I have been talking to this guy online for the past seven years and been married for four. My husband and I both travel a lot so we don't see each other much. This guy is in an open relationship.and lives far away from me but I have an opportunity to see him. Should I do it?
2006-07-23 14:17:16 · 27 answers · asked by reginaselvaggio 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
Whether or not he is faithful, you should be faithful. Keeping your word is for your benefit, not just his. Once you cheat, you will know that you did that. Think about that before you run off and do this thing.
Are you sure he is unfaithful? If so, deal with him first. If you go see this guy, and I expect you will, it may not go as good as you think. Sounds like a weird thing to chat on line with a guy on line for so long - from the time you were 18? Man, that is something else. Makes me wonder why you married the guy you did and didn't leave the on line guy behind. Seems incompatible to have a longterm on line gig and a marriage.
I wonder if he is really in an open relationship. There aren't many of those. In any event, going to see this guy will do nothing to keep your marriage together. It may give you a needed ego lift. I am generally totally against adultery. I can't condone it but I am not here to judge you. Make up your own mind and either do it or tell this guy that you are going to stay faithful to your marriage vows. Don't do it just to get back at your husband. It won't really make you feel any better if that is the reason.
2006-07-23 14:29:20 · answer #1 · answered by ? 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No because you are not in a open relationship, and it is just not right. It sounds like you should never have gotten married if you were having a relationship online all that time before your marriage. Even if your husband is cheating, you guys need to be open to each other and communicate. two wrongs do not make a right. good luck.
2006-07-23 21:24:41 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, it is wrong. Why are you two still married. Having sex with someone else when you are married is adultery. So, no you should not do it. You and your husband should have a meeting and decide if you want to be husband and wife or if you want to be single, and then act accordingly. Sound like you both wish you weren't married.
2006-07-23 21:27:53 · answer #3 · answered by Darby 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Two wrongs don't make a right. On-line guy is just looking for some action. Do you really want to be another notch on his belt? If hubby can't be faithful, divorce him & find someone who loves AND respects you. It's better to be single than put up w/this BS.
2006-07-23 21:20:31 · answer #4 · answered by Taffy Saltwater 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy, you really are a nitwit!!!! You have been "cheating" on your husband since you have been married!!! You are a looser and certainly not dedicated to your marriage. I recommend that you get divorced and let your husband have a chance for happiness. But, come to think of it......he is probably cheating, too......looks like you are both a match made in heaven!!!!
2006-07-23 21:25:18 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think u shud settle down with ur marriage first. u better talk to your husband of whats goin on with your marriage. i think marriage must have an open communication to each other. and if ur relationship ddnt work out so u have to make a choice and move on with your life. and maybe you can try to hang out with this old guy online..who knows you both will work out.
2006-07-23 21:44:22 · answer #6 · answered by mudbloodprincess 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't be in a marriage if (a) he's not faithful and (b) you're thinking of being unfaithful. Figure out if you want to stay in your marriage first, before thinking about if you should meet up with the guy.
2006-07-23 21:20:27 · answer #7 · answered by uwparker81 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if it makes you happy and gets your mind off of what your husbands doing, then i say go for it! Or suggest to your husband about having an open relationship also!
2006-07-23 21:23:10 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why don't you get a divorce and find someone who will be faithful to you and get married again to a decent man.
2006-07-23 21:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
girl hek yeeah if you want to be happy be happy.but one thinng im not sure about is that if u chat with some men you dont even know and ur not shure hes good then he can end up raped.im telling u.but if u dont liten,,,its defenetly not my problem cause i wouldnt be that stupid.
2006-07-23 21:24:35 · answer #10 · answered by neina khan 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋