My girlfriend found a job in Georgia, but we live in New Jersey. She's really excited and I am happy for her,but I am not ready to leave. I have a good job and in the city of New Jersey theres a ring that i want to purchase to propose to her. I don't want her to think that I am selfish i just need more time.
WHAT TO DO!!!!! PLEASE HELP!!!!
2006-07-23 14:58:46 · 24 answers · asked by jay c 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Hold off on the ring until she gets settled in Georgia. Give her some time, and see how it goes for her there. She might not be satisfied, and move back to NJ. If you propse to her before she leaves,it will put a strain on both of you while she's gone, and neither one of you need that. I would definitely wait! Good Luck!!
2006-07-23 15:02:28 · answer #1 · answered by olderbutwiser 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow!!!
you and your girlfriend have a lot to talk about.. if you love her the way you say you do then you won't hold her back from better herself career wise.. if you don't want to leave New Jersey yet than i think that you should hold off on buying her that ring..
tell her you are happy for her but Georgia is just not a place for you career wise right now... try a long distance relationship... if ya'll love is true than it will work... Good Luck!!!
2006-07-23 22:04:27 · answer #2 · answered by DeeDee 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well umm oooo this is really sweet. If she doesn't know that you want to propose to her. Have her go to the job and then you get the money to buy the ring. Then surprise her by showing up at her work and then propose to her there. Maybe even ask her boss if she coudl work at home back in New Jersey. That would be really sweet. You might want to try and ask her boss first and try to arrange some stuff out before proposing
You can try that. It will probably work
2006-07-23 22:03:43 · answer #3 · answered by Goalie Gurl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you love her then you will love her where ever she is. Besides Georgia is great the properties are way better than here in jersey. The taxes are ridiculous, besides if it were you would you not expect her to support you? If the love is strong and real, then you should have no doubt about what to do. Move to Georgia. What's keeping you here in Jersey? If you do make that move, you will see there is nothing here.
2006-07-23 22:04:46 · answer #4 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Buy the ring, propose and let her go. See if there are any opportunities in Georgia for you. If you have love for one another, you'll work it out. They say that distance makes the heart fonder.
I wish you well. I had a long distance relationship. I married her. She lived in another country. True love will make a way.
2006-07-23 22:02:06 · answer #5 · answered by Wise ol' owl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You cannot hold her back!!! Talk to her about the way you feel. You dont have to get into the fact you want to propose to her, this may scare her away. Feel her out. And if its true love and this is the person you are to be with the rest of your life, everything will work out. Everything happens for a reason..
2006-07-23 22:03:58 · answer #6 · answered by mharris90 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sometimes you don't get more time. Life is like that. You seize the moment! If you can't, you will lose the girl. Can't blame her. She wants a commitment if she has to give up her job in Georgia to stay with you. If you love her, give her the ring. If you aren't ready (i.e. don't love her and don't mind losing her), let her go.
2006-07-23 22:03:35 · answer #7 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dude, why do you want to propose to her ?
When you know, she is choosing to work in another state,
And you are not ready to leave ?
This may be a heartbreak comin on....
Or, one of you may decide to sacrifice. Making Sacrafices
is a must in all relationships. If there is to be a commited
relationship, one of you will eventually have to give in.
2006-07-23 23:35:24 · answer #8 · answered by CraZyCaT 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
George to jersey is not that far away,is her new job going to be better then your,if so let her go you find work there,is you job one that you can move up the ladder or is her job one,remember you not looking to lose her,when you get older you will so that
2006-07-23 22:06:14 · answer #9 · answered by tay3r 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have to just follow your heart dude. i wouldnt trust a bunch of strangers online to make the decision for you. you need to just think long and hard about it and the pros and cons of it. it is only then you can make a decision.but i would say if you arent ready to leave then dont, but relize what you might be throwing away. i would talke to her about it and how you feel. and propose to her. if she truly loves you and you truly love her you two will find a way to be together. good luck :D
2006-07-23 22:03:39 · answer #10 · answered by bigbob33 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋