Lately my live-in bf has been acting so different. He just does not seem that in to me at all. He is a very passionate person and very romantic usually. Lately he has just been shut off and distant. I am scared he is losing interest or that our love is fading. I have even wondered if maybe he has found someone else or has some type of regrets. I ask him what is wrong and he says nothing. It comes in spurts too. One minute he is all over me and happy and acts like he can't live without me and the next he is like so what if you are here! I am worried that I have done something wrong or made him upset with me. We are usually very open and tell each other how we feel, so it is hard to believe he would be keeping something from me. I just don't know what else to do. I don't want to keep asking him everyday what is wrong, but something is off somehow. Help!!! Do guys go through something similar to PMS?
2006-07-23 14:53:46 · 15 answers · asked by uwishuwereme76 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I don't really think he is cheating on me...I think that maybe the intense passionate person that he has been was not who he really is and it has become to much to keep it up anymore...we have not been together that long so I don;t think the honeymoon phase is over...but who knows?
2006-07-23 15:18:05 · update #1
I don't really think he is cheating on me...I think that maybe the intense passionate person that he has been was not who he really is and it has become to much to keep it up anymore...we have not been together that long so I don;t think the honeymoon phase is over...but who knows?
2006-07-23 15:21:05 · update #2
communication is the key. my bf, fiance for 5 years is like that. he is hot one minute and cold the next. he is not cheating nor is he uninterested. he is just comfortable with me. I know this because I do the same thing. give him some space, go out with the girls for shopping or coffee. you don't need him for everything in your life. the occasional me time will help the relationship and you will appreciate the time you have together even more when you see him.
If you think he is cheating on you, then you have a few options. Tail him and see if he is or just ask him. Do you have any reason to suspect??? if you are just being paranoid because he is hot and then cold, try the above first. Trust and communication is the key to a lasting relationship.
2006-07-23 15:02:18 · answer #1 · answered by YahooGirl 2 · 6⤊ 1⤋
Guys can go through mood swings in case you're wondering. The question that kept popping into my mind on this one is "How long have you guys been together?" Maybe you are now starting to get past the honeymoon period, where everything was roses. Could be your boyfriend may be suffering from a type of depression also. Maybe he's suffering from a sense of insecurity? Try to let him know that nothing has changed for you and that you are still very much in love. Keep trying to encourage him to talk (without pushing it), and hopefully you'll break through his wall. Best of luck, and I hope things work themselves out!
2006-07-23 15:01:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Paitence should be used to take you a long way.There may be some other issues he has going on, and he probably just needs time to work on them hisself. If the feeling is still there, ask him honestly is there something you did. It's best to get things out in the open as soon as possible instead of dragging them out for more hurt feelings. Don't persistently ask questions though, because-trust me- you'll be called a nag.
2006-07-23 14:58:26 · answer #3 · answered by G D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
instead of just asking him whats wrong, u really need to take some time to just sit and talk to him about it, tell him YOUR feelings. tell him things like "i have the feeling like your in love with me sometimes, then your out of love with me" tell him your true feelings, i mean u two already tell each other everything, so wont have any problem. and dont worry so much if he still loves u or not, worry is all part of a relationship ,i worry sometimes 2. so be strong, youll get through this. and if u need 2 talk to your mom or one of your best friends for better advice since they know u better.
2006-07-23 15:01:05 · answer #4 · answered by sarah_gotdance 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
be careful, i've experience the same thing and it was because i was becoming un interested in my ex girl. He might be going through the same. No one is perfect. Give him a lil space but still show him you love him. We don't have PMS but yeah, i bet its close to that. The love looses intensity.
2006-07-23 14:57:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
nah i dont think so. maybe you are just need a little room for adjustment....its not all the time that you will experience a smooth relatioship with him...thats normal but if u think something's fishy around...well...you have to discover it for urself ;) but i think just try to reach out to some people and give him space as well to mingle with his old friends
2006-07-23 16:10:58 · answer #6 · answered by mudbloodprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he is living in your space you need to tell him to go get his own place until he can look you in the eye and tel you no lies. Cause of you feel like somethings of then it usually is.
2006-07-23 14:59:05 · answer #7 · answered by Precious1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him that you are going to become a tall chicken and lay some eggs for him for breakfast and that will cure his illness.
Cluck Cluck !!!! The tall chicken bandit strikes again !!!!!!!!!
2006-07-23 14:58:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my husband is the same way, he says its cause he needs something new in the relation ship. try spicing up the relationship, do something you 2 dont normaly do. or maybe he is cheating on you
2006-07-23 14:57:23 · answer #9 · answered by cowgirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like he's bipolar or something...he needs help, professional help. Encourage him to find a professional, licensed counselor.......someone to help him get things figured out.
2006-07-23 14:57:06 · answer #10 · answered by honey_bear_21_1999 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋