I am 8 months pregnant and when I was 4 months my friend said she was going to throw my baby shower. I had 3 other people who wanted to throw a shower for me but I told them there was no need because my best friend was going to throw one. A bunch of people wanted to be invited and we went around to stores and registered for it and everything. Well the shower was supposed to be August 5th (in like 12 days) and my friend hasn't done anything with requards to the shower not even asked me for a guest list. So I called her today and she said she hadn't really thought about it at all and asked if we could just cancel. Of course I said we could cancel and I was nice about it but my feelings were pretty hurt. My other friends would have been happy throwing the baby shower but i blew them off cuz she said she would do it. I don't really need the shower we can afford to buy what we need ourselves, but I got excited about it. Should I really be this upset about her blowing me off?
2006-07-23 09:58:08 · 8 answers · asked by ashez 4 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Newborn & Baby
i don't understand your answer tkdgal. she isn't going to a baby shower she was supposed to throw mine!
also for the others.. it is very improper to throw your own baby shower.. and shes not planning a suprise one, she wouldn't know who to invite we have completely different social circles.
2006-07-23 10:14:40 · update #1
Shes not jealous or resenting my baby. She is the baby's god mother! Its just that her husband has been away for like 7 months and he just got home and shes got two jobs all in all a lot on her plate right now. I can actually understand why she doesn't have time to plan a shower. Still she shouldnt have said she was going to throw one in the first place.
2006-07-23 11:27:31 · update #2
Get together with your mom or sister I am sure they will help you out. Yep She would definitely be one who does not get invited. This is important to you and she blew you off. Throw your own shower and invite close friends..
2006-07-23 11:24:03 · answer #1 · answered by *bossy* 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You have every right to be upset. How very rude of your so-called "friend". I would have the shower anyway and not invite her.
I'm not suggesting you throw the shower yourself. You must have another friend you can ask. If you don't want to outright ask then maybe you can just tell a few friends what you've told us here and they will take it from there. Is it at all possible that the first friend IS planning a party and just didn't want to ruin the suprise? There are always ways around getting addresses and names.
2006-07-23 10:01:38 · answer #2 · answered by LeAnne 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your friend is jealous. Is she trying to get pregnant or is she resenting you for having a baby?
I, too, have a friend that NEVER calls except for once per summer. She didn't come to my baby shower or get me a gift when she did stop over unexpectedly when my daughter was born. I did EVERYTHING for her when she was pregnant out of wedlock....took her to the doctor, held her hair back to puke, attended her shower, and even went to garage sales to clothe her daughter. I NEVER got any thank you's and don't talk to her anymore. Enough is enough!
2006-07-23 11:12:55 · answer #3 · answered by Mom of One in Wisconsin 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Wow i am sorry to hear this. She is being very insensitive, and for now i would just let it lay. You are eight months pregnant and highly emotional, don't let this ruin your pregnancy and upcoming birth. Or......she could be playing stupid because she has a surprise planned. Either way, good luck on your birth day.
2006-07-23 10:05:37 · answer #4 · answered by Jade 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
id be pissed i dont care if shes got a lot on her plate if she said she'd do she should do it she is supposed to be your best friend she could of at least told you so you could of got someone else to do it its not the point you and your husband can buy all the stuff yalls self its the point its your special day with you being pregnant everyones supposed to rub your belly and be excited id be mad
2006-07-23 11:32:51 · answer #5 · answered by cutenwild1769 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
absofreakinlutely!
if u r upset
then u SHOULD be upset
u need to have a conversation with your friend
and put it all on the table
let her know the impact of what she did and what she did not do
really tell har all of ur expectations
AND what u now need from here to clean up the past to make it right ( if anything )
and let her know that you love her
( that is why ur diappointed)
2006-07-23 11:12:53 · answer #6 · answered by zigzagidiot 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well no u shouldn't.She has a baby shower to take care of and so do u.She can't just go to your baby shower when she already is doing one!!!
2006-07-23 10:04:52 · answer #7 · answered by ~Julia~ 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe its a "surprise" one and shes just blowing you off like this. alot of people do this, my family did.
2006-07-23 10:03:17 · answer #8 · answered by jamiehamster 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋