Somebody will get 10 points!?

Question

This is a question a friend wanted me to post - SERIOUSLY.

What do you do to someone who has been mean to you and why? People can be mean by judging you by your appearance, what you wear, name-calling, stereotyping you, and gossiping.

I wrote the question in my own way and I'd like serious answers if you want the best answers.

FYI: I put this under arts and humanities because I want detailed answers.

Answer 1

You don't DO anything to someone who's been mean to you. People can be and ARE mean. They judge others. And if someone doesn't meet with their approval, they'll find ways to bring them down.

Hopefully we're talking about petty people in high school. These people should be ignored and avoided. When they don't get the response they desire, the game becomes boring and old and they move on to a new target. That's really where the person who was the subject of ridicule can shine. They can unite with the next victim and stand strong against this person! These kind of people like to separate the weak ones from the herd so that they can kill them (emotionally). The thing these people want most out of life is to have an audience, attention, and the admiration of those around them. To feel important, special, cool. Please tell your friend not to fall victim to this bullying, this harrassment! YOU can help this friend too by standing with him/her and not allowing this bully to continue to get away with it. Time is going to be on your friend's side because you WILL grow up and go your separate ways. This person will go to college where they won't have their targets. They'll be a little fish in a huge pond and no one is going to care about them one way or the other.
Tell your friend to be the bigger person, knowing that in the end, they WILL have won the battle by being the mature one. Walk away. Walk away. Walk away. And keep on walking. They're only words.............. and Consider the Source!

Answer 2

I have zero tolerance for people who feel they're superior to others for whatever reason; And if they're abusive, it's a double whammy that gets my blood boiling; I think how you respond depends on the amount of self esteem you have; if you let the "idiots" get to you, then they feel empowered; name calling, gossipy, negative people are not true friends and you should start finding some new ones who are positive and make you feel good about yourself; personally, if I were in a situation where, say, a bunch of kids were harassing someone, I'd tend to step in and help out(don't do this if you're in a bad neighborhood or where weapons might be used); If you're feeling really down, go and see a therapist; even if you don't make a lot of money, most clinics will accept a minimum amount of $$$; maybe 5-20 dollars per session; Hope this helps....

Answer 3

What do I do? I'd let it stick in my mind and make some changes afterwards. I really do care about what people think of me.

Although there's one thing I can't change that I'm teased for. I'm asian, and people basically hate me for it. Maybe not hate, but they think asians just want to hang out with other asians and talk about their boring lives.

I'd go into math class and have a group project to work on. The others just dump all the work on me because "all asians are smart." I ask, so just because I'm asian, you think I have to do all the work? They had the nerve to say yes.

This has effected me emotionally so much. I've almost attemped suicide because I couldn't fit in. I'm pretty happy now, I don't give a crap what other people say. But I breakdown every once in a while.

My own friends "tease" me because I have a "perfect life". That's nothing I have control over. What am I supposed to do, kill my parents and live in jail for the rest of my life? I get pretty pissed off at this.

I've been accused of many things I did not do. And it pissed me off. Teachers hate me because the popular people suck up to them while they dump all the work on the little people. It's a sick cycle of pain.

I guess that's it. I really don't care about the best answer but it was a pain writing this. I really like your question. I helped me vent or whatever it's called. ^_^

Answer 4

The best thing to do is to allow history to judge you, versus them. Look at all the abuse President Bush is going through. History is already proving him right and Michael Moore's liberal band wrong.

When I was growing up, my "peers" felt so much superior because their entire family was from that town, and mine had just moved there. I was even voted "Less than least likely to Succeed."

Now, I'm 39, marrying the most beautiful, smartest, caringest woman I have ever known, our baby is due this winter, I can retire anyday now and if I leave the high cost of San Francisco, I don't have to work again (gotta love the military's 20 year retirement plan), I've bought two houses (ex wives got them) and I am driving my dream car-a Jaguar.

Hmmm, who is the Success now, and who is still working in a factory, or retail,or for Daddy? I love to rub it in when I talk to one of the "Gonna be Successful" people I went to High School with in 1985.

It's hard to do now, but shrug it off. Life will change things if you make it change them. Do you really think Bill Gates had alot of dates and friends in High School? They are only showing their own insecurities. To push their own fears away, they project them at you.

Answer 5

Most people start dealing with this as soon as they enter school. We are always taught to ignore these people that put us down. Your going to go through your whole life with someone that has nothing nice to say about you. If it gets to out of hand confront the person and tell them that you don't appreciate it and if they continue that you may have to resort to taking them to court for defamation of character(this is in severe cases only). Look at Donald Trump,George Bush plus many more and all the people that put them down,it doesn't seem to bother them at all. Don't do anything to them because that makes you just as bad as the person that is putting you down!

Answer 6

The best thing to do to someone who is mean to you is ask yourself why they feel so insecure about themselves that they feel it neccessary to bring you down. It's almost a compliment in a weird way, because it means they are insecure about themselves. Just be nice to them and if they are willing, they will see past all of the judgements and like you as a person.

Answer 7

HAHA like the 10 points remark<---it really works!



I ignore them. Why should i let them have POWER over me?! If you ignore them then they'll realize that their bullying has no effect on you and will stop.
I was in a community service program and we talked about bullies and how to stop them, and usually bullies come from tramitized pasts or have someone bullying them (older sybling/parents etc.) so if u ignore them they might have time to think about what they are doing and how it might feel to be bullied and hopefully stop.

Answer 8

First of all, why would you do something mean to somebody in the first place? If somebody does something mean to you, you juss ignore it because you want to be the bigger person and not stoop to their level! If you do something mean back to the person you are juss the same as them. Why would you wanna be like that?

Answer 9

I'd simply ignore the person. Mean people feel important by making other people feel inferior. Don't feed their sickness, and don't waste any time feeling bad about it.

Answer 10

ignore the person firstly.don't retaliate because you will only give the person the satisfaction.if the person is upsetting you talk to somebody who you trust and who will listen to you.if you ignore the person they will gradually stop cos these people are mean to get attention so if you ignore the person they are not gong attention therefore they will stop.