I am 7 weeks pregnant and unfortunately went to the doctor a few days ago due to vaginal bleeding and cramping. The doctor informed me that the fetus was not alive and that it would abort itself within a day or two. This has yet to happen and I cannot take the stress or waiting any longer. Can someone please tell me how to help this process along? Is there home remedy or something that I can eat or drink to get it over with? Also, I would like to try for another baby as soon as I can...How long should I wait before trying again? Thanks for any help and suggestions.
2006-07-23 11:58:56 · 6 answers · asked by jlt 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Thanks to all for the answers and suggestions about what to do about the miscarriage I am having. The only reason I do not go back to the doctor is because I do not have insurance and it took all the money I had to see the doctor to find out i was losing the baby, thats why i wondered if anyone knew how I could just make it happen or help it along at home on my own. I would really appreciate any suggestions on how to abort it without having to go back to the doctor, and again... thanks for taking the time to give your thoughts and feelings.
2006-07-23 13:22:07 · update #1
You need to call your doc if it has been longer. After several days the fetus does break down but in the process bacteria forms and can cause infections that can cause a lot of problems, including hemorrhaging. I went through this and thought I'd just wait it out because i thought a D&C was the same as an abortion and I didn't want to do that. I went to the hospital hemorrhaging and was told that I could have died from loss of blood. The infection from the fetus was bad enough that i had to stay in the hospital serveral days on IV antibiotics. Talk to your doc about how long to wait before trying again. Typically, docs say to wait 3 mos to let your body heal, but if you have any infections it may be longer. I had to wait 6 mos. After that i had three babies within 3 yrs. good luck!!
2006-07-23 12:58:18 · answer #1 · answered by heaven help me 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At some point you are going to need a D&C - the uterus will be scraped out (sorry for the graphic language, but it is what it is). This will do several things - it will put an end to all the waiting. It will lower the possibility of hemorrhage and infection. It will also put your uterus in better condition to receive a new pregnancy. Your chances of conception are better afterward. It's a general-anesthetic procedure and you'll want to spend the day in bed afterward, but you'll be up and about after a day or two.
I hope your doctor was caring and kind when he told you. This type of miscarriage is extremely common, but any miscarriage is hard to deal with. You are perfectly within your rights to feel sadness, so don't listen to people who say "It's nature's way" or any of that cr@p. Fifty years ago or so, a woman didn't get told she was pregnant until she'd missed a couple of periods. We have the technology to know almost immediately now, but that still doesn't change the fact that plenty of pregnancies end at this early stage, and there's almost never a clear reason for why it happened. Things will happen in their own time. Sorry for your loss!!!
2006-07-23 19:19:30 · answer #2 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Happened to my wife a few years ago. The body breaks down the fetus and absorbs it . I know it is frustrating, but it will pass. I'm not sure if she had cramps or bleeding. I would wait the few days and if it does not stop, go see the doctor again.
By the way, a year later she became pregnant with twins. That was 7 years ago. They are fine, healthy and no problems, and the pregnancy went well.
2006-07-23 19:05:32 · answer #3 · answered by me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would call the doctor and explain that you cant handle the stress of waiting for the Baby to come out on its own after its death. If he/she insist you wait you may be able to go to the er and them do something.
Know that doctors are usually well meaning but may be desensitised to the emotions that come along with losing a baby.
I would suggest waiting a couple of months before trying again at least. When I had my first miscarriage 24 yrs ago they said I could try again when ever I wanted. I got pregnant immediantly and then lost that baby. At that point it devistated me much more then if I had allowed my heart and body to heal after losing the first. After losing 2 in a row I was certain that I would never be able to hold a baby of my own in my arms. I have since had 2 beautiful daughters.
Know that God does not cause Death. Satan - comes to Kill, steal and distroy. But God comes that you would have life more abundantly. Go to God and let him help you through this. He is a very comfort in time of trouble. And know that if your child has died... You will see him or her in Heaven as long as you have made Jesus your Saviour. Call on him, he will answer. and he will hold you in his arms and comfort you.
Kathy
2006-07-23 19:11:14 · answer #4 · answered by c2god2 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you should talk to your doctor more about it- if you are agonozing physically or mentally over it, there's no reason way your doc can't do more to help you- that's what they're there for. or should be, and if s(he) isn't, contact another doctor and submit a complaint against the one you have now. you should be well taken care of and comfortable bcuz this is a terrible experience i know- my sister in law went through it. i'm sorry
2006-07-23 19:05:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
oh im so sorry..but dont trry to make it happen yourself, that can be very dangerous. i would see the doctor again and see what they think, or maybe even try to go to a different doctor, maybe they can help you out. good luck
2006-07-23 19:01:54 · answer #6 · answered by paulie 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋