More honest? Less of a worrier? How?

Question

With time, I've always grown to become a very naive person. I've allowed people to walk all over me, take advantage of me...that is according to ones who know me best. They've made me realize that sometimes I am allowed to step up and say what it is I have to say even if it might hurt them. Thing is, I can't be the most direct person. Sometimes if something is wrong I can't say it. I just act like it's okay. Now, I need tips on learning how to speak up for my own sake. Any advice? Second thing is, whenever I go out with people and I know people will be drinking, I always get the feeling that I have to play babysitter. I just feel like its my responsibility to watch over them so they dont get hurt. My friend has warned me that I should stop and not worry, have fun and let loose, because at some point in my life, he knows I will regret it. He doesn't want me to make the same mistakes he does..I know he's right though. How can I learn to stop worrying and feel like I have to babysitt?

Answer 1

Well I feel you on the whole drinking thing!! I feel the same way with my friends - but sometimes there is a REASON, and a valid one, why we feel that way. If I don't volunteer to be the sober driver, the person who is the sober driver, will just end up getting drunk anyway. If I'm not responsible, no one will be. Sometimes that is just the way it is. That's why I only go out drinking now when we can all taxi it back to our places.

As for the naive thing - if you wish to stop being naive, I'm sure you will eventually. Just remember, the more you let people walk all over you, the less respect they have for you - because they know you won't think for yourself, and are too much of pus*y to engage in any conversation that involves confrontation. Don't be afraid to tell people what you want and don't want. Stand up for yourself! If you don't, who will?

Answer 2

Try going out with people who can take care of themselves, and yes, I know that's easier said than done.