ready. good for your friend! hopefully when he is ready it will be the right time and he will be safe and responsible.
i know guys gay and straight who waited longer. and so did I !
2006-07-23 22:53:26 · answer #10 · answered by redcatt63 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋