how do u tell if he really loves u if thats all u hear from guys?

Question

my boyfriend keeps telling me that he loves me and i dont know if he means it or if he has altier movites. how do u tell if he means it?

Answer 1

I go by actions because actions speak louder than words. anybody can say they love you, but if they are treating you like the princess that you are, they are not worth your time. love should not hurt , love should make you feel like you are on top of the world, or it is just not real. do not except anything less, don't settle.

Answer 2

If you don't love him, then he probably doesn't love you.
Keep in mind that your decision about satisfying his "altier movites" should not be resolved by guessing whether he loves you.
Seperate the two issues, so you can see them clearly.
In my experience, when someone loves you; you can feel it: There is no doubt.

Answer 3

That's a tough question, because the answer is in your own degree of sensitivity and knowledge.

Here's someting from what I have written previously:
[Knowing Love itself is self knowledge that rises above that which was. What was you is now past you, different. But if love is not differentiated in abstraction, then what guide is there for knowing the love from another. It is not enough that you love, but to know what it is as certainly as knowing all other constituents of human essence: psychology.

'Here in summary form: Legend of symbols: '+' = 'a joining', 'a physical contact', 'will to communicate', generally positive, not negating but positing, positioning, proposing...

'-' = a negation, taking a part, destruction, removal, exclusion, ....

Love without specifying relationship nor act specification: + + + +

Sexual activity: - + + + (the reason for the minus "-" is the breaking down for resistence in the form anxiety (drugs, alcohol, ideology), loveless sex has this uncertainty whereas love filled sexual activity has no such uncertainty or resistence)

Sadism: - - + + (this form of aggression has a psychological component that may described spiritual, superstitious, ideological. One + is for this 'spiritual component' and the other + the will or urge to get at the victim. Dishonesty is percieved as a plus, as is self disception, dellusion, insanity)

Aggression in the form hostility, anger: - - - + (the pure will to destroy, uncluttered with ideology, higher ideal, the unreality of superstition or supernaturality, no abstraction is possible, it is negated)

defense: - - - - (the will to escape danger, there is no component for contact, the negation desired is total and instantaneous, immediate, to flee, to avert the senses from the threat, ...)]

So, how well do you know this person. Does he justify violence or punishment in other ways than defense. Even so, ..... With what does he measure and compare himself and you. What is your understanding for love and what is his.

Answer 4

Invest in a good dictionary, used it to find words that you're not sure of, now, back to your answer, only time will tell, sometimes six months, sometimes three years, you may think you know a person pretty well, you'll be surprised at what you don't know about them.

Answer 5

Your not even 16 years old yet. You have plenty of time to discover what real love is. Love is not some teenage crush or puppy love.....love is a choice and a commitment.

Answer 6

you tell by his ACTIONS. words are easy to say, but going out of your way for someone is harder. And if by "ulterior motives" you mean does he want sex?? then yes, all boys want that.

P.S. I didnt know you were 16 years old... in that case, if he really loves you , he will be OK with you saying you want to wait to have sex.

Answer 7

squeeze his testicles next time he says, "I love you."
If you feel him clenching, then he is not being honest. If he smiles genuinely though, you know that he truly is professing his love for you.