How could a teenager "responsibly" get across reasons to live with one parent without bashing the other?

Question

This isn't in a state where you can decide at a certain age, but how to convince the court? The would-be non-residential parent always thought of the other as being irresponsible, but that isn't true. Any advice????

Answer 1

sit down with both parents tell them how you feel,
let them no witch ever parent you decide you love both of them the same and you dont feel any different from the other,
its a hard choice to make and its not far, but it happens
good luck in what ever you decide

Answer 2

It's not about non-bashing. No matter what the teen says, it's going to be taken badly. It's going to be taken as bashing, and as "ideas" that were put into the teen's head.

The only thing the teen can do is to sit down and make a list of the reasons why they feel they would benefit from living with the one parent rather than the other. Better academics, better social interaction, less fights between parental figures, etc etc etc. The teen could also take that list--before having to go to court--and sit down with the parent that they are currently living with and explain WHY they want to live with the other parent. If the current residential parent respects the teen presents their side respectfully, there is no reason why it can't be resolved out of court.

You may also want to try mediation.

In any state the child should be able to chose who they live with at a certain age. Unless one parent or the other is deemed unfit, of course.

Answer 3

The only way the action can even take place in a court is if the non-custodial parent petitions the court for a change of placement. Depending on the situations in each home, and the views of the guardian the court chooses to represent the child, the judge will award custody to the parent most capable of taking care of the child.
The guardian is the lawyer the court orders to represent the best interest of the child. That lawyers decision on who is best will be the most compelling to a judge. Most times, the judge will aware custody to the parent that the guardian says is the most capable.
Most lawyers and judges take the child's feelings into consideration.
A custody battle is extremely expensive and emotionally upsetting to all parties involved. Only those that are really serious about getting custody of their children for the right reason should take that step.

Answer 4

All you need to do is love both your parents. When one starts bashing the other just simply tell them that you are not interested on how they feel about the other, the only thing you are interested in is loving them both. Ask them to leave their opinions to themselves and not to speak anything negative about eachother in front of you, because you will not have it. Work on them, forget what the courts think. Start voicing your opinion to your parents in a loving way. Try not to lose your temper.