i am gay and i sacred to tell my parents and family plus they r really strict and Christen?

Question

if am able to tell them i can tell anybody

Answer 1

It kind of depends on how old you are and how strict they are. If you're fairly young and you fear that they might kick you out or make your future time with them a nightmare, you may just have to stay in the closet. As much as it sucks, you wouldn't want to have that happen. If you're a bit older but still live with them, and you fear that they might take away your college money, the same applies. If you're an adult and don't live with them, just tell them.

If/when you do decide to tell your parents, you should do a couple of things beforehand. First, check out "Now That You Know: A Parent's Guide to Understanding Their Gay and Lesbian Children" from your local library, and read through it. I think it's a great book, and you will probably find the section on religion particularly helpful. Secondly, come out to someone else that you can turn to for support, as you will likely need it. Plus, that will be practice. Thirdly, plan what you are going to say and when, and remember not to come out in anger. They will probably need as much time as you did to come out to yourself, maybe more.

You're in my prayers, and if you need someone to talk to (I'm going through the same thing right now), you can e-mail me at [e-mail]

Best wishes!

Answer 2

Oy, I went through that. My parents are fundamentalist Christians and I'm atheist and bisexual so it was a ***** to go through. The best thing you can do is start to befriend some people who are accepting to homosexuality. That way you'll have some people to support you if your parents choose not to accept you. Also, you should find some friends that wouldn't mind taking you in if your parents were to kick you out. When I came out to my parents they kicked me out of the house for about a week so I went to live with my brother, it's good to have somewhere like that to go, just in case. If the **** hits the fan, you can also try calling the hotlines below. They're open 24/7 and would be able to assist you.

1-800-448-3000. National Teen Emergency Hotline

1-866-4-U-TREVOR (488-7386). The Trevor Project for Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and Questioning Teens

Answer 3

Oh jeez!!! You're in a tough situation aren't you? Since your family are really strict and Christian, they might "shun" you from the family. But maybe they won't. I do not want to answer this because either way, the outcome isnt too good. If you tell them, you might get "shunned". If you don't, you're lying to them and even yourself when you're around them, and that could cause pain. I just hope that you follow your heart. Maybe ask a close family member what their opinion is about homosexuals. Ask someone in your family (again who is close to you) if they would ever accept someone in the family who is gay. I wish you the best of luck!

Answer 4

How old are you first off, if your a teenager, then slow down. Sexual awareness is a growing process; you need to have a little experience in real world, go to college, get out of the house, then with a little maturity you can make family and friends aware. Your parents love you, but as a teenager they are not wanting sex to be your top priority; you need to develop as a young adult first. So just enjoy being with your friends, male and female, sex and your sexual persuation will fall into place as you get older.

Answer 5

Well I don't want to criticize you...but I am Christian also, grown up in a Christian home...so I know your body is thinking that it wants to be with the same sex...but really if you go back to the bible and check out references you would see how god talks about those things... homosexuality, bisexuality, orgies, and a whole boat load of things... So, before you settle down in those thoughts and really accept the "change" pray about it, and maybe talk to someone about it that can help you...preferrably someone who is unbiased agains homo and bi sexualism. Alright? But really, if your family is Christian, than we tend to be understanding and loving people, talk to the one person you trust the most in your family...long distance or not, and tell them about it.

Answer 6

well my friend has had the same problem... except he told everyone else first that he was gay... but i guess all u have to do is tell ur parents and if they dont accept u for who u r... well they just need to get over it... just tell them u want to say something to them and tell them to promis not to get mad... i mean what else is there to do really... would u rather then hear it from someone else or hear it from u?

Answer 7

I would look into support groups for teens who are planning on coming out to their parents. There are tons of people who are going through the exact same thing as you, and you always have people you can turn to. Good luck!

Answer 8

just tell them listen i dont like girls never have never will im gay, if you dont like it then disown me cause im not going to change who i am for anyone.
trust me no one wants there kids to be gay or lesbian but you get what you get , they made you , your not to blame at all
and by the way being gay isnt a disability or anything your normal just like a different gender, sometimes i consider changing haha

Answer 9

first ask Jesus Christ to forgive you and tell the guy he needs to repent too. thats sick being gay. dont ever think about gay stuff again. dont tell anyone about it after that. and find u a hot gurlfriend. gay is sick. go and eat a gurl out and listen to her scream ur name and then u probley wont be gay anymore

Answer 10

Change your ways. Stop being gay. Tell them nothing.