This is not another "how can I get this girl to like me" question. Here is the situation.
I went to high school with this girl, but I never had any classes or even talked to her till just about graduation day. She's friends with one of my guy friends from high school, and we played doubles once like 3 or 4 years ago. The next day she called me to play 1 on 1, but I was really tired and after we played when I went in her house and was like half asleep and overstayed my welcome by just standing there in the kitchen and I even stuttered a little bit (which I don't do anymore).
Since then I saw her for a few seconds at a high school reunion, and she was kind of cold, and saw her once at a store.
I don't have a crush on her or anything, I just want to play tennis. What makes this complicated is that my mom is friends w/her mom, so I don't want to do anything foolish.
Is it rude to call her up out of blue to play, or would it be better to have my mom ask her mom to play?
2006-07-23 10:56:39 · 6 answers · asked by Tommy 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Friends
One other detail I didn't have space to add before. After I played doubles every time I played tennis with my guy friend I asked about her, and then he finally told me he stopeed being friends with her. I still keep in touch with him.
Another thing is that when I saw her those 2 times (the last time was about a year go) I don't know why but I was kind of nervous and she didn't seem that all interested.
The reason I really want to play with her is that we both play at a pretty high level and there aren't that many people that live around us (we live about a mile away) that can well. I asked her where she plays and she said she drives 20 minutes away, even though she has a court right by her house.
If I call her what do I say so its clear that I just like her as a friend and I'm not calling her up for a date, but also that I'm not just using her for her tennis abilites? What exactly should I say when she or her parents answer?
2006-07-23 10:58:00 · update #1
If you're not calling her for a date, and all it is for is to play tennis, how complicated can this be? Rejection is hard if you liked her, but you don't, if she says yes, then you get to play tennis with her and if she says no, what's the big fat hairy deal? So, you won't play with her, hang out at the courts at some club and play others. I think you like her, you just can't say it, sounds to me that maybe she liked you, when she asked you to play her one on one, but then who knows. Just call her up and say hey, you up for a game of tennis? Meet you there (at the place you two will go play). This can't be considered a date. Since you won't be picking her up.
2006-07-23 11:02:49 · answer #1 · answered by MzzandtheChuchuBees 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ok. If you don't have interest in her that way, that will come off. All you should do is call her up and give her something that everyone loves, a little flattery! "Hi XX. I was sitting here thinking about how nice a great game of tennis would be and out of all the people I could play with, I thought of you because you're one of the best players around here. I'd really like to have a little competition if you're willing to give some." Easy. You make her feel as though a) you already thought of other people and she's one of the last to come up - thus it isn't a matter of you liking her, and b) you DO just want to play some tennis with her, nothing more. Absolutely nothing wrong with approaching her for her playing abilities. Just treat it as you would a guy. Hey, you're really good and I want competition. As far as your friend goes, well, you're not looking to go out with her, nor are you looking to invite him to play. He shouldn't be concerned and neither should you. So, flatter her and get her to play!
2016-03-16 04:04:58 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
no...next time u c her just talk 4 a bit and casually bring up the subject. be like, "Hey, wanna play a game of tennis sometime or something?" u could also try 2 get 2 know her a little better, like go out 2 coffee or whatever, and then after u've gotten 2 know her ask her if she would like 2 play a game of tennis. hope i can help!! :)
2006-07-23 11:53:15 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Next time you see her: "Hi...if you ever feel like a lively game of tennis, please call me!" Then give her your phone number. Now the ball is in her court.
2006-07-23 11:01:44 · answer #4 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
just call her and be like" hey, up for a game of tennis?"
2006-07-23 10:59:27 · answer #5 · answered by jess_huh 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
erm,how about saying "hi,fancy a game of tennis?"
2006-07-23 11:00:38 · answer #6 · answered by marc p 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
accadentally bump in to her and then say'' hey mindy wanna go play tennis somtime '' let the lady pick the time then say ''alrite tommorw it is see you then '' that simple
2006-07-23 11:01:32 · answer #7 · answered by aysha-ann 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋