If your best friend sleeps w/ another friend's significant other, what do you do?

Question

If they confess to you what they've done & tell you they aren't gonna tell them, what would you do?

Would you take it to your grave - feeling like it isn't your place to tell?

Would you tell the other friend - feeling just as guilty knowing what they did & thinking how mad you'd be if it were your situation & finding out that other people knew and didn't tell you?

Or (your suggestion here).....

Answer 1

Search your heart and do what you think is right. It wasn't fair for your best friend to put you in this position. You will never be able to have the same relationship again - if you don't tell - you'll still know, and if you do tell you might lose all of their friendships, if you don't tell and they find out you knew and didn't tell, you'll lose them that way too. I was in that place once, it was terrible. There is no "etiquette" guideline for that, so just do what you think you are going to be able to live with the best.

Answer 2

Ok, I've been on the bad side of this. I was the guilty party and I took the wrong road about it...I partially told the truth but mainly lied when I was finally confronted. It was a very painful mistake in my life, but years later I've learned to become a more honest person, and the lessons I've learned from it turned out to be much more valuable than trying to make amends with her. But whenever you do something wrong, no matter how small or severe it is, you have to be an adult and confess and take full responsibility for your actions. You should be telling this advice to your best friend. She needs to take responsibilty for what she has done and confess. You have no part in this. Yes, she may have confided in you, but you have no place to tell anyone anything because the situation doesn't involve you. Good luck to you and your friend.

Answer 3

Stay out of the situation for now. If this happens again confront your best friend first, she is your priority. Tell them that their behavior is deceitful, and they will regret their actions eventually. Explain that you are not trying to tell them what to do, but you are concerned for them and do not want to see them go through the possible problems they may have to face because of their actions. A good analogy would be a husband and wife relationship that is torn apart by someone. The two of them built a relationship with time, and a lot of resentment and possible retaliation may occur towards the one who tears apart that relationship.

Answer 4

I'd probably talk to the friend and tell her to own up to what she did. If I knew she wouldn't or she refused then I would tell the other friend. It just wouldn't be fair to the friend to have her bf cheating on her and she knew nothing about it. If he's cheating with your other friend there is no telling who else he might be cheating with too.

Answer 5

It's not your issue or problem. I would play dumb & refuse to discuss it. Take it to the grave- or use it for blackmail later.

Answer 6

Just stay the heck out of it....its not really any of your business....its between the 3 of them.....I wouldn't want to get caught in the middle.......

Answer 7

Send them an anonymous note.

Answer 8

Let me ask you this.....how do you know this best friend wouldn't do the same thing to you???? What if she slept with YOUR significant other??????? Some best friend!

Answer 9

you tell the friend,and aren't friends ith her anymore,i mean the best friend,because that's not a best friend that's a B**** frind,how mean is that!!!!!???

Answer 10

Ever heard the one about shooting the messanger?