Me and a friend had this discussion, and he thought that anger brings out ones "true self". I disagreed mostly..and felt that anger is actually a deviation, because we lose our logic at that time and can't think clearly.
2006-07-23 12:04:16 · 10 answers · asked by ? 6 in Social Science ➔ Psychology
Thanks....great answers. I also wanted to add...that I meant not just "anger" as the emotion itself, but what is "said" when one is angry.
2006-07-23 12:41:21 · update #1
Anger is the worst state of mind one can ever go through. Prophet Mohamed said: "It is not beating people up that makes one strong, but it is your ability to hold your horses when you are angry." The hardest thing you can ever do is control your anger when you are badly provoked.
Prophet Mohamed had a neighbor who used to spill stool and urine at his door. The man kept doing this provocative act for several years. The Prophet noticed that his neighbor stopped his ugly habbit for a week, so he asked about him, why did he stop it? The Prophet knew that he was so sick, so he went to visit him, and wished him speedy recovery. The man was perplexed and didn't know what to say.
Anger is very bad for one's health. If you are one of those touchy people who gets angry by the least provocation then I promise you that you will lose your youth soon and you will have grey hair even if you are so young.
Anger displays one's worst qualities and breaks things that can never be fixed. While angry, you may insult someone and end an entire relationship that you can never restore again.
I can say that anger shows one's true self in a sense, because it shows this bad side that "exists" in you. But you must be able to control this part and never display it.
2006-07-23 19:37:53 · answer #1 · answered by universal 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Hmmm. I believe that sometimes anger reduces internal sensoring of what is honestly felt or believed but not expressed out of deference and the desire to not offend or be offensive. I believe that sometimes anger reduces inhibitions and takes the form of attack, fight, and cruelty where words are weapons that don't represent true feelings or beliefs. I believe that the words said in anger when thought out clearly represent what we may not really feel, and the words said when we loose our heads do in fact represent something of our internal selves. I also believe that anger comes in many forms, many more forms than just these two, and all of those forms have to do with being hurt and caring. Anger is not deviant. It is an emotion that normal people experience. A person who does not know anger also does not know love, and that is most definitely deviant.
2006-07-23 13:00:26 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Things said in anger are usually intended to bring someone else into you anger, or to hurt them, that you do not say when happy. I think the real question here is do you mean what you say when angry. The answer to that question is no. When a wife is mad at a husband and says she cant take it anymore, does she leave? If you say to a friend I hate you, you never want to understand me, do we leave the friendship? If you tell your kids I am going to beat your butt so you cant sit for a week because of your anger, do you do it?
2006-07-23 15:27:06 · answer #3 · answered by betterbegood_to_me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I agree more with your friend. A famous person (can't recall who at the moment) said that to hear the truth listen to what a man says in anger. I think this means that we are often uninhibited when we are angry whereas we go through mental filters to protect people's feelings and ourselves when we are not angry. Of course, this is not an end-all-be-all answer for every angry moment, but I think it's generally true most of the time.
2006-07-23 12:09:24 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most problems that I hear are when people lose control over some part of there lives, addiction, death etc. Anger is often borne out of frustration at the inability to regain control!
To determine that it is a deviant behaviour means that you accept that people should or could be "normal"! Surely it is just another emotion, like love or sadness. You wouldn't ask if someone in love was displaying deviant behaviour and losing their inability to think rationally!
It seems to me that you are scared of raw emotion and would like to be able to categorise people into little boxes of normal and not normal!
Sounds like it is your judgemental attitude that is deviant, your coldness that is abnormal!
does this make you angry?
2006-07-23 12:41:01 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger is an expression of pain, that's all. If you express it without rational thought you could get hurt even more. However, with the added ingredient of rationality, an expression of anger can be a very potent tool for change and self-realisation.
It's an important aspect of one's being, and if harnessed correctly can move people to tears, or even to political action. People can feel very inspired by another's expression of pain. Don't be afraid of it, but don't let it run amok.
2006-07-23 12:15:01 · answer #6 · answered by Celsi 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger exposes another side of one's true self. How a person reacts when angered is as much a part of him/her as how he/she reacts when he/she is happy. Knowing a person when he/she is angry is an important step in truly knowing that person. The important thing to realize/remember is that anger is a part of the person, not the definition of the person.
2006-07-23 12:12:02 · answer #7 · answered by Crys H. 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
anger is the ego trying to win at all costs. it is a deviation from the norm because ultimately we git angry over something we can't change. what ever the reason anger comes from the ego..
2006-07-23 12:09:32 · answer #8 · answered by elizabeth j 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Anger are emotions and when we are angry we dont give right decisions.
2006-07-23 12:13:35 · answer #9 · answered by lady in red 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
its an emotion that is part of our selves, there is such a thing as healthy anger
2006-07-23 12:08:04 · answer #10 · answered by skippy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋