We were divorced 06-06-06...I would think he would be happy, but instead he does things to me and our son, that he knows is going to keep us fighting. How do I get him to phuck off and grow up!?
2006-07-23 08:43:08 · 7 answers · asked by Phranky M 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
the easiest way although not fun and you have heard this from your folks growing up " just ignore him" although some of the things he does hurts either you are your children, you have already found out talking to him about it isnt fun and acheives nothing you best bet is to file a contemp case with the court as you both promise to do somthing in the best intrest of the child. other wise you never let him see you sweat if he does somthing just turn away and act as if it doesnt bother you go home and beat the living mess out of a pillow or anything else you want to name " your ex-hubby" but if he sees he made you mad he will enjoy it becuase he likes it and will do somthing else. he is bitter and untill he realises he is not bothering you he will continue. just dont fall for his game, love your son and talk alot to him with out insulting his father. replace all the hate for him and turn it into love for the boys sake.. my ex wife and i have been through this she cant stand the fact that i moved on although she has a boyfriend she tried playing games with me and my new wife . we turned the other cheek and although it irratated her more she finally realised she looks petty and foolish since she didnt have someone to argue with. and i love knowing no matter how hard she pushed i took the higher road....... she is an idiot. lmao good luck i hope it helps......
2006-07-23 08:55:36 · answer #1 · answered by joe 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like your ex is a big baby. Some people never grow up. The best thing to do is ignore him as much as you can and take notes. Write down everything he does and if things get too bad, go to the police. You probably don't want to do this, but you never know what someone will do. Just keep you and your son safe.
2006-07-23 08:48:14 · answer #2 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop fighting him back. Ignore his actions. It takes two to tango honey. If you back off of him, what else can he do but back too. You are now divorced. Let him know that you will deal with him only for the welfare of your son and he should feel the same. Wish him luck and leave it be. If he continues, like I said, ignore him. Your son has you and that's all he needs. If he wants to be an a.s.s. to your son just to get at you, he will have to deal with him son someday. So enjoy your life and ignore this punk. He can only upset you if you allow him to upset you.
2006-07-23 08:51:05 · answer #3 · answered by BluePassion 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How does he do crappy things against you? There are lots of things you can do, the first of which is quit participating. It takes two people to fight and he does what he does to keep it going, you said that yourself, if there was no fighting to be done then he would lose his pay off for doing the things he does so he would quit doing them.
2006-07-23 09:33:14 · answer #4 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You "absolutely cant"!!!
Its a shame, but I know of a couple, and he has such hatred for his ex, that he takes her to court every so many times a year, just to aggitate her, and it cost her a small fortune every time to the lawyers, and doesnt cost him hardly anything...
He litterally breaks her bank account with frivilous things regarding custody, and payments and all sorts of things...
Its nasty when you are divorced, and even if he gets "with his girlfriend", it still wont stop him from slapping you with actions that will make you want to scream...
Its the nature of the beast, and I am sorry for you...
I wish you well..
Jesse
2006-07-23 08:48:50 · answer #5 · answered by x 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you can't press charges, just stay away from him.....change phone number, move if you have to...ignore the things he says. When he sees it doesn't get under your skin, he will stop doing it.
2006-07-23 08:48:13 · answer #6 · answered by bluez 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
maybe he isnt over you, guys do that crap, make you all made at them, and think its ok for them to get away with it.
2006-07-23 08:51:53 · answer #7 · answered by ~*Jenny*~ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋