well he isn't my boyfriend yet we are just friends for now he says he wants to be more than friends but he wants to wait until his divorce is finalized first. He told me that i make him happy and i pulled him out of the deep depression he was in before he met me. His mom and sisters and brothers and close friends all like me a lot and his uncle told me that he looks happier when i was at a get together at his house. One sister of his is very overprotective of him though and listens to our arguementsw because he is always at her house and she always tries to tell me a thing or two and i don't appreciate her putting her nose in our business. But his other sister doesn't butt in when we argue or have a disagreement but yesterday when i gave her a ride home she told me that her brother has 4 kids not the 3 that he told me about and that he was married twice not once like he told me and also she told me why both marriages ended and how she doesn't like her brother's 14 1/2 yr old daughter
2006-07-23 08:08:18 · 12 answers · asked by ? 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Other - Family & Relationships
i don't understand why she would betray her own brother like this telling me these things because he gives her money whenever she needs anything and he will help her with anything she needs as he does this for all of his sisters and brothers any advice or comments?
2006-07-23 08:13:07 · update #1
maybe like you said, she likes you and she don't want you to be walking blindly into a relationship with her brother. she wants everything to be put out on the table so that you can digest it and make a wise decision about if he is the right man for you or not.
Instead of you wondering why she betrayed him, you should be thinking about why he betrayed you. It's not that hard for him to tell you the truth and he should have come clean.
2006-07-23 08:14:26 · answer #1 · answered by Anne 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
honestly? i don't trust the sister. i don't think she's much of a friend to you to tell you something like that, whether it's true or not (and I think it could very well be a lie). Are you really sure she's your friend? Or is she trying to break you guys up? At the very least, she's putting you in a very awkward position. I think she's stirring, and enjoying meddling in your, and her brother's, love lives. At the end of the day, no relationship has any value if you have no trust. if you trust your boyfriend, ignore the sister. I would ignore her anyway because i don't think she's as much of a friend to you as you think she is. Best of luck.
2016-03-27 04:08:53 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is simply giving you facts that you didn't have before. She knows her brother a lot better than you do and doesn't have all that blinding emotion clouding her judgement like you do. She is just trying to give you a heads up. And by the way these are pretty huge things for him to be lying about, you need to heed her warnings! Other than that she's just trying to be your friend, she figures you are interested in him and would therefore be interested in knowing things about him. I'm really not sure what you are trying to turn this in to. I think that perhaps you don't appreciate people butting in because their facts get in the way of your fiction, your fantasy of who you want this guy to be. Looking at this from the inside out, this guy doesn't look like a great candidate for someone to get involved with.
2006-07-23 08:14:16 · answer #3 · answered by dappersmom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
right well first i would discuss this with him... you need to get to the bottom of it before he starts to **** you around properly... you probably wont want to do this as if his sister is lying then chances are that they will fall out... however THIS WILL BE HER OWN FAULT. why she would try and mess things up for you is nasty and hurtful for both of you. if you dont talk to him about it you will not have a very good relationship basis from the beginning as you should be able to talk freely to each other about anything and everything. hope i helped :) x
2006-07-23 08:29:36 · answer #4 · answered by Interesting 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She sounds like she is trying to get your to leave her brother. Or maybe she's testing you to see how devoted you really are to him or something. I dunno. Maybe it's like that movie Cruel Intentions...teh sister likes the brother a LOT and doesn't want other girls w/ him. Ha. I'd say, confront your boyfriend though about what his sister told you and see what happens. If he lied about that stuff, ask him why. I'm guessing he lied out of fear you'd think he's nuts and leave him or not date him. Typical. But,...I dunno...you guys need an honest relationship.
2006-07-23 08:13:08 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i think its because since she sees you that you are getting a chance with him pretty soon probably you guys later might be thinking about getting together... and if she sees that you are a grat person and vetry nice then for her own conciousness she wants to let you know that his bro is not the greatest men ever.. and that he has his flaws... and if shes telling u that is to let you know what you are putting yourself into ..i mean both of you are girls ... and i think she wont like no girl hiding secrect of her future bf... and thats why she told you .. not to get you separated form him but to let you know... what you are getting yourself into .. maybe she doesnt want you to be the third one to get a divorce with 3 more kids that will be 7
2006-07-23 08:15:24 · answer #6 · answered by Dr. Truth 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess you need to know if what she says is true. However, it does sound as tho, you're basing e/thing on his family. Where do you yourself stand in all this?
I would strongly suggest, you keep your eyes and ears WIDE open. PLEASE do NOT make any kind of life committmant with your boyfriend. It sounds like there is much more to his life that you may not be fully aware of.
2006-07-23 08:18:14 · answer #7 · answered by iyamacog 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
May be, your boyfriend's sister wants the relationship between you and your friend be strong. It depends on the kind of secretes that she told you. So, you can discover here intention easly.
2006-07-23 08:17:35 · answer #8 · answered by kary 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe she is a little jealous and doesnt want to see her brother happy
2006-07-23 08:20:40 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It seems like he is just lieing to you to get with you and she should stay out of it
2006-07-23 08:13:57 · answer #10 · answered by BRIAN J R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋