my teenage daughter was killed in a car crash along with her fiance of two weeks and their best friend. The driver that caused the crash walked away. How would you cope if you were in my position?
2006-07-23 08:28:19 · 9 answers · asked by angelswings 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
First off let me say I am deeply sorry for your loss.I am getting choked up and teary eyed even thinking about it.I have lost many friends in accidents, some as close as a brother.I have never and don't ever want to walk in your shoes, I can't imagine the pain,loss and sorrow you must feel.But I don't know the circumstances of that tragic day. I can only offer my advise.I personally believe it was an accident.Nobody intended to take their lives. Even if the driver was drunk, and I assume he was.I realize that doesn't make it any easier.But at least your daughter and fiance are together...and you know they are in a very happy place together.Sometimes when people say that it's still not easy because we still would like to tell them we love them, and would like one more day with them.I guess my advise is to cry your eyes out...it does help to grieve.And when you stop,.. try to remember all the fun times and the good things you done together.You can never replace them, and there will never be someone exactly the same.You have my deepest sympathy.If you would like to e-mail me, just for someone to talk to.Please feel free My e-mail address is ronchoward @sbcglobal.net you can cry on my shoulder if you need to.
2006-07-23 08:55:42 · answer #1 · answered by ronchoward 3 · 5⤊ 1⤋
I am here on this website because I was asking for marriage advice... my grief right now seems so insignificant. I do not have any answer to your question. I only want to comfort you. I have kids. I do not know how I would survive such a tradgety. I do not know the circumstances of the collision, but what good is blaming the driver (I only say that because you mentioned the driver walking away)? Will you heal if that driver is at fault and convicted in some way? Your pain is unimaginable. I would grieve, turn to friends, family...embrace her memory, keep her spirit alive inside you, talk, pray...you must believe in God and have faith... you have a tough path to walk now. I pray for you that with each passing day you may find a little peace and time to heal you. I pray for your daughter. God Bless you.
2006-07-23 08:51:05 · answer #2 · answered by lily 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Loosing a love one is not an easy thing to get over and I don`t know if you ever will. But take comfort in that she is in a better place and that she wouldn`t want you to dwell on it. You need to go on with your life and live each day the way you think she would want you to live. Maybe you could start a help group for people in your same situation and use this opportunity to turn this into something positive so that others in your situation can have some comfort also. Try to make things better for yourself and others around you. Don`t let your daughters memory be forgotten!! I think she would want you to turn this into something positive and make others aware of these type of situation and that there not alone in there struggles of loosing someone so dear to them. Good Luck and God Bless.
2006-07-23 08:43:56 · answer #3 · answered by bren_jim 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My brother-in-law was killed last year in an auto accident. He worked as a fireman and just gotten off of a double shift. It was about 2 in the morning and he fell asleep at the wheel. He slammed into a tractor trailor parked on the side of the road. Coping...well, you just have to do the best you can. My mother-in-law stays close to family and friends. She tries to stay busy all the time. I've advised her to go to counselling or a support group, but she's too old fashioned. But, she's doing as well as can be expected. I'm so sorry for your loss. Just hang on to those around you.
2006-07-23 08:34:41 · answer #4 · answered by cajunmommy29 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At first, I wouldn't cope at all really. I guess it would take me a while to figure that my life needs to go on, past losing a loved one. Of course I would still miss them and think of them every day but try and cope as best as possible. But straight away I could not do it.
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Take as long as you like to go over everything. Take as long as you need until you are ready. Don't be scared you'll forget or that she'll be displeased you have stop grieving. She's your daughter and wants you to be happy. She'll love you past the end.
2006-07-23 08:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i came upon my 30yr old brother in a car accident 4yrs ago, he died 15 minutes after i arrived. the driver of the 44ton lorry, bernard parry of hinkley walked away from court £1000 poorer, with a smile on his face. my siblings, parents and my anger and hate was all aimed at him, it still is. trev was a nurse, never harmed a fly and was respected by everyone he met, this poor excuse of a man, parry, could not even admit he was to blame, he blamed me, the sun, anything but himself.
we all still hurt everyday, we miss him so much. I talked about him and the accident to anyone that would listen, i was fixated on it for 2 yrs, most haunted turned up at my sisters house 6 months ago saying he was there, there are constant reminders. please please remember the good times, you will always have an empty space in your heart, fill it with pleasant memories.
remember she loved you and one day you will be together again
james
2006-07-23 08:52:34 · answer #6 · answered by jdjbs 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi i am so sorry for yr loss.i know how pain full when u loss child as i lost my daughter.i grownup in traditional Muslim family.we strongly be live we all have to die sooner or later. when person die his/her body disappear but the soul is always lives.Iknow it must be so hard for you n your family as yr beloved daughter passed away at before her time.think positive way what would happen if she survive n had sever disability.at least she is in happy palace with her love.they will be much more better if u remember them n try to live yr life in normal way.i know it is very hard for u right now but inshaallah u will be fine some peace in yr heart.do Charity on their name.talk about them to yr friend or even with stranger u will find people with their own loss.it would be very help full if u talk to counsellor.look after yr self as yr daughter will feel much more happy if u look after yr self.may god give u strength to over come yr loss n god bless u.remember everything happen for reason it always happen for good.at least they r aways with all the problem n resting in peace.
2006-07-23 09:32:22 · answer #7 · answered by rani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take one day at a time and someday, you'll remember her without so much pain. And the driver, he's going to die too like everybody else, it was just not his turn that time.
2006-07-23 21:45:19 · answer #8 · answered by DrSH 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
im so sorry to hear that. no1 should have to go though that, i dont really know what to say but i felt i has to say something just take each day as it comes. x
2006-07-23 08:40:27 · answer #9 · answered by jaynieleigh22 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋