He often yells and curses at me and makes me feel like I deserve it or ask for it better yet make him do it.
2006-07-23 13:46:24 · 13 answers · asked by seven2915 1 in Health ➔ Women's Health
Those are pretty strong signs of emotional abuse.
If you need more, call the national domestic abuse hotline: 1-800-799-SAFE (7233) and please take care of yourself before it get worse.
NOTE: THe NDVH will help you also determine if it's not abuse. You SHOULD go see a counselor, either with your husband, or alone, and use that to work this out for yourself. Make no snap judgments, educate yourself and protect yourself.
2006-07-23 13:51:56 · answer #1 · answered by agentdenim 3 · 3⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you are asking this question tells me that you are in an emotionally abusive relationship with this man. GET OUT NOW!!! Save yourself. The fact of the matter is, he is reflecting what HE is, not what you are. You do deserve better, do not let anyone tell you different. Your life will not get any better if you stay with this man. You DO NOT have to put up with his behaviours. You are obviously a better person, move on girl!
2006-07-23 13:55:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yells at you or puts you down for having different opinions than him. Tells you you are crazy or nuts in the head if you don't think the exact way as him. Your feelings don't count because they are stupid.Tells you how or when to do things but turns around and he does them the same way he just yelled at you for but makes excuses why he can and you can't. Also withholding affection except for sex. Basically making you feel like you are worthless and treating you like a kid or employee and making your self esteem so low that you think you can't live without him.
BTW I left after 8 years of him making me feel used and unloved. I am doing fine on my own even though he is still trying to make me think I am not. Trying to tell me I have mental problems to ever want to leave him. Don't stay and be treated with disrespect if there is no love left leave. You deserve to have someone love you and want to share life with you not think they own you.
2006-07-23 13:56:05 · answer #3 · answered by JustWant2B 5 · 3⤊ 0⤋
I'd say those are some pretty good signs. If a person constantly makes you feel like crap about yourself and makes you feel like you deserve to be yelled at, then that's a problem. You need to get him and you to counseling ASAP, or if he is too much for you to deal with, then maybe consider getting away from him. Be careful and safe. Emotional abuse can lead to physical abuse. IF you have kids, watch out for emotional abuse of them too. Good luck.
2006-07-23 13:51:16 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question. Those behaviors are most definitely abusive. I encourage you get out of this relationship now because chances are things will only escalate.
I had an emotionally and physically abusive husband, and spent too long in denial before I woke up and realized I had to get out. It started out as just name-calling and cursing at me...then it progressed. Bruises don't lie. Please don't make my mistake.
Remember, it is never your fault, you never make him do it and you never deserve to be treated unkindly...EVER. It's him.
2006-07-23 14:04:23 · answer #5 · answered by rhubarb3142 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Honey if it hurts it's abuse and what you said sounds like a very unfulfilling stituation. If what he does makes you feel small/ unimportant or unappreciated then he is hurting you, his fault. His inability or lack of knowledge of how to control himself in situations that make him feel like lashing out or taking supreme control. There are many state funded and private groups that can aid you in rectifying this situation. Since i don't know where you are from i can't help you with that but, it should be easy to find online. These places can *help you find* the best solution. They don't jump in take control but can give you more info.
2006-07-23 14:54:23 · answer #6 · answered by lightingbug 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am so sorry to tell you this but you have a very emotionally abusive husband. you need to get out of there or he may be come fisically abusive also trust me my girls dad was emotionally abusive at first the he whent to being fisically abusive.
there are places you can call for help and they will help you get out of there and help you find a place to go you really need to leave please get him the help he needs and the help you need
2006-07-23 14:03:01 · answer #7 · answered by jam 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Someone that treats you like dirt. If he yells and swears at you. And orders you to do things for him all the time. Don't put up with it. He won't change
2006-07-23 13:52:14 · answer #8 · answered by mickey 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
the sings are just what you said he is doing.You are your own person don`t let him talk to you that way if he don`t like it leave cause it gets worse from the yelling it could be hitting or even kill you
2006-07-23 14:18:25 · answer #9 · answered by me too 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if he makes u feel like cra.p and calls u hurtful names...thats a good sign
2006-07-23 13:57:05 · answer #10 · answered by Mediwizard 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋