I just had an abortion 2 weeks ago and right now I seem to have an unbeatable depression. It's really odd, I had an abortion 2 years ago and did not feel so restless afterwards and am wondering what is wrong with me. My first abortion was within the first few weeks of pregnancy but my latest was during the second trimester. My therapist told me that I am not the first to experience this and that it it just something i should try to work with just like I would with depressions caused by other issues. She says it may also be from within. She says that since my abortion was done later than my first, that may have caused guilt inside of me. I don't think so. I don't feel guilty at all. I am not one of those pro-life fanatics. I do not believe abortion is murder, i do not believe abortion is wrong, and i feel just fine but I just can't deal with this random depression which hits me from time to time. Has this happened to anybody else?
2006-07-23 13:34:27 · 16 answers · asked by Stella 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
You should try getting some counseling, or even consider short-term anti-depressants. Even though you didn't carry full-term, what you're experiencing is known as "Post Partum (sp)Depression." This stems from the body's sudden drop in hormones and is perfectly normal (think Brooke Shields!). A LOT of women experience it; you can work through it, but with modern advances in chemistry, you are more likely to have a better time of it and a shorter episode if you seek medical attention!
2006-07-23 13:41:06 · answer #1 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 10⤊ 6⤋
Yes, you did the right thing. You should see the video of abortions and show them to her. Before the baby gets murdered it gets scared and freaks out. It's so sad. I had to watch it in high school and cried. I do not believe in abortion at all. All it is is being selfish and killing an innocent child. Adoption is great. But I would not want to be with someone who is as selfish as her, not only towards the pregnancy but towards you and your feelings. I think your better off definitely without her. A relationship and decision like that takes two people not just one.
2016-03-27 04:29:15 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I do not know but it would seem to me that the depression would be a natural and somewhat normal experience after that ordeal. I realize there was a medical procedure and it is not at all unuasual to have feelings of depression and yet the very fact that you even mention guilt feelings suggest that you do to some extent have those feelings. Try to think your way through this and feel that you can overcome.
2006-07-23 13:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by jegreencreek 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋
first of all Iam not here to judge you because I have had one myself 8 years ago but that was a early termination and we both were young and at that time I was fresh in a new country so I didn't even speak english.I didn't want to go but had no choice.After the procedure I was just crying and crying and was depresed but the pain went slowly away.I said to myself that I will never do the same thing again.Today we are married have two children and had 5 miscarriages which I blame because of the early abortion(left scars etc.) but something could of been wrong.What I just don't understand is terminations in late first,second and third trimestr.I think thats butchery unless some medical reasons and very bad deformations.I hope that you will go to your doctor and have prescription for some anticonception pill or injections.If you wanna have kids one day then don't play with your health anymore but it's your body choice not mine
2006-07-23 14:20:10 · answer #4 · answered by m41 3 · 8⤊ 2⤋
The depression you feel is something your heart is trying to tell you. I know you expressed your views quite clearly, but your views and your heart are at odds right now.
Deep in your heart, you know you ended a life--actually two lives, and your heart is saying it's not right. No matter what your therapist tries to tell you, I will bet the farm that you know in your heart that you have murdered two living beings.
Until you come to grips with that, and deal with it constructively (I suggest seeking out a Christian counselor who can help you through this) your depression may continue. Many women who have had abortions years ago still suffer depression years after the fact.
I'm not here to judge--just to help. I do care what happens to you. You sound like you are in emotional pain, and I hope you find resolution.
2006-07-23 13:48:49 · answer #5 · answered by freedomnow1950 5 · 7⤊ 3⤋
I think it is natural after what you have been through...I am glad you are talking to a therapist, keep bring it up with your therapist and keep talking about it...that is the best thing to do
2006-07-23 13:38:45 · answer #6 · answered by pammy_6201 4 · 5⤊ 1⤋
yes i had one in march , the only one i will ever do.
but yes im still depressed from it, i dont feel myself i dont feel like doing anything, i use to work full time i cant even work 25 hrs a week
im trying to get pregnant again, because i relized it was a mistake , but it was good that i did it, for the fact it might not have been my boyfriends
i got the abortion pill
2006-07-23 13:48:39 · answer #7 · answered by lovesugarkisses 4 · 2⤊ 5⤋
ONCE AGAIN, i completely agree with LOVELY EMILY. Your wrong and a murderer. I don't care if YOU don't believe its wrong. ITS STILL WRONG. Did you know that when you kill your own children they will be the first ones you see in heaven? Well if you don't believe that killing fetuses is wrong, than you probably don't believe in God which means you won't be in heaven so your right WHATS THE BIG DEAL??? Your depression is your spirit and your spirit is screaming for repentance on your wicked selfish existence......I'll be praying for you and the future of your unborn children......
I used to work at Planned Parenthood, back in the days when I also was consumed with ignorance. I assisted the "doctor" with abortions and I helped the others in the back room. You know, the room that exist from the little window they transfer your dead baby too. Back there we got the horror of dumping out the mangled fetuses and putting them back together piece by piece. Any bits of the woman's beautiful life left in her, and it could cause serious problems. Did you know a 8 week old unborn baby has fingernails? Well then, I wonder if you know that they feel unimaginable pain, especially when being ripped from their tiny existence. Oh well, never mind, your not a "Pro-life fanatic" or anything. Sorry you guys for the dreary details, but murder usually is.
2006-07-23 14:01:00 · answer #8 · answered by Raquel 2 · 6⤊ 9⤋
I believe that the reason that you fell depressed is because you feel guilty, YOU KILLED A BABY!
Second trimester????
Girl, that little bundle of joy was most likely completely formed and you just killed him/her.
No wonder why you feel bad. you are telling yourself that there's nothing wrong with abortion, try to be honest with yourself and not to tell yourself what you want to hear, look at yourself straight in the eyes in front of a mirror and ask yourself honestly if there is nothing wrong with what you just have done?
2006-07-23 16:32:24 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 7⤊ 7⤋
Honey, you should feel depressed, sorry to say. You murdered a defenseless child. You need more than just counseling you need a trip to your family doctor to learn about birth control, There are ways to prevent unwanted pregnancies. But I think you need to learn to keep your legs shut. I only pray to God this wont happen again, but in case it does, think of all the couples that would love to have a precious child of their own and give them and your baby a chance to a life of love and happiness
2006-07-23 13:49:07 · answer #10 · answered by vicci 1 · 5⤊ 7⤋