2006-07-23 14:40:06 · 18 answers · asked by djskillit 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It is different for everyone. To be completely honest, when I first met my fiancee, I didn't like him. I thought he was antisocial, and that is probably what ended up getting us together. I strove for his attention because he wouldn't give it to me. After about six months, I knew I wanted to spend the rest of my life with him. We have a beautiful baby girl now, and are getting married next fall. Every so often, there is something he says or does, that will remind me exactly why he is the perfect match, the perfect compliment for my personality. There is no set standard on how to decide if he/she is the one. That is something you will have to search for within your heart and soul.
2006-07-23 15:15:37 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to make sure that you are happy with yourself. That way you know you are not trying to fill the wrong void. Make sure you are on the same page (parenting, careers, values, likes, dislikes, religion). You are marrying that person not someone you hope they will be. Make sure you are ready for the rest of your life to be with this person. They may get really depressed and do stupid things you are going to have to work through. Marriage is a commitment to be taken seriously not a stepping stone to divorce. Think long and hard.
2006-07-23 14:49:56 · answer #2 · answered by jagaja131 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your heart is under your sternum and slightly to the left.
Who to marry? That's a bit too vague for me. It needs details.
How long have you been seeing this person? Do you share the same goals in life? Are you over the age of 22?
Sorry, wish I could help.
2006-07-23 14:46:53 · answer #3 · answered by pezdispenserwisdom 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is not something anyone on here can tell you. It is something that you will just know when it happens. No way to look for it because attraction is not a choice. When you meet that someone and no matter how long you are with them you only feel better and better about them then you will know.
2006-07-23 15:14:33 · answer #4 · answered by John B 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marry someone practical and who is agreeable to signing a pre-nuptial agreement. if she is willing to talk about all the unpleasant things that may happen and sign her name on the dotted line......then she will be willing to deal with issues that come up in the marriage as well and you dont have to worry about getting screwed over later.
2006-07-23 14:53:11 · answer #5 · answered by realgirl768553 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't tell you what love is like when you're young. I think alot people mistake "lust" for "love" when they're young.
I can tell you that "love" when you're older...makes you like who you are MORE with that person than you do with just yourself. They bring a clarity to what makes you a good person, that you sometimes aren't able to see as clearly without them in your life.
Your heart still beats faster when you see them, but it beats steadier and with a purpose. You can look at them and see yourself still loving them when they're old and wrinkly and sick. And you can see them still loving you...when you're in the same condition.
Love has less to do with sex then it has to do with a knowledge that this person brings a warm, secure, comfortable place to your life...that you didn't even realize you were looking for.
2006-07-23 14:50:34 · answer #6 · answered by Kaia 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it wasnt meant to be , you will know. i was just about to get marreid and something told me to wait, dont do it. i didnt and man was i glad i listened to myself.he turned out to be a loser,deadbeat dad,jail bird,con artist. if i would have married this guy i wouldnt have seen it until it was too late. i would have been right next too him in jail.im glad i listened to my inner self and didnt marry him. i think when the time comes if you hear yourslef saying not now, dont do it. then dont get marreid, if you have alot of people telling not to do it, find out why they dont want you to marry this person. if she or he doesnt get along with your family, then thats something to look at. if you are hearing things,find out if they are true and follow this person to prove to your self and your family that the things people are saying is not true, if you think she will not be a good mom, then she isnt the one. if you have doubts, put it off untiul you are ready. good luck.
2006-07-23 15:21:30 · answer #7 · answered by Christina 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well when you find the right person, you just know. But don't ever settle just so you can get married. Otherwise you will be very unhappy.
2006-07-23 15:15:07 · answer #8 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When everything that's negative doesn't seem to matter, when you feel you will give your life for that person, and you can't think about ANYONE else but that person, that is where your heart is.
2006-07-23 14:54:12 · answer #9 · answered by G D 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When you find that special someone you will just know. Simple as that you just will. Obviously you haven't met this person yet or you wouldn't be asking.
2006-07-23 14:53:32 · answer #10 · answered by babygirl_k2001 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋