My hubby has been buggin me lately during sex to tell him my fantasy. He says I fulfill his so he wants to know mine! So finally I told him I don't have an actual physical fantasy, because I find myself fantacising almost every time we have sex either flying like eagles or swimming like fish(sometimes even more like a very intense dream). He seemed almost disapointed! Is that wrong of me? Or does there have to be a physical fantasy there? I've always thought we have a pretty good sexual relationship, is there something missing that I'm overlooking? Help!
2006-07-23 09:12:21 · 7 answers · asked by North of Heaven 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
geesh- just make one up like a fiary tale. Make certain that he is the on who comes to save you as men's egos get bruised easity. Isnt that simple. Its a relationship, lean to lie a little.
2006-07-23 09:24:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
My wife doesn't admit to having sexual fantasies either. I don't know if I believe her or not, because years ago she told me of a couple of hers. Now she says she doesn't have any. I think it's OK not to have fantasies. Your hubby is thinking that since he fantasizes about doing "stuff" out of the ordinary, or with someone else, then you must think the same thing. If you don't, it's OK. He probably is disappointed, but he will get over it. I did!! If you are interested in exploring "fantasies" you could watch a porn video or on line with him, to see if there is anything that you think is "interesting" that you might like to try. Good Luck
2006-07-23 09:19:28 · answer #2 · answered by marks3kids 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your imagination during sex is comparable to the "fireoworks" that some people claim to see when having an orgasm. Your husband should be flattered, not disappointed, that you have these images, and happy that you're not thinking of someone else to try to get off. It means that he "does it" for you.
2006-07-23 09:18:36 · answer #3 · answered by T Time 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why can't he just be happy with what you tell him? Is it so hard for him to believe that he satisfies you so much that you have no desire to think about anything or anyone else?
Some people just don't have that "sexual imagination", and there is nothing wrong with that.
2006-07-23 09:16:49 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
my wife has that problem and only after she see a porno or roll-plays on-line is where she gets her fantasy. good luck she also reads dirty novels
2006-07-23 09:21:02 · answer #5 · answered by celticdragon 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't have one either. Guys are more visual then women when it comes to that. Ask him how he wants to feel emotionally when you make love ;-)
2006-07-23 09:17:35 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
YEAH, ITS FINE NOT TO HAVE ONE.
2006-07-23 09:15:24 · answer #7 · answered by chevy 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋