ummm .... 2 years ago i got married to this wounderful man , the love of my life ..... we have a newborn now , 6 months .....
lately i feel that we stopped really talking .... or i stopped being the same "love" that i used to be... i know he is loyal , its not being loyal the issue here , i know he loves me , but he changed ..." he is a wounderfull dad by the way" .... but i got to understand that we never had anything in common , we fell in love and got married for many reasons , but now i donnu what to tell you ... i just dont have any deasent argument with him or even little chat ... we dont kiss like b4 , we dont touch the same ... how can i get him back and how can i be more interesting to him , ???? how can i make him talk to me ?!?!!!!! i mean ACTUALLY BEING INTERESTED IN TALKING TO ME ..
2006-07-23 11:53:58 · 12 answers · asked by delayla 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
HE USED TO HAVE THIS WOUNDERFULL SURPRISING KISSES TOUCES, U KNOW The romantic holding hands .... how can i have our romance, talks, crazy love if at all??!
2006-07-23 11:55:51 · update #1
Congratulations, you are now parents. (I have four) Your relationship will change and it will feel like you are more out of touch with each other once babies come. That's a fact. Don't sweat it, it will come back. Be sure you both make time for yourselves (without baby!)
2006-07-23 11:57:32 · answer #1 · answered by sahm2boys 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't really have to share many things or have things in common in order to be in love. My husband and I have been married for 8 years and it's been going great after 2 kids...We did have our down times and it sounded just like what you described. At one point I was tired of it and I had a little chat with him... I changed my ways two...Go back and think to yourself, after the baby was born are you still doing everything the same?? do you dress the same? do you go out as often?? Try to get the baby to a trusted sitter and do a one or two night get-away... or even a night out on the town... If he is not the one to initiate anything then you try to re-spice up your life. Make some changes before you even ask him about what's going on. and if you don't see a good response then you need to sit and talk just like friends do... make sure it's a friendly chat to tell him how much you love him and how much you want to keep up the spark in your marriage!..... Always remeber that things do change when you have a baby, and they will change even more when you have a second one...not in a bad way but more in a good way, the both of you just have to keep with it all....Best Wishes.
2006-07-23 19:02:00 · answer #2 · answered by Sunny 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Welcome to the club---the arrival of a new family member will change things temporarily, but provided that you continue to be the woman he fell in love with, things should change back. The one thing I have to say is that I lost weight in a hurry. I had gained a lot, and my husband had not fallen in love with the big woman I was after birth. Also, make sure that you have a reliable babysitter, so that you and your husband can spend some quality time together without having to worry about baby!!
2006-07-23 19:09:55 · answer #3 · answered by MARIANNE G 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your best bet is just to tell him calmly how you feel, it will either mean enough to him to do something about it or it won't, in which case nothing you can do will fix it. You can't do it on your own. A lot of this is fairly common after having a new baby, everyone has to adjust to their new roles as parents and figure out how that fits in to the world where they were just lovers. Make time for dates, just the two of you. Make time to spend just spending time together. Being interested in him will increase his interest in you. Good luck!
2006-07-23 18:59:52 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not the two of you anymore and some adjustments have to be made. Find time for just the two of you again. We don't ever feel the same in a relationship as we did in the beginning and I believe you are both very much in love. If you have to get councling get it but just don't give up.
The guys answer below me.....typical male.
2006-07-23 19:02:21 · answer #5 · answered by Lipstick 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
your relationship will change after children your love grows deeper and things arent just about romance but the new life u both wonderfully brought into the world keep trying things will get better wiv time gd luck
2006-07-23 19:01:30 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Did you become fat and unattractive after your son was born? A man needs to be able to see many women in his wife. She must be his mother, the mother to his children, his best friend, and on occasion his whore, sounds to me like he can only see you as his sons mother. Take the kid to the sitter and when he comes home from work, b dressed in your shortest skirt ad a smile no panties, no foreplay, no BS, just f@ck him down. Blow him, screw him, talk filthy to him, for a moment become his fantasy girl.
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2006-07-23 19:03:52 · answer #7 · answered by j.swaney 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Thats 90% of relationships. It sounds like the biggest problem is stress. (more bills,more people,less time) Dont blame yourself. Sex is better when its new , after awhile it might get dull , spice it up a little.
2006-07-23 19:01:18 · answer #8 · answered by Thomas H 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now there is a baby involved. You guys need to try to find "us" time. go to a movie anything, at least once a month or so, or you could lose all passion.
2006-07-23 19:01:00 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
do something to get him aroused and you can make different things interesting try something different that you and him havent ever done before like outdoors stuff skydiving just fun things and other things in the bedroom
2006-07-23 18:58:56 · answer #10 · answered by arielcowgirl_2010 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋