My boyfriend and I have been together for four years. Im now seven months pregnant and he has been acting a little weird. I dont know if it is because of my mood swings im having or what. Lately when he leaves my house to go home he was been looking really sad. My mama has been putting him down and stressing me and him out really bad about our situation. She mainly just says things towards him but the things she says effect me too. Im a teen mom and im really scared as stressed about everything. What should i do? (P.S if you are going to reply with smart comments, dont say anything at all)
2006-07-23 14:23:15 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Children counseling children, how sad. You became pregnant. He is the father. He goes home. You live with your mother. Neither one of you is self supporting. So now you expect your mom to support you? Did you think being young would protect you from becoming pregnant? If you were adult enough to engage in a sexual relationship, you should have been adult enough to realize the consequences. You should have been adult enough to have used contraceptives. Obviously you weren't.
And now you expect your mom to be nicey nice about it? Both of you need a good dose of reality. Both of you need to become adults and support yourselves. Once you become parents you may get an idea of what your folks went through. You should be stressed! You have a long road ahead of you, raising a child. Or do you plan on having your mother raise the baby?
Don't say anything at all? You DON"T want help, you want everyone to get down on your mom because she's upset because neither one of you will take responsibility. And letting both of you know it.
I think she has done marvelously well by not kicking you out of the house. She has to put up with you being a teen and now she has to put up with your catterwalling and mood swings, too? I think she is a saint for not wringing his neck, or yours.
I think you should thank your lucky stars you have a home, clothes on your back, food and a bed to sleep in. Biblically, your boy friend is your husband and as a husband he should be supporting you, not your mom.
2006-07-31 14:03:31 · answer #1 · answered by Ding-Ding 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I am actually going through the same thing. I am 27 with a 3 year old and I am 7 months pregnant with my second child. My boyfriend ,of 5 years, and I have just recently split up because of situations with my family and issues over money. things just got stressful and I made the mistake of letting my family decide my life for me and that made him feel that we were all against him when really I am so in love with him and I want us to be a family. I would say to you, I know family is very important, but sometimes you have to let them know you heart, and if this guy is treating you right and loves you and you know how much you love him,you may have to do as I did and explain to your family that you love him, and this is no joke, because now you have a child on the way, and trust me it gets so much more serious after that, and you don't want your family all split up and things going crazy. That is what's happening to me right now, I want so bad to get my family back together. It is so much better and easier when your family is together, because now you guys have your own little family and when parents are not together and everything is a mess, trust me, kids know and it does effect them. so good luck to you because I know what you are dealing with and at some point you have to begin your own life. It may get hard, but it is all worth it in the end.
2006-07-23 21:44:11 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm assuming you're not married and if not he is probably realizing that your lives are about to be changed in a way he can't imagine. He may be concerned about his responsibilities and the finances involved. That can be a very heavy burden to carry. He's probably looking for some type of stress relief and he's not finding it. I would encourage him that he's OK and you are still together. I would talk strongly to your Mom and tell her she can not be putting down the father of your child and expect a viable relationship with her grandchild's father in the future if she continues. Stress relief would also come as you two plan the birth of your child. Get excited with him about it. This can be a great event in your life IF you choose it to be. You both know it would be better if you were permanently together. A child needs both Mom and Dad and shortly that's what you'll be. I hope you have finished school and, if not, you will let NOTHING stand in your way of doing that.
2006-07-23 21:34:23 · answer #3 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm sorry to read about your situation. Your mum is not doing you any good by stressing you out, as this is not good for you as well as your unborn child. Your Boyfriend have a lot on his plate to deal with. He have to deal with your mood swings. He have to deal with your mother putting him down, may be she have a legimate cause. Your Boyfriend is like a knot being pullled at two ends and if things don't ease off he can break !
You made no comment of him having a job and capable of supporting you and the child.
At this point in time it is not nice in trying to put any one down. I hope that since you are seven months pregnant that you as well as your mum and boyfriend, can come to some compromise.
I hope my commnets help
2006-07-23 21:46:38 · answer #4 · answered by Premio 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't get stressed out about what your mom says because that will only make things worse. Be calm, and think positive. It's gonna be ok. Being a teenage mom is nothing to worry about. I just graduated high school and basically 50% of my friends was either pregnat or had a child while they were in high school.
Maybe you should try to talk to your mom about how she talks to you guys. And if that isn't an option just be there for him and support him. Make sure that he knows that you love him, need him, and appreciate him, because the last thing you need is for him to leave you...
2006-07-23 21:32:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell your mom to stop with the remarks..tell her you don't need anymore stress as it is. As for your boyfriend, try being more gentle with him, if he is supporting you, you're lucky...not many guys would stick around if they knew they got a girl pregnant. Give him a massage, and make some dinner for the 2 of you, and rent a movie. Just have a relaxing evening, it will bring you closer together.
2006-07-23 21:30:30 · answer #6 · answered by HotBarbie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The fact is she loves you very much, but she has lost control and is striking out. You made the decision to get pregnant and now you must be the adult and she must not treat the father badly or the baby will suffer. Your not a kid anymore talk to her and stand up for what you feel is right, she must be assured that you are acting rational.
All will be fine.. good luck
2006-07-23 21:37:56 · answer #7 · answered by Ramona 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's normal for your boyfriend to act that way considering what both of you have gone through. The most important thing is that both of you must be in this together. As long as you have each other, you can get over this.
2006-07-23 21:31:33 · answer #8 · answered by Nevwe 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you'r mum maybe blaming him for your predicament, can he support you and the baby? have you consider moving out? did he talk to you about your future with him? is he planning to marry you? all these questions and more needs to be answered then you will be able to see clearer where both of you are heading, best of luck, too much stress is no good for your baby
2006-07-23 21:46:35 · answer #9 · answered by Dreamweaver 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋