My bf dumped me one month ago.It was very painful I still love him very much...Now he has some huge problems and I'm wondering, should I help him or stand by, as he did during my days of horrible sadness and despair.
2006-07-23 09:34:32 · 31 answers · asked by ADA 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
See you dont have to pay backin love... Though he dumped you, you should help him if you think you want to... Make him realize what a big mistake he made by dumping you... Then may be he would want to come back... Then it will be your time to take a decision...
2006-07-23 09:38:22 · answer #1 · answered by DrAgOn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Karma goes both ways. I think at a certain point some people have bad karma coming back to them, which in this case overrides you doing him a good turn. Stand back and let the chips fall where they may. He did not help you when you needed him and he dumped you. Keep that in mind. -- Or ask yourself a question. -- If it was you who was in trouble now with huge problems and you asked him for help and all was going well with him, would he come to help you, having dumped you? Treat him as he treated you. If he comes to you wanting to treat you well, that is a basis for reconciliation. But you feeding into his life, his concerns, his worries, is not a basis for reconciliation. After the honeymoon period he would dump you again. Imagine going through the sadness and despair AGAIN, except worse this time. Do your future self a favour and unplug the phone and ignore your email. Let him learn.
2006-07-23 09:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Katrine 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He dumped you? Well, here's the rub, you still think you love him, and that's not true, you probably loved the idea, but not this guy. Let him find his own end, while you spend all of your time reaching for your own. Don't waste any time even thinking about it. Just go out there, and do something different, you really can't help him, the only thing that can come from you doing any sort of thing is, you'll waste time, or, waste time and get hurt more. God Bless. :)
2006-07-23 09:38:16 · answer #3 · answered by fromdheart 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It really depends on the relationship you did have when you were together. It also depends on what it is. Sometimes relationships that have failed can turn in to the greatest friendships. Yes, it does happen. But, if you feel you are still in love with him I think I would stand by unless he has asked you for your help and if you won't be burdened financially. You won't get it back.
2006-07-23 09:39:51 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
your ex's can still be your friends and sometimes really good ones at that. Stand by him especially if he did the same for you once. Maybe your not good together as far as bf and gf but friendship well a really good friend is hard to come by
2006-07-23 09:41:30 · answer #5 · answered by kimber69 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've probably been such an important part of his life (even though he was the one that did the breaking up), that any support you can give to him will mean the world.
Just make sure your help is pure concern and not filled with ulterior motives, otherwise you're setting yourself up to get hurt again.
2006-07-23 09:37:55 · answer #6 · answered by stulsevoli 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You could offer a shoulder and be the bigger person. Do not let him back in though only to use you and discard you again. Sometimes in our moment of crisis we reach out to familiarity and then when the storm passes we don't "ole faithful " anymore . Just protect yourself and make him sorry for losing you. He think twice before doing it again.
2006-07-23 09:40:08 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to help him, do so in a way so as not to make yourself vulnerable by his weary emotions. What he is going through is just temporary, he will get over his problems and will just walk out on you again. You are too precious to be wasted on someone who cannot give you love in return. Be strong and LOVE YOURSELF FIRST. Help him but set bounderies for yourself and him.
2006-07-23 09:39:12 · answer #8 · answered by Doclester 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No.....he didn't want you then, so he don't need you now. I'm sorry that it still hurts, but helping him out won't change things, and he'll never repay you anyway. The pain will go away with time, go and find you someone who'll treat you right, and forget about this loser. Best of luck to you..........
2006-07-23 09:50:16 · answer #9 · answered by cajunrescuemedic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to be the bigger person. Even though he hurt you very much. Guys will come & go. You should help him, who knows...something good will probably come of it. You should put your problems with him aside, & if you still love someone, you'll help them in any situation. Hope this helps!
2006-07-23 09:41:33 · answer #10 · answered by Kerosene 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋