Hi Im 13 years old and I have a cousin who is 14 years old shes older than me by a few months and she likes boyz and gurls and last monday I spent a night over her house and she tried to do sexual things with me I know that it is wrong. I think gurls were made for boyz and boyz were made for girls but by saying no I feel that I am wrong by saying No even tho people have told me that I am doing the right thing and her parents dont even know that she is like this no one knows but me. So can you guys PLEASE tell me am I right or wrong because I dont want to go to my family yet
2006-07-23 13:12:28 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
You're at a crutial age and so is your relative. See circumstances in each of our lives molds us and makes us, this cousin of yours has problems at home already and is relfecting them unto you. Sweetheart, family sexual abuse has been going on since the knowledge of mankind and since you're here asking maybe you should be telling, phunk it there is nothing you should reprimend so many tragedies could have been avoided if we had been open about them or had spoken about them.
2006-07-23 13:31:25 · answer #1 · answered by claudia91701 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all, your right & what she is doing is wrong ( trying to do sexual things to you) in terms of telling her family about her sexuality that decision is yours..its all in the trust you and her have... but she did cross the line when she tried to do things to you ...looking at that, she made need some psychological help, becuase sexaully molesting minors especially family memebers is a sign that she needs help ..so talk to her and tell her that what she is doing is wrong and that if she continues to try to do things with you, that your going to tell your family. I would go immediately and talk to my family, becuase if you love your cousin you would want her to get help as soon as possible.
2006-07-23 13:26:38 · answer #2 · answered by NiTa 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What she is doing is wrong because she is your cousin and because of her age. You were right to say "no." Let her know that you will tell her parents and yours if she keeps trying to be sexual with you.
If this has made you feel really uncomfortable perhaps you should confide in your mother.
2006-07-23 13:19:22 · answer #3 · answered by nquizzitiv 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U definately gotta stand up for what u believe, because u have the right to say no. but u were not in the wrong. Now u stated that u believe in being heterosexual. Thats ur belief so stick by it. But u shouldnt hate or dislike your cousin because she believes something different.
2006-07-23 13:24:53 · answer #4 · answered by dmo_87 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What are you asking if it is right or wrong to ask that some one tried to do "things " to you? I think you know that the answer is.
Also, the plural of boy is boys & gurl is not even a word.
2006-07-23 13:21:21 · answer #5 · answered by Winter_Decay 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
U don't have to do anything that u don't feel like. nor do u have to put up with people if u think they're wrong. In this case, u didn't like what ur cousin was doing, that's o.k. it's perfectly fine. u're not wrong here.
if u think u need to talk to ur parents about it, do so, if u not comfortable talking to your parents about it, then avoid being alone with ur cousin or anyone else who may try to put u in that position again.
2006-07-23 13:20:13 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You are right!! You need to sit your friend down and tell her that you consider her a friend, but she should not make anymore sexual advances to you and if she tries again, you will cut off all communication with her. You have to be firm and set boundaries and let her know that her behavior is NOT OK.
2006-07-23 13:19:12 · answer #7 · answered by schenzy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
umm it is wrong for her to want to do things with her cousin that s sexual i would tell her parents because she is too young to wanna do anything sexual but you were right for saying no because the right thing to do is wait until you find mister right and tell your cousin she should do the same before she gets pregnant
2006-07-23 13:18:53 · answer #8 · answered by Moo moo I'm a chicken 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you were right in saying no. you should tell your parents about this. This situation is really disturbing and your cousin might need some psychological help. Not because she's bi but because she tried to take advantage of her cousin. That's incest.
2006-07-23 13:24:30 · answer #9 · answered by yowww kelly clarkson 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not that "girls are made for boys and boys are made for girls." It's the other fact that she is your COUSIN that is disturbing. Remind her that. Tell her to experience her bisexuality with other people when she is out of high school at least.
2006-07-23 13:17:35 · answer #10 · answered by London 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋