How did your ex-spouse screw you over after you divorced?

Question

Umm... please just answer the question. if your ex didnt screw you over, then this is not the question for your to answer.

Answer 1

lol damn, do i have enough room to write it all lol .... probably not so i'll only give u some of the "highlights" ..My x husband left me and our two children because he was having an affair with a woman, he was the one that wanted out.. so keep this in mind while reading...After the divorce..he was ordered during the divorce to pay all the credit card bills and credit purchases that he ran up.. No exaggeration here, out of about 6000.00 dollars on different credit expenses i only used our credit card 1 time for 280.00 (xmas) and i never knew about what he spent untill after he bought it.. so i wasnt any part of all the money he spent.. the judge made him liable.. and he didnt pay them so the creditors came after me and my credit has been severly ruined because of him.. We have 2 children together, he is suppose to pay 600.00 a month in child support, but he only pays when its convient for him and could care less if his own kids ended up on the street.. our son who is chronically / terminally ill.. recieves money from SSI he called SSI and told them that our son lived with him (which NEVER has he lived with anyone but me) and told them i was lying.. so they stopped my sons SSI and his medical insurance for 2 months while i had to fight to prove that he was the one actually lying.. he was suppose to have visitations with the children every other weekend.. and i always told him he could have the kids anytime he wanted as long as he let me know about it in plenty of time ..i never gave him restrictions on when he could or couldnt see the kids.. just asked for a heads up is all.. well the kids would be ready by 6 for him to pick them up.. shoes on their waiting for him at the door, bags are packed, and they'd wait, and wait.. and their dad wouldnt ever show up.. my son would literally fall asleep next to the phone waiting for his father to call .. then he'd show up Saturday night at 5 pm to pick them up, and then bring them back at 9 a.m. Sunday.. vists where from Friday at 6 till Sunday at 6 but that hindered him going out and partying so he only would get them for a few hours..he is in the military, and because of our son having medical issues he had the choice of staying married but seperated and staying stationed here for the rest of his career to where he could be with his kids instead of getting stationed in different places away from his kids, he'd also get paid for being married with dependents (more money) but he chose to get divorced and start being stationed to other places.. He's currently stationed in virgina, on the rare occasion that he wants to see his kids..i drive the kids 6 hrs to meet up with him where he only has to drive 3 and a half.. Id cover for him cause for many years he didnt send them bday presents or x mas presents so id take something i bought and put his name to it so the kids wouldnt know that their dad didnt care enough to send them anything, in hopes that one day he'd grow up and want to be a real dad.. , and he is now remarried, and the last time he had the kids, she falsely accused my son of something really bad, realized later she was wrong, but still made my x husband kick out my children at 2 a.m. (children were 11, and 12) at the time, my new husband drove to pick them up.. my son thats terminally ill is also deaf but his father has done nothing as far as learning sign language to communicate with him.. (which is why he was able to be falsely accused of something because his dad couldnt communicate with him to get his side of the story so he picked his wife over the kids although he did try and get her to change her mind when she said she wanted them out of her house, he did what she wanted..basically she couldnt handle anyone taking the attention off of her and her two kids so she finally thought she found away of getting rid of my children that wouldnt make her seem like a horrible person), When our son was in the hospital for 2 weeks that was out of town for both of us, I gave him, his new wife and their daughter, my room at the hotel, so they would have a place to stay and i slept on any empty corner of the hospital i could find, for 2 weeks. (there were no hotel rooms available for miles do to the Olympics) .. out of all the countless hospital stays and surgeries my son has had in the last 10 years, my x husband has only shown up 1 time..so i was just greatful that he showed, and i didnt want his daughter to suffer from his lack of preperation, so i gave them my room.. he has sent checks for child support that bounced causing me to bounce checks.. I could go on and on.. But bottom line he is a horrible excuse for a man, horrible excuse for a father, horrible excuse for a Human Being..

Answer 2

Tried to get back with me after I purchased a house and remodeled it. I found out that he really thought I would take him back, he just wanted my name off the title to "his" house. The house we spent 7 1/2 years building ourselves. We had been together for 21 years and two kids. I guess the biggest hurt he inflicted was that after all these years, I still don't trust anyone. I gave it my heart and soul and had nothing left afterwards. He has a nice $200,000 home on 10 acres, a new car and a new wife. I'm in a 10 year old car, a 50 year old house, and helping my kids through school all by myself while holding down two jobs. They don't have to pay alimony and no child support pass the age of 18.

Answer 3

He destroyed me emotionally until I just gave in because the quality of my life over fighting him was so low and I just could not do it anymore. So to speak, let go of the rope and let myself fall.

I asked for very little, of alot of what we built and acheived together and he felt I should not have any of it. I begged for the new truck since he had the new house, farm, new camper, all the cattle ,etc but he said if you take the truck how will I pull the camper. In hindsight I can see that I could've held on a little longer to that rope that he hung me with, and had a whole lot more than I got.

I could have justified this had I been a bad wife, but I was much much too good to him and for him. I never cheated. He did that. I catered to his every need and got very little in return. Today, he is sitting with the world, and the woman he left me for she bought him a new Harley.

Does it still hurt. Oh yes like Hell. But I am done being pissed at him and I am taking my life back and going to school and the next damn time I won't dangle from anyone's rope and allow them to decide what I can have and can't have and my name will be the only one on the things of material value I own. I will love again. I am not going to give up on others just because of one crappy man. But I do have both eyes open this time.

Answer 4

He didn't. I didn't allow it. Nor did I screw him. His child support was the lowest amount the state would allow me to get, and I always carried all the medical/dental on our child (despite the court order that he had to). He got visitation when he asked (not very often because it was too much effort for him), as long as it didn't interfere with school.

I never demeaned him. I figured he was a big enough jerk that our child would figure it out without my help (oh yeah, very young). I did require him to PAY his child support, since I didn't have her alone, then I shouldn't support her alone.

The only way I was rough on him was when he tried to be emotionally manipulative with our daughter. I put an end to that one immediately.

It's worked out. I moved on nicely with my life. My daughter is well adjusted, and has a relationship with him that's based on her experience with him...not mine.

I made sure all the joint debts were paid off before we divorced. I had my own accounts, and he had his. We had no property in both our names, including cars. Another words...I PLANNED my divorce. I planned it well, and I planned it carefully. Some people may think it was really cold of me, but it saved me alot of crap, and kept my daughter out of the middle of anything.

Answer 5

My exwife was awarded our house during the divorce (which was in February 2004). She was to refinance the house, remove my name from all of the paperwork regarding the house, and continue paying the mortgage until she decided to sell it. Well in June ('04) I got a call from the mortgage company telling me they were going to forclose on the house because they had not received a payment since February (which covered January's payment because she was late on the payment... and they had to deposit it twice because it bounced the first time). I told them that was nice, but it no longer concerned me because the house had been awarded to her in the divorce and refinanced in her name. OOOOOOOPs.... she just did not BOTHER to refinance the house, therefore my credit took a shelacking because they had not received a mortgage payment in five months. I really do not like her very much. Well, the home finally sold before the foreclosure and she made exactly $0.00!!!!! Now she owns her OWN business selling "Upscale Intimate Gifts for Men and Women". Apparently the bank will lend anyone money!!!!

Answer 6

Life's not fair.

Deal with the baggage your spouse left you, and do your best to get on with things.

I know that sounds really, really simplistic and phony. But there are other people out there who take relationships seriously and understand the nature of respect and trust.

Lousy time for you; keep your hope.

Answer 7

He took the escrow check from the sale of our house and cashed it. He is not paying any child support even though he makes twice as much as me (I went to my lawyer and was informed that, legally, he could get child support from me even though I have physical custody of our youngest child because he has physical custody of the older two). He took the Certificate of Deposit money and left me with the savings accounts -- a difference of 10 grand. He sends the older two kids over to ask me for money because he's too cheap to give them any. When he wins on a scratch ticket, he gives the older two kids half the winnings and then tells the younger one that if she lived with him, he'd give her some money, too. (She actually spent the night over at his house, forgot her lunch money, and he wouldn't give her $2 for lunch!). He's supposed to pay half of the medical bills, but I haven't seen any money yet. Do I need to continue?

Answer 8

No. We drew up our own divorce agreement (no lawyers) and almost 10 years later are still on good terms. I went to his wedding reception with my oldest son. We all love his new wife.

Answer 9

The usual. Trashed me with my kids. They figured out as they approached adulthood, that it was mom who beat and battered** them, and that at my house they never got hit, or even shouted at angrily.

And, she is dead, dead, dead. Pancratic cancer. A horrid way to die, but she is no longer a threat of any kind to me, nor to our kids, nor to her grandkids. No one will ever suffer again at her hands.

**My daughter had to go to therapy for years in the Air Force to deal with the battering she received at her mother's hands until she was big enough to fight back. So, I am not just making ex-wife remarks.

Answer 10

mine has tried but i am happily remarried for the first time in my life and it only seems to chaff her panties that im not still crying that she stole my kids after she cheated on me and my kids with another man. my wife and i put up a solid front and she loses everytime she tries to rub us wrong becuase we are not going to let her have the satisfaction.

Answer 11

he didn't pay the bills he was ordered to, or child support, then drank and drugged himself before turning 40 when our son was 7