Why/ why not ?
2006-07-23 08:38:29 · 17 answers · asked by rottenkid4560 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Many times an emotional affair with someone is just as bad if not worse, than a sexual affair. It's hard to fight against someones thoughts, and if your spouse is in love with them, then that's where his/her mind is always going to be. That is one of the reasons that I don't believe that a married person she be best friends with someone of the opposite sex. It always starts out innocent, but has the strong potential to go the wrong way. It is a setup waiting to happen!
If sex hasn't happened yet, then it's just a matter of time! How can you trust that nothing else hasn't happened already? If you didn't know that his/her heart was going somewhere else, how can you be sure that the body hasn't gone there as well? A lot of mistrust and deceit will come into play when these things happen.
It's hard to divorce someone just because of thoughts, which are intangible. If however, they start treating you like crap and start neglecting you, then you may have grounds. Search yourself to see if you might have given your spouse the opportunity by neglecting him/her, that this situation may have come about. However, if you were doing all you know to do to be a loving spouse, and it still happened without warning, then your spouse is weak, and will carry that behavior into his/her next relationship. If you have hopes of salvaging your marriage, your spouse has to be willing as well. I hope things work out for the best!
2006-07-23 09:13:19 · answer #1 · answered by macfifty06 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Nope, I would actually have an easier time staying with someone who had sex that was meaningless, i can understand sex just being sex. Falling in love with someone else is the ultimate betrayal and would destroy everything for me, there would be no recovery from that.
2006-07-23 15:44:32 · answer #2 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Someone stole my answer. What does sex have to do with it?
He's in love with someone else. I'd leave. On the other hand if had sex with a woman he didn't love, I might forgive him.
2006-07-23 15:43:11 · answer #3 · answered by MEL T 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, I wouldn't. If he fell in love, he gave his heart to her. I would feel cheated. Betrayed. No, men typically would have sex with another woman, but not love her. If he put his heart into it, it was serious. I couldn't stay with him under these circumstances.
2006-07-23 15:42:14 · answer #4 · answered by shynomore 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he was committed to making the marriage work and was willing to do some things to win back trust. We really can control our emotions and "fall in love" with whomever we want to. All we have to do is focus our time and attention in the direction of the person we want to have feelings for and away from the person we don't want to have feelings for. A marriage can survive this.
2006-07-23 16:15:00 · answer #5 · answered by happygirl 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If he fell in love with her ~ she's not going away soon. She will be in his mind for awhile. The love that he lost. If you can deal with that then stay married. If not, then leave.
2006-07-23 15:45:20 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, this is heavy. I would say, cheating is not only sex. By being in love someone while you are married is considered infidelity.
2006-07-23 16:07:52 · answer #7 · answered by alandicho 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Wow, thats a loaded question. It would be hard for me to believe that no sex was involved, so I am guessing NO....would not stay together. I would not want to be second choice.
2006-07-23 15:41:49 · answer #8 · answered by sweetnessmo 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because that would mean they did not love me I don't believe in sharing sex or no sex
2006-07-23 15:42:38 · answer #9 · answered by stophatinboo 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, because, in my opinion, if your man has fallen in love with another woman, it is sign of deficiency in your relationship.
2006-07-23 15:49:34 · answer #10 · answered by Kris K 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋