also what is a good dating age for teens?? I don't mean actually going out on a date..just seeing eachother during school and holding hands/hugging???
2006-07-23 14:50:52 · 36 answers · asked by Caitlyn B 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Adolescent
Yea i think we should have bedtimes because if i didn't i would stay up until 3 in the morning. I'm 14 and when i was in 8th grade i went to bed between 10 and 11.
I think a good dating ago for teens is 16 because your mature and considered more of an adult. And if you only see each other during school and holding hands and hugging really isn't having a boyfriend or dating. I hug my guy friends all the time and sometimes even hold their hands but we are just friends. I think you should stay friends with guys until your a little older and have more privileges to go out places with him.
2006-07-23 18:14:28 · answer #1 · answered by Bella Stephanie 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bedtime - Maybe not a specified bedtime like "GO TO SLEEP 8 PM SHARP!" but somewhere where you're not going to sleep at 3 in the morning! It's not cool and it's very unhealthy. Effects your growth and makes you veryyyyyyyyy tired in the morning. Trust me, I've slept as late as 7 AM on a school night (waking up 30 minutes later) and it is NOT FUN! I fell asleep all during school (I was up doing a project). I usually stay up 2-3 AM every night because I procrastinate on homework (I'm 15 now, going to be a sophomore) and I was always dead tired in the morning. I always wish I could go back in time and sleep before 11 PM so I could have a full night's rest. I regret it.
Dating Age - I'd say the most mature age to be able to handle a relationship is starting 15 or 16. Age 13 is still vulnerable, not making the best decisions (not everyone, some are more mature than others, some make better decisions than others). Hugging.. you can hug your friends, right? Nothing wrong with hugging a boy then I think if it's just a simple hug. As for actual dating, I'd say atleast 16, where you do the whole restaurant thing. I find movies a bad date place. I've never been on an actual date personally, but these are fairly good opinions I believe. Don't rush into things! Don't think "wow, he's hot, I want to date him!" Shouldn't fall for a guy immediately just for his looks. Personality is everything you go for.
2006-07-23 17:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, a 13 yr old should have a bedtime. Why? Because they are still not mature enough to make the wise decision to get enough sleep! My 12 yr old's bedtime is 9pm with 1/2 hour in his room to read until 9:30. This will probably continue until high school.
Dating as friends is fine in Middle School---however, In our home there will be no one-on-one dating until the age of 16. You need to think about what the purpose of dating really is.....to ready yourself for life time committments. People younger than 16 are not in a position to accept the responsibilities that come along with dating.
2006-07-23 14:55:06 · answer #3 · answered by Michelle A 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 13 year old is beginning to enter a period of transition from a child to an adult. Your brain is beginning to branch out and ask questions and why nots. Let me put this as mildly as I can.
When you are 13, the body begins, or in some cases continues, to move toward adulthood. Flowers start as a seed, so do we, they first grow up to a reasonable height and then buds form. But the flower is not yet mature, no flower, just a stalk and a bud.
From 13 to adulthood, the bud becomes a flower. These changes in growth and hormones are difficult, our feelings and thoughts change from that of a child to an adult. But because of the growth pattern it requires more energy, more development and for that reason rest is necessary. It's like watering the flower, without it the flower wilts.
At 13 years old, on a normal school day, it is my opinion that 9:00 PM is a "Healthy" time to retire. Your resting on a regular basis at least 8 hours every night will help you maturing process go easier for you. Your mind will be able to comprehend the new things you are learning. Your body will be able to deal with the new demands put upon it for maturing and growing. It will help to stave off depression, and although it ain't cool, it is a route to a happier life.
Everyone has choices and of course this is one. If you choose it, there will be excellent benefits for you as a result.
Dating in our home was reserved for when one is of a marriageable age. Old hat today, but that's the way it was, and is.
If you aren't in a position to take on a marriage arrangement with home family and the responsibilities they require, boy or girl should not consider dating. It isn't a game, or recreation. It is serious business and should be regarded as such. More than 50% of marriages fail, there has to be a reason and I see two clearly, 1) lack of respect for yourself, and 2) lack of commitment to an ideal. Marriage is not a party, it is a pledge, a commitment, a promise. It's a lot of hard work. If you don't have self respect, how can you keep an important commitment like marriage.
You young women watch how a boy treats his mother, and you young men watch how a girl treats her father. That is your future and you won't change it, not one bit.
Dating is reserved for mature adults with honorable intentions.
Grandpa
Pete
2006-07-23 15:26:21 · answer #4 · answered by mulestreet 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A 13 yr. old should definitely have a school bedtime. That is one reason that God invented parents! You need to get a good night's sleep so you can function well in school and make those good grades. I would have you in bed by 9:00 pm every night and no later! Teens need even more sleep than other people as they are still growing. As for dating, I think that depends on how mature and responsible you are as a person. However, 13 is way too young in my book. You have the rest of your life to get hooked up with boys, why not do other fun stuff for the meantime. I went to college, got my degree and then went overseas to teach. I traveled all over teaching English and got to see a lot of things. Think BIG things for yourself and don't get so caught up in boys at your age.
2006-07-23 14:57:56 · answer #5 · answered by chynna30_2000 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a 13 year old SHOULD have a bedtime.. especially on SCHOOL Nights. Why? Because at 13, you don't have the smarts to determine that for yourself.
Dating age for teens? It depends on the maturity. A Mature 16 year old should be FINE.. whereas an imature 19 year old may not.
Oh wait... are asking about DATING but not going out on a date?
You better wait until 21.
2006-07-23 14:55:06 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A good bedtime would be 10 15 There is nothing wrong with your 13 year old dating
2006-07-23 15:05:48 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A kid tht age needs sleep. Sleep is very underestimated. I dont think that a 13 year old should have a strict bedtime (ex. 8 or 9 exactly) but somewhere in tht area and no later then 10 or 11. I think seeing each other during school is very innocent. Just remember, the more you pull your kids away the more they will resist. Give them room to grow and be themselves.
2006-07-23 14:54:39 · answer #8 · answered by J. P 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think so because I never had a curfew even as a child. I've always been mature enough to wake myself up. Also its not called dating when teens just see each other at school and call each other boyfrined and girlfrined, that's a kid thing because it isn't serious its just a bunch of preteens expolring the oppisite sex and that starts in like pre-k so there really is no age for it. But it should stop after highchool because then it gets lame and thats when you actually start 'dating'.
2006-07-23 15:02:28 · answer #9 · answered by alphabuenaunis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes a 13 year old should have a bedtime. It should be before 10pm. Kids need structure. Dating should be left up to parent(s) and how mature the child is. In my opinion, there is no specific age that a child should or should not be dating.
2006-07-23 14:59:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋