She just found out Friday and she's 5 months pregnant we are all shocked.She can barely afford the one she's going to have.She asked me if I would take one and raise it,I laughed but she was serious.I would gladly take the baby but I don't know how I would feel if she ever got on her feet and wanted the baby back.Any suggestions?
2006-07-23 13:27:18 · 16 answers · asked by dccuttie75 6 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
If your friend cannot afford to raise the children, perhaps she should consider adoption. If she goes through the paper, she can find couples willing to pay her hospital bills as part of the adoption process. It may be hard for her to give up the kids, but she also wouldn't have to worry about medical bills.
Another option is Section 8 housing and Medicaid for the babies. She can apply for food stamps and daycare assistance. My friend has one child and pays $35 a MONTH for rent with rental assistance. She is a hard worker and going back to school too. Government assistance isn't something to be ashamed of.
In addition, the government and other companies offer assistance to mothers (and fathers) having multiple births. Reynolds and Reynolds is one of these companies.
Now, in the event you raise one of the children for her - unless you get legal custody aka adopt the child, she can and is allowed to take the child back from you at any time. (Meaning if you even got in a small fight, she could take the child away.) Personally, I would NOT take the child from her unless it was a legal adoption and you (the important part) want the child. Don't do it for her. You have to want to have a child in the first place. Then again, if you do legal adopt the child, you are responsible for all care of that child until he or she is 18, including food, clothing, medical care, etc.
Good luck.
2006-07-23 13:35:22 · answer #1 · answered by Kats 5 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Well that depends on how close the 2 of you are. Cause later on she may want the baby back but not if you adopt the child . And it could be upseting for the child who would be mommy? Could you take the pain of bonding and caring for the baby for it to be taken away? As a mom I don't think I could. I have taken care of my nephew since birth . Although his mom was there he would still call me mommy. It took her to move and me to only have him every other weekend for him to realize I was auntie. He's 10 yrs old and knows I love him to pieces. I'm Auntie mommy.
2006-07-23 20:37:45 · answer #2 · answered by tastyflow 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't thing it would be a good idea to take and raise your friends baby.Maybe you can help in other ways like with cooking or cleaning or just take her babies to a park while she can catch-up on some sleep.The babies are her responsibilities and she just can't give one of her babies to her friend.She will learn how to take care of them because noone is born as a mother.And she will have some money from goverment I think they give more when twins.
2006-07-23 20:48:25 · answer #3 · answered by m41 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it is a real possibility that she may want the baby back and if you aren't able to go through that i would say that it may be hard but you might have to say no. Noone can tell you what to do you have to think of you and the baby. What is best for you both? I hope this helps some and i will be praying for you, your friend and the babies
2006-07-23 20:35:03 · answer #4 · answered by Tabby 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I just had twins 8 months ago and I would never separate my girls. They form a very special bond when they grow inside of you. I know that my sound silly but it's true. When my girls were born they couldn't sleep unless they where touching one another. And as they got a little older we separated them but, they hold hands and everything. I would tell her that you will help her the best way possible. But honestly I would not separate them.
2006-07-23 22:34:08 · answer #5 · answered by Ann M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would advise strongly against taking custody of that child.
Give her help financially (if you can), get her in touch with government agencies (if she qualifies), help her out by watching the babies when you're able, but do NOT take that baby - she'll regret it somewhere along the way, and it will tear you apart to have to give it back!
2006-07-23 20:33:11 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you are serious enough to take a child, why not suggest that she keep both babies and you offer financial support?
She will get back on her feet and want the baby back. Protect yourself from heartbreak and support her financially.
2006-07-23 20:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by Temple 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't take that child from her but i would offer all the help and support she needs. Be there for her. I am sure that she is just worried right now and later will feel differently about giving one up after delivery. GL to you and her!!!!!
2006-07-23 20:34:30 · answer #8 · answered by cenaldora 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i understand where you are comming from especialy when i like see the lifetime movies and that happends i cry and could never imagine what would feel like but if i was you i wouldnt i would tell her too keep both of them and you tell her i will help you take care of them and help you anything you need but this is a big i mean a big decision for you so good luck
chel-c
2006-07-23 20:37:07 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the B I T CH to keep her legs closed and quit giving that stank p u s s y up until she gets married
2006-07-23 20:34:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋