thers a lady out there with the screen name hayleighs mommy and i wanna tell her THANK YOU?

Question

i am goin through the worst time in my life she picked my spirits up and i thank her for that with al my heart...while everybody else was jumpin on me she showed me i don't have to feel like less than dirt just b/c i'm 16 and havin a baby

Answer 1

Sweetie,

Keep in mind that there are a lot of teenagers on this Q&A site who just answer to get points, and do not really think out an appropriate response.

Sixteen is a bit young to be having a baby, as there is soooo much in life that you are going to miss... but there are joys in having a baby too. I am afraid that as much as you will love that little bundle... there will still be many regrets. I tell my off-spring that there are two things that are forever until you die. Aids and Children. You are taking on a very big responsibility. The way that little person turns out is going to be largely planted on your shoulders. They don't stay babies forever. (unfortunately!!!)

There will be no more running out to the mall with your girlfriends at the drop of a hat. There will be more sleepless nights than you can count. Times when the baby is crying relentlessly and you cannot figure out why. Then there is teething, and all the many times they are going to fall and bump their heads while learning to walk. My daughter is twenty nine and the twins are 20 months old and she calls me with each bump, panicking that they might have a concussion.

The cost of diapers and formula will pretty well end your going out and buying any new CD's or shoes or jeans. Then there is the joy of WIC and welfare.... boy do they make things a real pain.

Then the trials of all their friends having the latest $120 sneakers, and that they won't be able to show their face at school unless they have them. And helping them with their homework. I hope your family are going to assist you so that you can at least complete your schooling. You are going to need that education to be able to get a good job so that you can support this new little person.

Having a child is the easy part. Raising the child for the next 18 years is the hard part. But, there actually are some girls who are ready for that kind of responsibility. There are as many joys to parenthood as there are difficulties.

You are going through depression because your body is undergoing many hormonal changes. Apparently, you have chosen to keep your baby. But you have doubts. This is natural, no matter what age you are. It is up to you to decide what kind of parent you are going to be. Start researching the subject. There is no perfect, right, way to raise a child. We are all just doing the best we can. No one way is going to work for all situations with a child. There is no magical "Parent's Handbook", with all the answers.

All of your friends are going to change. The people you hang with now are still going to be partying, doing drugs, hanging with inappropriate people in inappropriate places. They will get tired of you not being able to do things with them anymore. But, you will develop a whole new set of friends who are more responsible.

You will adapt to a whole new way of life. Everything you do now will have an impact on your child. My daughter left the father of her first child because he would not stop selling drugs. She had nightmares of him riding down the street and some thug shooting into the car not knowing that her baby was in there with him. She is no longer friends with any of the people she hung with when she was not a mother. Now she has a responsible man and a home and a new life.

You just change, grow up, when you have the responsibility of another person. But don't feel like dirt about your decision. Don't keep trying to second guess yourself. It will only make you feel crazy. You have made a decision, now arm yourself to be the best mother a child could ever ask for. There are plenty of countries out there where 16 is not an unusual age to get married and have children.

Start making preparations. Decide where you want to be in five years, ten years... Get your education. My daughter's biggest regret is that she did not stay in school. She went back later and got her GED, but now she is realizing that all she is able to earn is limited wages due to having no career training.

You are going to get lot's of advice from lot's of people. Not all of it will be anything you can use, but thank them for the advice, and use what you can of it. Lord knows there is a lot of advice out there since it costs nothing to give. Just relax. Your natural motherly insticts will kick in.

Answer 2

aw yeh thats nice of her i read what the other people said and it was really mean, i hate some of these people on this website.
raising a baby is hard enough at any age doesnt matter if your 16 or 30, you will do just fine everyone struggles on anything, i know i even struggle on the gas prices. it only cost an average of $300 a month for a newborn baby. you will do just fine, start saving 300 a month and you will be AOK when your angel is born goodluck hunnie

Answer 3

Awww that's really cute. Well I don't know who that is but whatever bad things that are going on in your life I totally wish you the best! No one deserves pain in life so I am here for you! I hope everything is okay or gets better!

Good Luck!

Answer 4

ok i understand your mom is all you have right now but you really think that she is going to put you out if you have her grandchild sweety let me tell you this 9 times out of ten she wont you know why she told you she will is because you are her baby and she just want the best for you, you know how moms get they try to scare you but your mom loves you to much to throw you out, she cant do that cause you are still under 18 and if she do throw you out it is possoble that she can get in trouble because you are still a minor sweety so dont worry about that, and as far as your boyfriend what is he saying, i know he wants to go away to college and everything but you and him really need to talk , have you ever considering to move near where he is going to college at so he can be near his child. tell me what his saying. ok email me anytime and dont worry about them stupid people on yahoo anwsers im here 4 you ok ..

Answer 5

people are mean and they don't care what they say. keep your head up and yes tell your mom she will help you more then you think. She might be mad but not for long, that's her grandbaby, she'll understand. Your lucky you have your mom by your side i don't and im kinda in the same place as you and i wish i can tell my mom but she's not around so tell her before she finds out.

Answer 6

I hope that she contacts you and I am sorry that people have been cruel to you--I hope you and the Baby are safe and healthy! good luck and keep smiling

Answer 7

Gibby Its cool

Answer 8

Hey don't sweat it...accidents happen...You will do fine! Just keep your head up!

Answer 9

she left you a email address on her reply to you/
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