How can you protect from alimony? Is it a good idea to marry someone with similar income?

Question

Any other ideas?

Answer 1

Marrying someone of equal income seems like a logical thing to do in order to protect your assets in case of a divorce (esp. with the rate over 50 percent). However, one never knows what will happen in life and you wife could: 1. lose her job 2: Become ill 3. Become pregnant and not be able to work, etc. If this is a concern to you (and her) then it is best to have it written in a document that both agree with.

Answer 2

Why would you limit your perspective mate base to salary??? What are you going to do ... screen them before you meet them? It would seem to me that you are very hung up on money from the start. I would say you are in no place to even consider marriage. Very few working men would get any kind of alimony. And unless you make a very good 6 figure salary (in which case, you wouldn't be asking here), your fears are groundless and a hinderance to your finding happiness. You are already preparing for failure BEFORE you meet someone, let alone fall in love, wait for a good period, then get married! Some people are so materialistic, they should never consider getting married. Good luck

Answer 3

Loving each other is not enough as a basis for marriage and family. In the real world, you have to be able to pay your bills. Many marriages split up due to fights over money. So if you want to increase your chances of living together happily till death do you part, do it the smart way. Get your educations and careers organised first. And I don't mean a part-time job at the local Burger King. I mean a college degree and a real career. For both of you.

Answer 4

When BOTH of you work, there is no chance for alimony. ANd this should NOT be part of the marriage process, your already setting yourself up for failure and seem unsure. Suggestion: don't marry, wait a bit.

Answer 5

You can't protect yourself against being ordered to pay alimony. No matter what the current conditions, a woman may become ill and all bets are off.

Also, in many states, pre-nup agreements are not especially binding, though many ignorant people think they are.

In Iowa, where my expertise was the most, law specifically says a judge need not honor a pre-nup agreement, if it seems to be written to protect against divorce. Well, DUH!!! Why else would you want one? (Actually, the only valid reason for one is to protect previously owned property for previous heirs, that is, kids from previous marriage. And, most pre-nups are obtained by WOMEN with property marrying men with less assets -- the attittude towards pre-nups depends upon whose money is involved.)

Also, so much as a stick not listed on the pre-nup makes the pre-nup useless.

It takes a certain amount of hypocrisy for women to criticize men for worrying about divorce. Is the divorce rate 1%? 0.5 %? No, it's 50%, and any man contemplating marriage who doesn't reasonably worry about that 50% divorce rate is probably a mentally ill and dangerous individual.

The good news is that the Bureau of Vital Statistics shows that marriages in the US are going away. Look it up. A big drop just since 2000. The little dearies and their "I'm not happy" divorces have finally convinced men marriage is no more than a prelude to divorce and child support. So, now the biggest problem women in the US have, is the difficulty in getting a man to marry them.

In 1987, two men at work asked me a similar question. I had to give an answer, it was not avoidable. Women in the area were really angry: "This sounds more like a business than a marriage." and, they were adamant that the men should not marry. So, I thought about it a while before answering.

Here is what I told them. There is no one more involved with business than a woman who is getting divorced. Divorcing women remind me of the grunting and squealing of the hogs I slopped on my father's farm in the 50's, with their demands for all the assets of the business, now and forever.

So, if a woman says she thinks a man is out of line asking for a pre-nup, I will tell her, "You know, you are right. However, it is HIS money we are talking about. If you really think love is more important than money, then show him you mean it. He has $100,000 of assets he has worked all his life to earn, and you don't have any assets."

"So, show him you don't think money is important. Work hard, save your money, and when you have a modest $25,000, a mere fraction of what he is worried about, sit him down and give him that money as a cashier's check. Tell him, I want you to know money means nothing to me. It is your love I want, and so I am giving you this money, my money, to show you my love for you is more than money."

"Take it. If you want to take the money and leave me tomorrow, go ahead. If you don't love me more than that money, please leave me, and take the money with you."

And, in most cases, the man will instantly beg you to marry him!!!!!!!!!

Now, how many woman would ever work and save $25,000 to give to a man with no conditions attached, to show they loved him?

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Talk is cheap, but it's his money she thinks is of no importance, not hers. And, she is asking him to do exactly that with her when he marries her with no protection for his assets.

Answer 6

Income doesn't really make any difference. You just need to make sure you hire a competant, experienced solicitor to draw up a pre-nup agreement for you both to sign.

Answer 7

Maybe a prenup? I don't believe in alimony - child support, sure, but alimony is bullshit.

Answer 8

sign a pre-marital agreement saying alomony is not an option in anyway before getting married.

Answer 9

A prenuptial agreement... but if you are really worried about that at this stage maybe you should not get married...Nevertheless a prenuptial agreement...One saved me)))

Answer 10

If you're thinking about this before getting married, then you shouldn't even consider marriage.