why do women who get beat up......?

Question

by their husbands/partners always stay with them and just say "but i love him"? are they all so think that they would rather die than leave?!

sorry change the think to thick :)

Answer 1

Maybe because they feel they cant leave and are forced into thinking that they actually love this person. Some people can be so controlling that many women start to believe that they are not capable without the partner. Mind games and emotional abuse is horrid and it has a hold on you. When a woman is saying she's staying because she loves him, its because she cant see a new life, or forgotten what its like to be a individual controlling what goes on. Women become robots and there is no easy way out of an abusive relationship. These women are not thick, they're stuck...

Answer 2

According to the reading I have done regarding hypoglycemia (low blood sugar), the brain, when it senses that blood sugar is low, will do sometimes strange things to get the blood sugar (glucose) out of storage and into the blood stream. Adrenaline is one sure way to do this. If getting beat up results in an adrenaline rush (and it does), then the victim may be "co-dependent" upon the pain (and the uncertainty of when it is going to happen) to keep her blood sugar up.

Suggestion? The victim needs to change her diet and eat in between meal snacks including some protein, meat, a can of tuna (salmon is better) or whatever. Also have some carbohydrate, like a handful of chips, an apple, or some carrots/celery, and also some nuts or peanut butter. Eat at least 2 ounces of protein. And drink a glass of water.

If she changes her diet, then she will possibly start thinking clearer, and realize (or learn) that the abuser will never change, that she needs to become independent of the abuser or she will continue to get hurt, and get hurt worse, possibly killed - as the abuser (per studies) only ups the abuse as time passes. Because his blood sugar is elevated by his activities and her reactions - and he will never know or care to eat foods that will balance his blood sugar.

Chronic low blood sugar can also cause self-esteem problems, anger management problems and a whole bunch of other physical and mental nasties. You may want to check out the symptoms link on www.hufa.org, and see how you check out.

Answer 3

because, once you are settled in your home is your security. Being with that man can be somewhat bearable to handle at times. the man may even be the best sometimes. If you are married to him you want to make it work even more, hoping he will change. when you split with your spouse, its like losing a part of you. All any women wants is to be treated like a princess and if you have to take a few blows you should know thats not going to happen but all women learn for them selves. they might sit and wait with him hoping he changes because they are familiar with him or they have no where to go and no one to help. I am 37 weeks pregnant. my husband beat me all the way to this point and now I have made a step for my unborn child I am on my own. even though I resent the way he has treated me I still love him because he is my husband and we were in love. I will always be his friend but I can't say I'll ever live with him again. abuse is also control like not letting you talk on the phone, or have friends or go anywhere by yourself, even if its another room in the house.

Answer 4

I want to know the answer to this too. People always say that women have higher pain threshholds than men, child birth etc. Perhaps because men have always treated women badly women have evolved to be able to cope with it both mentally and physically. I hope this isn't true but it seems so common that perhaps it is-Perhaps women when in the situation don't mind that much and further only say they do mind when they are not in the situation themselves because that it is not acceptable in current society to say the contrary. I am just making this up as I go along, but women seem to find other things more difficult to take, like facing upto the problem, fear of embarasment etc (completly illogical and frustrating). I would like to here a convincing counter argument... i think a lot of men and women are controlled by there hard-wired nature more than they are allowed to think. Its very very depressing, it depresses me alot.

So the lesson to be learnt from the answers is that if you want a girl to stay undermine her self esteem and pschologically and physically abuse her!! For ***** sake!! Its true isn't it!! I want a girl to stay without ever doing that, but if you build them up support them be kind like I have in the past they just leave you!!

Girls listen to me if you want to get rid of violence towards women by men you have got to give the nice guys a chance! And you have to, have too! stand up to the horid guys and leave them, no matter how difficult it seems. Other wise the nice guys won't stay nice and everyone loses.

To the women who no longer lives with the man she loves and is willing bring up her child alone, I have so much respect for you its untrue and I really hope you find I nice guy to share life with soon. There are plenty.

Answer 5

OH MY GOD! - its nothing to do with a woman's diet or wanting attention! People who commit domestic violence are very cunning and learn to play mind games. They learn how to get to the woman psychologically so that she feels worthless and gets depressed. Feeling like this robs you of any motivation or self respect you might have. Women are scared to leave. Reasons for this may be peer pressure (what family and friends will say), finances or any number of things.

Dont be so quick to judge others negatively.

Answer 6

The abuser (husband/partner) has convinced the woman that she in worthless and no one will want her. She won't have a chance in the world if she leaves. If someone has been mentally and/or physically abused long enough they believe it. The woman is mentally and emotionally devastated and certainly not thinking clearly.

Answer 7

It is usually because their self esteem has been so ground down by their partner that they are left feeling they could not cope on their own.

With others its absolute fear - What would happen if I left? Would he come after me?

It is a very complex and awful situation to be in and can psychologicaly damage someone for life.

Answer 8

Love has gotten a painful hold on them...it doesn't blind them, but it's in too deep. Sometimes, they fear being alone more than being beaten up. There are many different reasons..such as..hanging on for hope of change..money..etc.

I think if the men beat their women, the women should understand that's not love anymore..and to not waste their love on such cruelty. This goes for men who are beaten by their women as well..

Answer 9

Attraction is a powerful force.

Plus they don't think they'll die from it, and there's a lot of fear involved in the prospect of leaving a 'stable' life and starting up on your own, from scratch.

If they have low self-esteem they might also feel they deserve it.

Answer 10

I suppose it's a little like when I play Solitaire; I think I'm going to win the next game, and I just can't quit playing.
Low self esteem.
They think their partner will change.
They think 'It's not so bad.'
But I love him, etc.
No job training.