We have been together for three years and well over a year ago he ask me to marry him. May we were suppose to marry and well that fell through and now it is in September the only thing is I don't think he wants to marry. He's freaking out about how he is stressed about giving a honeymoon and Wedding too. I told him Invitations at least to our family and that what is he thinking. He says "I DON'T KNOW." I ask him if he would feel better if we just went to the Justice of the peace would that put him at ease. and no honeymoon for now. No Answer Decides to go to Home Depot Help please give me some ideas
2006-07-23 09:37:11 · 7 answers · asked by kimber69 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I would not say anymore about marriage and if in a couple of months he doesn't bring it up then I would sit him down and talk to him about whether he ever wanted to marry me. If his actions change you know something is wrong with his feelings for you. Honey, don't wait forever to marry him. You are the only one who knows your true feelings for him and whether you wait for him. Go with your gut feeling on this one.
2006-07-23 10:35:12 · answer #1 · answered by Krinta 7 · 7⤊ 1⤋
Your so-called fiance is not unsure about anything. He's sure he does not want to get married. Why did he ask in the first place? Probably because after two years you were giving him clues that he needed to ask to string you along for another year or so.
If he comes back from Home Depot (50% chance maybe), you have two choices. In either case sit him down and look him in the eye. Choice #1: The marriage if off, you accept that he is not commited to the relationship, but it is okay and he can suck the best years of your life out of you without guilt. Choice #2: The marriage is off, the partie's over, and don't let the door hit you in the *** on the way out. (He will then beg you to set the wedding date. At that point you should call the police and have him forceably evicted.)
What you will probably do is corner him and force him to marry you. If he comes back from Home Depot, he is weak enough that you can easily browbeat him into submission. You need to stop giving him choices. Just tell him when and where to show up for the nuptials. After that, you can enjoy a couple of years of living hell until you decide you've had enough of his whining about how you forced him to marry you and get a divorce.
You're a divorce lawyer's dream. You go girl!
2006-07-23 09:52:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should not just let this issue go without resolving it. He is a man, he has nothing to lose. If he gets fed-up of you, he can just move on. You on the other hand will be heartbroken. Make him commit. Don't allow him to "get the milk for free" any longer. 3 yrs is too long in my books. If he can't afford a honeymoon or the wedding dinner, do as you proposed.........go to the justice of peace. But do go off on a short affordable honeymoon or else you will regret it for the rest of your life.
2006-07-23 13:20:22 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Postpone your wedding, he's got cold feet, It will do no good to push. Better to find out now it won't work than after the I Do's.
2006-07-23 09:41:59 · answer #4 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he doesnt want to get married nor commmit i think you should let this one go and move on and be free to find someone whom you really should be with,nerves dont count to no one when your really in love
2006-07-23 09:50:33 · answer #5 · answered by treatau 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This guy does not have marriage on his mind. His whole attitude about it is telling you something.
2006-07-23 09:44:49 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't do it....he's not ready or he doesn't want to marry you.
2006-07-23 09:46:04 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋