A friend of mine had a woman after 10 yrs. of marriage and he cheated on his wife and she divorced him so my thing is how come when people get into arguments they forgive each other but when someone cheats its a different story
2006-07-23 13:49:58 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Cheating destroys the very core of a marriage.. you vowed to be only to your spouse and only to your spouse, ur suppose to put your spouse on a pedestal and protect your relationship from all harm.. when someone cheats it destroys them, the dream they thought they had is gone.. they no longer feel special because someone else was capable of taking your spouse away from you even if it was only for one night.. one night of 10 minute pleasure can destroy a life time of marriage its that huge of betrayal.. it leaves the person that didnt cheat feeling insecure and broken inside, their life has now become a joke, ant the trust they had in their spouse is now lost.. most of the time people cant recover from this type of devestation.. they may be able to forgive, but they'll never forget, and it eats at your soul..
My x husband cheated on me, left me and my children for her.. (they did end up breaking up several months later because she ended up cheating on him lol) and we've been divorced 10 years come next month and the scars of what he did still linger in me all these years later, im always worried that when i love someone that they are going to hurt me like he did, that my world as beautiful and wonderful as it seems today could come crushing down around my ankles tomorrow just like it did all those years ago.. words in an argument may hurt u , but they tend to usually only hurt u so deep..and easily forgotten and forgiven.. when someone literally breaks ur heart..to the point that it shatters and kills part of your soul it never fully heals.. but time does dull the pain..
2006-07-23 14:04:25 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There's a bit of a difference between completely betraying the trust of someone you love by cheating and getting into an argument. I would not and will never tolerate cheating. I think it's completely disgusting both physically and morally. I would say it has to be one of the most horrible feelings to have someone you love and trust go behind your back and be a slut.
2006-07-23 20:56:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
An argument is open. You talk it out, yell it out, let it simmer for years sometimes. But it's right out there for everyone to see. No one is hiding anything. And in the end, it's just a disagreement.
An affair is secret. The person in whom you've invested your greatest love and trust goes behind your back to do things you have promised would remain only between the two of you. Discovering that betrayal is horrifically painful. Overcoming that pain and choosing to continue to devote your life to the person who caused it is difficult, to say the least, and downright impossible for many people.
2006-07-23 21:10:11 · answer #3 · answered by some chick 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When the trust is broken & you feel betrayed it's really hard to get over. You have to be a very strong person to forgive your partner and it takes a long time to rebuild the trust. Getting divorced is the easy way out.
2006-07-23 21:17:10 · answer #4 · answered by Incongruous 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I tried to forgive and forget but ended up in divorce.............we are civil to each other because of our daughter. I can forgive it is just hard to have the same relationship as before. Cheating is a different story.........it hurts to the core.....almost worse than physical abuse.
2006-07-23 22:05:53 · answer #5 · answered by Mel221971 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I forgave and regretted it because I stayed in a failing marriage for 5 more years, hoping to save it. It's a trust thing. When you say, "I do" it means you are committed to that one person and part of that committment is to not cheat.
2006-07-23 21:42:29 · answer #6 · answered by PuttPutt 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is like murder!!!! Its the worst thing that could happen in a relationship... After someone cheats you no longer have trust and without trust the relationship is over...
2006-07-24 19:20:20 · answer #7 · answered by nclonewolf1962 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Cheating is the ultimate betrayal. It makes you fell lower than anything else possilby could. You feel lied to, you feel unsexy, you feel discieved, it is just a bad bad feeling that can not be forgotten. Some people (like myself) forgive, but you just never forget.
2006-07-23 21:06:58 · answer #8 · answered by josievan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
When they cheated they can bring home diseases that kill and wreck lives. They can get the one they cheated with pregnant or pregnant by the one cheated with. Getting into an argument is nothing compared to being cheated on. when you are married you have committed yourself to that one person.
2006-07-23 20:55:40 · answer #9 · answered by cenaldora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it would be devasting to me to learn that I was betrayed by the person I trusted must. When you cheat on someone it is throwing everything that you were away and saying that one moment of lust ment more then what we have together. How would you feel if your wife cheated on you?
2006-07-23 20:58:50 · answer #10 · answered by nm 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋