Help! I am 23 years old and pregnant. I am currently living in a shelter for women and children but can only stay for 30 days. My baby is due in october and my boyfriend passed away last febuary! I have no help from my family or my boyfriends because I turned away from their religion and because i am pregnant and not married. I am reciving some state assistance but it is not enough to afford resonable housing for the baby and I! where can i go? dose anyone know any housing options or recources i may not be aware of?
2006-07-23 08:24:29 · 19 answers · asked by Matches75 1 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Pregnancy
Once you are in active labor, the emergency room at your local hospital has to treat you, whether or not you can afford to pay, so you don't have to worry about somewhere to actually have the baby. You should probably go to your local Department of Social Services and speak to them about housing assistance, WIC, and other services that might be available to you. In the meantime, I would suggest getting a job while you are still able to stay in the shelter, so that you will have clean clothes and a place to sleep, and can save the money that you make. After the baby is born, your local health department will provide vaccines and care. If you are reasonably healthy and fit, then I would suggest joining the military after the baby is born. Talk to a recruiter now. If you graduated high school, you will probably have to take a test called the ASVAB to determine where you should be placed. Once you have enlisted, you will need to find someone to take care of your child temporarily while you go to boot camp or basic training, but the military provides housing, a paycheck, money for food, and free health benefits for both you and your child. If you are looking for supplies for your baby, then your local Salvation Army and Goodwill stores have lots of baby clothes and furniture for very cheap prices. Good luck and God bless! :) I hope everything turns out well.
2006-07-23 08:31:24 · answer #1 · answered by Julia L. 6 · 2⤊ 1⤋
Certainly your shelter can answer these questions for you. As for giving your baby up, don't listen to anyone.
You may have to rent a room from some nice old lady in a house. You should be taking classes immediately to help you get a job. Once the baby is born, you need to go to work right away (after 6 weeks). The welfare office will help you with babysitting and job training. Sign up for one of these programs. There is no reason for you to sit on welfare. You need to work and take care of your child. You are woman. You are strong. Pray to God for help.
This is not the end of the world. You are to be a mother! Get your act together. The baby needs a responsible mother.
2006-07-23 08:34:59 · answer #2 · answered by moondrop000 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should at least qualify for section 8. Where they base your rent and utilities on your income. The next step would be to find a job, any kind of job and go back to school. I also think the military can be an option for you. If not you might want to think about adoption. I know it would be tough, especially since the father passed away but it would be what is best for the baby. It deserves a good home and financial security.
2006-07-23 08:31:28 · answer #3 · answered by optimistic_dr3am3r 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If u want to know please don't give up ur baby or refuse it. i think that u should atleast take the money or whatever u are gettin and go to a hotel. and make this a lesson don't do what u cannot handle. in trinidad a twelve year old is 4 months pregnant already and she just got exams results and she topped the caribbean the father is an 18 yr old boy. he will be charged for rape becuz she is a minor
2006-07-23 08:32:29 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should take a look in the phone book. Find a social service agency or a community agency and ask for help. They have lists and lists of places and organizations who help people just like you.
The shelter where you are at right now might have info, too.
I'm so sorry for your loss of your boyfriend. Good luck, sweetie. Don't let anyone get you down!
2006-07-23 08:31:35 · answer #5 · answered by RQ1227 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Can't someone at the shelter answer these questions for you? They should know what kind of specific services are available for you in your area.
If the shelter can't help, contact your local WIC office and see if they can point you in the right direction.
You could also try contacting local churches.....even if you are not religious they may be able to tell you where to get help.
2006-07-23 08:28:48 · answer #6 · answered by momma2mingbu 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Any general hospital will help you and charge the city/county/state and federal aid programs. Good luck, stay healthy. Damn religions tearing lives apart.
I hope everyone learns about the dangers of religion from this young lady's unfortunate life.
2006-07-23 08:31:13 · answer #7 · answered by Mark W 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go to the local hospital and tlk with the nurses there..i'm sure they've seen things like this and will know how to help..i hope everything works out and i'm srry i cant help right away! and maybe you should tlk to ur parents if they're around because this is they're grandchild...and if they're not available then try an aunts house or something...some kind of family...GoOD luCk!
2006-07-23 08:49:21 · answer #8 · answered by dance_till_u_cant_dance_no_more 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Planned Parenthood? Is there a crisis line available?
When are you due? No hospital would refuse delivery.
Where have you been living for 5 months since your bf died? How are you able to be online?
Too many questions to your plight.
2006-07-23 08:43:04 · answer #9 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
is the baby the deceased mans? talk to someone at the shelter about how you can prove this. social security will pay you about $400 per month to care for the child in the event you can prove it's his (DNA perhaps?)
you can get rent based on income! please ask someone at the shelter for help in this respect!
are you planning to keep the baby? if you don't feel you are in a position to care for the child please consider adoption... or find out if someone in your family can care for the child until you can get back on your own two feet...
BEST OF LUCK TO YOU AND YOUR BABE.
2006-07-23 08:52:03 · answer #10 · answered by JayneDoe 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋