My fiance and I have been together since before his son (who is now 2) was born. His son's mother--we'll call her Laura--and I have not gotten along very well in the past, but we are all trying our very best to behave. In order to further this hopefully permanent peace, I was considering inviting Laura and her husband up for dinner on a Sunday evening. This way she can see our house and that it is decent and clean, and she won't be able to claim she has never been able to inspect her son's living arrangements. However, she has an issue with her son calling me "mommy", although it is well established that children in situations like this will call both sets of parents "mommy and daddy" until they reach about three. One of my fears is that he will start calling me mommy, and she will pitch a fit in our house. Is having them over for dinner a bad idea?
2006-07-23 10:19:34 · 2 answers · asked by Bachman-ette 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
I have to applaud you for even thinking of this idea. You are really going all out for those kids and your husband. If you ask her to your home for dinner, tell her up front what the motive is...that way, there will be no surprises. An alternative to "mommy" for a step-mother is "honey". That is what my grandchildren call their step-mother. Good Luck to you. I'm sure if this doesn't work, you will make sure something does because you have someone else's best interest at heart!
2006-07-23 10:27:04 · answer #1 · answered by Sassy OLD Broad 7 · 12⤊ 0⤋
Lady, you are one class act. You know where the priorities lie (with the child). I think it is a great idea and I think I will pay off big time for the child and for both couples.
2006-07-23 17:32:20 · answer #2 · answered by snddupree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋