i'm 16 and pregnant....i can take care of my baby money wise..but i afrai to tell my momma and family?

Question

my mom is 51 years old and looks very young so she enjoyin her life and she abrley wants to take care of me ...she told me she'll put me out cuz she's not takin care of another baby....i don't kno wat to do...i have a place to go but i don't kno how to tel her...i'm sfraid she won't speak to me again

for those who think i'm crazy...i can support my child money wise....i have job makin 13 dollars an hour..and yes i'm only 16 ....i kno it'll cost more..but i have my daddie sside of the family to back me up...and my boyfriend come froma very wealthy family and he has a job also.....so yes i am aware of the cost but i am ready...and i kno its gonna be some penny pichin days.

Answer 1

Hon thier is tons of help out thier you can get.

You can always go file for section 8 and that way you can get your own apartment or row home and you can get on WIC and thier are many daycares out thier who will give you a discount because of how young you are.

Another plus is young mothers such as yourself can get into college for very cheap if not free.

I know how you are feeling right now because I got pregnant at 16 and it was scary but I am glad I kept my baby and hey I am getting into college for free so I have no complaints =)

You should check out justmommies.com , it is a forum site for mothers and they have forums for teen pregnancy and young mommies under 20..The people thier are real nice and supportive

Answer 2

This is a really tough time, trust me I know, I got pregnant at 17 and had my first baby boy at 18...the greatest things in my life are him and his baby brother. It is only natural for your mom to be upset when you tell her, it is so hard for a mother to let go of their baby, and to her you still are her baby and you will be until the end. Just give her time to deal with it and if you have somewhere to go perhaps you should do that and make it as easy on her as you can, but don't loose sight that now you and the baby matter more than anything in the world. A girl always needs her mommy and she will come around just give her time...and as for you, good luck and hang in there...it won't be long that you will have your precious little baby and though times can be and probably will be tough, a mother can always manage..sometimes things just have a way of working themselves out. Don't let anyone (including mother) get you down, if you have the courage to accept this responsibility, then you have absolutely nothing to be ashamed of. You are not the first young mother and I guarantee that you will not be the last.I couldn't imagine life without my boys and I had to sacrifice a lot for them, including many squabbles with my own mother and father. Soon I'm sure you will feel the same, the baby is worth it. Good luck.

Answer 3

I think you should ask your mom half jokingly what if I had a baby ha ha I would have a big stomach and everything ha ha . what would you do I would probably get mad cause you told me to do my chores ha-ha. see what her answer is if she says Why are you pregnant say Well probably not. and ask about what she would do. If it is a good reply then go out the next day and come back later and tell her you are pregnant if it is a bad reply than you should ask what age she had you and give some time to tell her like two months or something like that. When you tell her Tell her that you need support your baby needs a grandma and you want your mom still. I am old mom. I wanted a baby a nice bundle of joy plz except me mom plz. and by the way congrats.

Answer 4

First off, I want to tell you that you are a very mature young woman and you will be very successful in life. I wish for you only good, and shame, shame, shame on those people who are ridiculing you for a mistake that probably happened to many of them. Your mother needs to get real. You are having a baby, and you are willing and deteremined to support this baby. You boyfriend is also willing to. Is there any way that you could move in with him? You can get on programs, like WIC, and you will be able to go to warehouse stores to get supplies, like Sam's Club or Costco. Tell your mother that you are an intelligent person, are not a "moocher", and just need a roof over your head. Save all of your paycheck (or most) into a seprate savings account so you can get the crib, clothes, etc for the baby that you don't recieve at your shower. If someone isn't willing to throw one, do it yourself, you need the items. Start stocking up on formula and other expensive things now, and have your boyfriend keep them at his house if your mother won't let you. Just tell her you won't put up with her childish antics and you're moving out. Then do it. I'm sure she'll change her mind once she sees your darling baby. Congrats and Good Luck!

Answer 5

Im 16 and i have two kids a lil boy 21 months old and a lil girl on the way i too take care of both of my children both money wise and as a parent with the help of my mother and my fiance...my situation might be a little diffrent from yours but my mom told me the same thing and the first time she wouldnt really talk to me and threatened to kick me out but didnt this time she's takin it better but is kicking me out but ill be goin to stay with my fiance when school starts...If i where you id just tell her she will get over it especially if she loves you i can garuntee you its not going to be easy its hard as hell but you'll get through it with or without her help but you should make sure uyou get prenatal care and all that good stuff..

Answer 6

omg people seriously!! At least the girl is trying...jeez, back off a little. most of these things ive read on here are ridiculous....

anyway...
honey, i just wanted to let you know that i got pregnant at 17, my boyfriend (husband now) was only 16! i know, i was not as young as you. but i give you SOO much credit on not having an abortion and choosing to give your baby a chance. and dont listen to everyone on here about how you need all this money and you have to be "wealthy". my husband is making $7.50 an hour, and im not working, since i stay home with my daughter and take care of her all day. and we are making it just fine. we just got a brand new car, have our own apartment, .and we are not "wealthy!!" all your daughter/son needs is your love... my daughter is the happiest baby in the world, and im not wealthy! oh and a friend of mine is a single mother, has her own apartment, car, everything... and shes making $14 an hour.. on her own!! so... by the sounds of it, with you making $13 an hour, and your b/f also working..you will do just fine!! you dont have to be rich to have a baby!!! thats crazy!!! if you need anything, have any questions at all.. dont hesitate to ask!!--- [e-mail]


CONGRATS AND GOOD LUCK TO YOU, YOUR BABY, AND YOUR BOYFRIEND... AND THUMBS UP TO KEEPING THAT BABY!!

--Natasha

Answer 7

Honey, if your mother is that neglegent to her own child, then you're probably better off following your own instinct with your child. If you have a place to go that's willing to help with your child, then you really need to consider it. However, you still need to tell your mother that she has a grandchild to be in existence. I went through the same thing because I got pregnant at 17. They might gang up on you about how irresponsible it was to get pregnant at 16, and when they do, remind them that it's no longer about you anymore. It's about the baby. When I pratically yelled that to the whole neighborhood (which i do not suggest doing in a fit of rage), it changed a few points of view.

Answer 8

my only true advice would be do what you feel, and not what you think. It sounds easy but I know it's not. I understand what you're going through, not about the pregnancy, but because I'm 16 as well and my mother literally almost killed me when she found out I was sexually active, which was coincidentally 2 weeks ago. So, I am on complete lockdown from everything. But, just have faith in yourself, and don't think to hard on anything. Whatever you feel, is whatever you should go by because your mind and your heart aren't always best friends when it comes to things like this. I'm really sorry, I hope everything goes well. Things will look better in the end.

Answer 9

Well, dear, now you know why sex is NOT for children. Your mother will find out. sooner or later. So, you may as well get it over with and tell her TODAY!

The baby will need more money, than you, as a 16 year old have. Maybe your father will let you stay with him.

You, have to learn the hard way, to take care of a baby.

Answer 10

why dont you and your boyfriend move and rent a apartment together with all utilities included and he can go to work why you raise the baby until the baby gets 3 or 4 so it can go to school and you can go back to work and as far as your mother she will eventually get over it but you shouldnt worry about how she feels you have a baby now and what you need to do is get your own place you and your boyfriend its time you start thinking about the family you are about to have so as far as im concern you need too not care what ur mom thinks