What have you heard about disabled/handicapped people? What do you wonder about them when you see them?

Question

What would you like to know about them?

Open to all views. Please be specific. :)

Do you find it strange when you see someone with full movement with a physically disabled person as their significant other?

To make this VERY clear:

*I have nothing against the handicapped and disabled.
*I have a friend who has a disability.
*I date a someone with disabilities.

I am getting some very angry responses. Please read my question carefully and look at similar questions I have asked before you reply.

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Ok, I'm just going to put it out there.

I ask these questions to understand how people view each other. I try to be as politically correct as possible and people still take offense to my questions.

I have my own small disabilities and date someone handicapped.

So take that and stick it in your pipe.

Answer 1

Handicaps . . . well I always see one usually when I go to school, the man was singing beside the post with a guitar . . . he has no feet, no legs and the other eye . . . cannot see. I pity him, but I don't know if I'm gonna give him money . . . why? . . . because I don't know if he can use it wisely . . . if he is gonna use it for buying food or just to buy some things that he doesn't need. Some says that we should not pity handicaps . . . but what should we do? should we teas them? No! I always wanted to help them . . . if I'm only rich . . . richer than you thought . . . I would help everyone that I will see that is handicap. Hope so!

Answer 2

I myself am in a wheelchair due to a disability that I was born with. I have faced many experiences where others have been uncertain about how to act around me. One of the questions that comes up a lot is, What is wrong with you?, which bugs me since there is nothing wrong, it's just that i have my unique traits about me. I am a very good student and am also very independent. Everyone has their own disability, whether it be emotional or physical, nobody is perfect. If we were there would be no reason to live life and learn from our experiences. If you want to know more about someone just ask, it's better than just making judgments or stereotypes about them, like thinking someone in a wheelchair won't be able to understand you. Even I at times have questions myself when it comes to other handicaps, since there are so many different ones out there, such as being visually impaired. As for helping, I think that it depends on the situation. Some people want some help with doors and such, whereas others could prefer to do it on their own. I can open doors, but if someone is walking through it's OK if they hold it open for me. All and all, even with these challenges, I feel like I've been blessed and am a stronger person in life. :)

Answer 3

I'm of the opinion that every person has a handicap even if it's not always visible so I don't treat a person with a physical or mental handicap any different than anyone else. I have a cousin who is wheelchair bound and partially paralyzed after having a stroke when she had her second child. I take her out with me sometimes and I will admit it makes me ticked to see people treat her like she is contagious. If someone would sit and talk with her (yes she does slur her words a bit but if you listen you can understand) one would see she is no different.

On the paternal side of my family Downes Syndrome is genetically inherited. There is at least one child in each generation that has it. This past June I just attended my cousin's son (he has Downes) graduation from high school and he was so proud that he got the diploma.

People are people... we all have our faults and we are all imperfect.

Answer 4

As a disabled person myself, I can give you an inside view.
The most common spoken question seems to be "How did it happen?"
I have been treated with extreme kindness and courtesy by some, and very rudely by others. People have offered to help carry grocerys or other helpful tasks. Others have complained that my braces have squeeked when I walk.
And of course, we've all seen the non handicapped person pull into the handicapped parking space, jump out and run into the store.
We are people just like everyone else, with the same capacity to love, feel joy, pain and laugh even at bad jokes. We don't want pity, most of us feel lucky that we can still get around even if it is with assistance.
But yes, one thought you should have is to feel lucky you are not in our situation. Praise God that you can still walk and have normal movement.

Answer 5

It depends yesterday I saw lady at the super market that had a handicap license plate so she got in an electric scooter at the store. I was standing behind her in line and she asked me to get her some candy bars that were only 2 feet away from her. It pissed me off because the reason she was handicapped was because of laziness. She was overweight and for her not to leave the scooter to get her own snacks upset me.

Now if their born with the handicap then I accept them for who they are. I use to help out with Special Olympics and I had a blast. I also had about 10 different boyfriend. LOL

Answer 6

Why would you refer to disabled persons as "them" ? Disabled persons are not another culture or ethnic group - they're simply a person with a physical or mental ailment. Don't treat "them" any differently or you are just adding to the one thing disabled persons hate most and that's being treated as an outsider. Look past the handicap and see the person for who they are, not from what they suffer.

Answer 7

One must understand...our bodies are just a physical form to carry our souls through this life. Some times things happen to it..a hand or leg get cut off, sometimes the skin gets burned. a diease gets into it, sometimes it get's killed and taken from us. when i see someone in a wheelchair...i only think "Gosh his legs don't work now..."Other times it shuts down refuses to work, because parts in our brain doesn't funtion right. Before I realized this within my self, i often wondered why would God permit these things to happen to people. It;s sort of like a fine piece of china ware, no matter how well you take care of it ...it gets chipped.. If you know this , you can always understand why things happen. When i see someone with a misfortune, i always think..."ohhh, something happened to his body...and help when I can...I never ask....for some people it's to painful. or to recent, others are tired of answering the questions....

Answer 8

There are many different reasons for being disabled or handicapped. People shouldn't judge them. They truly want to be like everyone else.

Answer 9

they are people like everyone else and its kind of sad but it puts life in perspective for me and I thank God for having all of my capabilities my grandmother works with handicapped disabled children and she loves them and they have personalities likes dislikes like everyone else its sad that some parents put their kids away when they are born this way but it takes a lot of time and patience to care for a disabled child you should not fear them or make fun of them They cannot help some of the things that they do

Answer 10

Well since my grandmother is disabled i can tell you that it fells really bad that when you are walking down the street every one keeps looking at you as if you werern't human. When i see other disabled people i do look but i try to be discreet and i also fell bad but good for them: bad because they're in that situation and good because they don't let their disability keep them behind.