I feel like I won't ever be able to trust him again.Even though I don't have proof that he went al the way with another girl I do know he was lying to me about talking with her and that says to me that he had something to hide.But I am in a tight spot,because I am pregnant with his baby and I am not working right now...What should I do in order to save myself the heartbreak...
2006-07-23 14:28:39 · 23 answers · asked by Yourbestbet 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I am pregnant 6months
2006-07-23 14:29:15 · update #1
Do you think he would care if I left him?
2006-07-23 14:30:27 · update #2
Trust is something that is vital to a marriage and if you feel you can't trust him then honey you will always feel that way and even more later on. No one can tell you what to do about leaving him. Use your gut feeling as to what you should do. Don't let being in a tight spot keep you with someone.
2006-07-23 14:34:57 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 8⤊ 1⤋
Yeah he is going to care if you leave him...who doesn't care if someone leaves them. Even if the person getting left has no emotions at all, their ego is hurt if they are left. Weather you are pregnant or not, you are going to have problems if you stay with him. If you want to give him the benefit of the doubt he may not have meant anything by talking to another girl but in my experiences if they are hiding something from you either they have something to hide or they don't trust you enough to tell you the truth. Don't settle and certainly don't stay with him because you are pregnant. There must be someone who can help you out in this situation who won't hurt you. If he won't ever get your trust again then staying with him would be a huge waste of your and his time and it is not fair to the little one in your stomach who had no say in the whole situation. Think about what is best for your child. He/she is the most important thing right now and you need to focus on them.
2006-07-23 21:45:12 · answer #2 · answered by pharm 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i don't think you should leave him just yet. you really need to sit down and talk to him on how you feel and what you are thinking, and i know you have already asked him about this girl even if he is lying to you about this girl. you need to tell him what this has done to you and see what he has to say.and if you don't like what you are hearing from him why he needed to talk to this girl and that.then make what you think you should do. but dear don't be scared because you are pregnant to be on your own, you won't you will have a buddle of joy and there is help out so you can surport you and your baby. you won't go through the heartbreak if you think you can do this with or without him and you will have a baby that is going to love you no matter what. you will get all the love you need from that little one. but first talk to him and tell him what you think without being scared too. at less you will know way you stand by the answer you will hear and if you think that he's telling you the truth.but when you tell a guy that you don't need him like he thinks you do, he will change if way of thinking too, especially when he knows that you are telling him you can do this without him.if says he can't give all of himself to you, then make what you what for you and your baby.love only works if there is trust on both sides.and if you do decided to leave who knows he may realize his mistake and come back the only way you want him back.plus not matter what he will still have to pay you to bring up you baby. the courts will see to that.there is alot of help out there if you are worried about money. good luck and i hope i help you alittle. all the best to you.
2006-07-23 23:09:11 · answer #3 · answered by Linda M 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My ex husband cheated on me. I thought I could forgive and forget, but when he was even a second late to come home my heart started to beat faster and I started to worry is he with someone else? Will he call me and tell me he is working late? I gave up after six months and wanted out.
I am not sure you should give up so fast if you are about to have a baby. Maybe the baby will make you closer and make him understand what is important in his life now. He might change and you might be able to trust again. Children change people and you might get lucky if it changes him.
Good Luck!
2006-07-23 22:02:48 · answer #4 · answered by kat_burk76 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To many people take the easy way out.Confront him,tell him your view of things and try to work on your relationship.You should commit to each other in marriage if both of you are serious about making your relationship more positive and family oriented.So many people walk away before even trying to work things through,it is sad and an easy way out.Sit and have a serious conversation about where you both want to go with your lives.Try not to scream at each other and try to look at it from both side.Marriage is not all about the good times it also has its down times.It is up to you guys to make it work.Be yourselves and not everyone else in the world,and pray to God for the answer's to help you see it more clearly.God Bless
2006-07-23 21:45:46 · answer #5 · answered by Pisces 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woman, you are pregnant with his child! Your life is about to change - big time. Get a sample of his DNA for proof of paternity in future child support. Don't speculate about him cheating, if he is you'll find out soon enough, if he is not - you may force him out. Get married to him before your child is born, even if you divorce or annul the next day. A Las Yegas quickie is good. You won't regret the birth of your child then. This should teach to you to protect yourself in the future since you'll be the biggest looser in this if you don't watch out.
2006-07-23 21:47:10 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't trust him, it will only get worse once you have a baby. Leave him and do something better for yourself. Being a single parent can be so hard, but living unhappily for the rest of your life with a man who doesn't even tell you the truth is harder.
2006-07-23 22:19:17 · answer #7 · answered by Courtney T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You and he need to have a serious discussion and get an understanding. You need to let him know how you feel and if he's cheating on you, you can't say for sure that he will ever stop. You have to consider what is best for your baby. Life may be rough for you, but it will reflect in your child, the decisions you make.
2006-07-23 21:34:19 · answer #8 · answered by thewildeman2 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You both need to sit down and talk not yell and straighten things out. He diserves to be listen because you did not catch him in the act with another they were just talking. Maybe he needs you more and don't know how to tell you and if this is his first time I am sure you are not just going to give him away. For the sake of your relationship and your baby talk things out , and may GOD BLESS your union.
2006-07-23 21:37:11 · answer #9 · answered by pumpkin82 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
XXXXXXXXXXXX when you pick a rotten apple even if it's a little bit rotten it will never get ripe again. Hopefully he will do the right thing and support you and the baby. If not, we'll take care of that through Social Services. (rent, food stamps, formula, etc. ) Do the right thing hun, you're not just living for yourself now. You and baby makes two.XXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXXX
2006-07-23 21:33:22 · answer #10 · answered by asoldierswife 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋