Missing limb(s), limited use of arms or legs? Do you consider it strange when someone with full movement has a disabled person as their significant other?
To make this clear:
*I have nothing against the handicapped and disabled.
*I have friends who have disabilities.
*I date a someone with disabilities.
I appreciate ALL comments. :)
2006-07-23 09:54:03 · 16 answers · asked by Aida 1 in Society & Culture ➔ Other - Society & Culture
Thank you to those who are more open minded, you are inspiring. :)
Thanks everyone for the comments, even the ones I don't agree with, it's nice to see peoples opinions.
And I did report that larry guy...
2006-07-23 10:13:47 · update #1
*Instant message me to continue topic. :)
2006-07-23 10:46:18 · update #2
HI Aida. I not only date a disabled person, but I am married to a disabled person. However I don't regard them as disabled more as enabled in areas I am not. For example due to the nature of his disability my partner will sometimes not be able to move very far. so to deal with that has started making teddies instead of claiming benefits. These teddies are really highly regarded and even stocked by Harrods. My point is that it is not funny me being with him more funny him being with me!!! Having said all that if I go somewhere like the mall with him in his wheelchair, people will avoid eye contact or talk directly to me about him!!! How little some people understand about other people!! I guess my point is don't feel guilty about discrimination because we all do it, but rather don't be ignorant and treat everyone as a human being.
2006-07-23 10:02:51 · answer #1 · answered by waggy 6 · 8⤊ 2⤋
I guess its okay if thats what you feel is right. I once dated someone handicapped and i suffered seeing him in pain. Sometimes i wished i was with someone healthy and complete and it limited me from doing things with him that other couples had no problem doing. Dont get me wrong. Everyone deserves love. His insecurities made us brake up. I couldnt handle it and i left. If you think this guy is the one then go for it. Just be prepared to make any sacrifices you will probably have to make in the long run. Just remember that love is unconditional and if it is there, then thats where you should be. Good luck;)
2006-07-23 17:01:25 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I had my left leg amputated above the knee. I've found that almost all American women are very accepting of men with physical problems like mine. It's another reason to be proud of this country. And, for the record, as someone who IS physically handicapped, I DO NOT find your question offensive. In fact, I thank you for opening up this topic.
2006-07-23 17:03:37 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's fine as long as they've still got all their marbles...... I've currently got a friend on Yahoo Messenger that's kinda crazy about me...... she's paraplegic, got spina bifida, a spine that if it was any more curved it'd be a circle, hydrocephalus + deteriorating hips.
OR failing that, there's my best friend in Ohio (if her Husband makes anymore screw-ups)..... who has a Curved spine, Carpal Tunnel Syndrome + Ovarian cysts (why the hell they won't approve her claim for disability benefits is beyond me) and has been responsible for 9 shrinks to either quit practising or leave the State entirely.
2006-07-23 17:36:07 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would date someone with a physical disability. A person is who they are on the inside not the box that they come in.
2006-07-23 16:57:47 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I dated a blind guy once, and we got along fine until his heroin addiction came between us.
A close friend of mine (able bodied; actually a very nice able body) lives with a woman who is a quadriplegic. I was a bit leery at first, thinking he was just pitying her, but once I got to know her, and saw how genuinely devoted to one another they were, I got over my qualms. She's a wonderfully intelligent person, and so is he, and I think he is sufficiently delighted to have someone with whom he can really communicate that he doesn't care about the rest. Also, they both have enough of a sense of humor (she runs a web site about sex with the handicapped, and it's pretty racy!) that they can overcome various practical difficulties, usually by laughing their heads off.
Understand, this is a guy who, in terms of looks, could have just about any girl he wanted. But he was frustrated over and over by women who had very different expectations, who did not appreciate that he is truly brilliant in his quirky way, and who did not share nearly as many interests as he and his current love share. They are both computer geeks, and she is very knowledgeable about accessibility issues with regard to the computer, and they are just fine, last I heard. (They moved out of town, so I haven't heard from them in quite a while.)
I say follow your heart, wherever it leads.
2006-07-23 17:06:20 · answer #6 · answered by auntb93again 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have Rheumatoid Arthritis since I was 3 yrs (26 now) and was always self conscious about it while dating. Fortunately, I met a man who is not shallow (and very handsome to boot!) and he takes very good care of me and our 1 year old son. So I do not consider it strange to be with a man who loves me for me.
2006-07-23 17:05:05 · answer #7 · answered by kel d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, I already have a boyfriend. If he ever became handicapped, I'd love him just the same. He's perfect for me, if he was handicapped when we first met, I still would have started dating him.
2006-07-23 16:57:23 · answer #8 · answered by i luv teh fishes 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If we got along well enough to date, I can't imagine why I'd get uptight about a physical disability. That's pretty shallow.
2006-07-23 16:58:02 · answer #9 · answered by HisChamp1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
good question. Sadly I'm too superficial, but I think some guys are more of a man than me. It really should be all about the person, I wish your friend luck
2006-07-23 16:58:45 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋