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Question

am i wrong?
I just narrated a hindi movie love story to my fiance where the boy leaves his house(as his father opposes the girl he loves) and under goes lots of hardships to marry the girl he loves.He goes through hell searching for jobs,even works as a labourer and leaves his family.Suddenly my fiance interrupted and said that dont expect all this from me,i told you from the first day.ie.my fiance gives too much love and respect to his family.
Though all this was just a casual conversation but i felt very bad.dont you think he should be like the boy in the movie?or am I over reacting?

Additional Details

17 minutes ago
i know my fiance loves me a lot(too much) but why cant he do "anything" for me..

5 answers

Answer 1

A movie and Stories are fiction.
Everythig about them is made up and has little in common with reality and real life.

Sure it would be wonderful if people and our real life were more like a storybook or a movie, but the reason people write them and go see them is because they aren't! And we need something to escape into for a time, because real life is so hard.

Some men will do more than others for the one they love. It depends on their upbringing, culture, and personality. Also, you really need to keep in mind that "love" is not just a feeling, it is an ACTION!! If a person loves another person, then they will follow up that with action that is loving and caring.

Your boyfriend is saying he loves you, and you know he loves you, but you are speaking of the feelings, of wanting to be near, perhaps of the excitement of sexual encounters. True love also is actively involved in showing it by little and big ways ... both directions!

If what you need and want in a relationship is more than your boyfriend is willing to give, then you either need to lower your expectations, or go find a boyfriend that will give more.

Answer 2

Okay . . . I know you don't want to hear this answer . . . but don't marry him. You know why . . . because you are expecting him to do things, that you know is out of his nature.

You have a false idea, on how men are suppose to react to do things because of these movies. Guys are not like what you see in these movies and you can not expect guys to act like that. If you do . . . you are not ready for marriage.

Look . . . I don't know how old you are . . . but you sound young . . . early to mid 20's - barely out of high school or in college. If you are . . . that is another reason you should not get married . . . you are too young . . . and you have no focus for your future because you are distracted by boyfriends and other things.

Look . . . if your boyfriend truly loves you . . . he will do things for you, that you don't even expect . . . plus, from what it sounds . . . his family doesn't object . . . so why should he abandon his family. Or shall I ask . . . do you hate your boyfriend that much, that you want to destroy his relationship with his family?

Love goes both way . . . and from this question and your statement that follows . . . the only love you have is for yourself and what your boyfriend can do for you.

Please let him go . . . before you destroy him . . . . Because if you don't . . . I know what will happen.

You two will get married . . . you will get pregnant and have at least one or more kids. Then you will cut your hair short, because it is convenient for you . . . and then eventually gain weight (Weight gain may happen prior to you cutting your hair.)

You or your husband will cheat (for various reasons - either he is too busy working and don't spend time with you and don't listen to you . . . or you butch yourself too much and withhold loving attention he needs that he will look elsewhere for it.).

Eventually, you two will divorce . . . you will gain custody and collect child support until they reach majority and alimony for several years (one year for every two you were married).

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You don't like this . . . do you?

Then change it . . . stop thinking about what you boyfriend can do for you . . . and start thinking what you can do for your boyfriend. Think of the other person first, about their needs and wants . . . it is a two way street . . . he should be doing that for you and you should be doing that for him (without thinking). If you or he cannot . . . then you are both not ready.

Answer 3

Disaster results when women tries to change a man's behavior.

According to a man he as to be himself this is way you fell in love with him ( yes ).

This person you wish for him to be is not the person you meant so why ask him to change.

I'm not trying to make you do something just show you from a mans point of view the facts.

Example Okay...Say this women meet this man at a near by swimming hole and he is fishing.
They began to talk as he gets his boat out the water and then ask her out noticing she as taking fond to him by talking.

She replies with this answer yes and they are now into there # 2 month and the whole time he has been fishing at least once a week.

But she decides she don't like him fishing...but this is how he was when they meant and she like him then so shes pushing his back up against the wall...to change now ( disaster ) is fixing to happen. trying to change a man!!

Bottom line is be yourself.
You will be happier.

Answer 4

I think you may be overreacting just a bit. You said you know he loves you but he might not feel he has to express it like the guy in the movie did. He doesn't need to be like the guy in the movie, he just needs to continue to be himself which is the guy you fell in love with in the first place.

Answer 5

if u go thro with this marriage remember that u cannot go against his families wishes.is this how it feels even though the guy in the movie did whats right.will he do whats right with u or take sides to family even when they are wrong and oppressive

Answer 6

Am I the only one here who dosent give a damn about what my family thinks ?