Is it hard to go through life when nobody ever believes in you?

Answer 1

Yes, and that lack of faith, or that lack of sincere support, can be contagious. Even the most hard-working and optimistic of us can fall into despair when *nobody else* seems to care.

And all I can say to that is....while the people who say "well that is their problem, you just go ahead and believe in yourself" mean well and are technically correct, they also underestimate how hard that is, and how prone people are to peer pressure and outright hostility from others around you.

Taking care of yourself when no one else will, and believing in yourself when no one else does, is WORK. Do not be mislead on this one, you are basically having to *create an emotional space* and force an issue that most folks just plain take for granted.

So having said that....here are some things you can do to keep yourself going:

--Maintain proper physical self-care. Get sleep when you are tired whenever you can. Be sure you eat right, and if you can afford to, get some stress-level (Stresstabs or their generic counterpart, whatever you can afford) vitamins, they are one of the healthiest, most cost-effective and *underrated* ways to keep your personal energy levels up. Get out more and get some sunlight and some light exercise--walking is good, weather permitting. Keep your hygiene up. Soap, deodorant, toothpaste and mouthwash are all your friends, use them at least daily. Main thing is not to stink....the rest is optional and not a total social deal-breaker. Likewise with clean clothes and a clean personal space, you want your personal "touch space" to be as pleasant as possible (meaning contact surfaces of your room, your bed, your clothes, etc. that touches your skin).

--Look up some Positive Mental Affirmations, print them out and use them ruthlessly and relentlessly. Do a Keyword search on them....will include the Wiki link for the "Serenity Prayer" as an example shortly. But the idea is to find some short and intelligent things to say to yourself, that are *positive* that you can use over and over again....it isn't enough to get *you* to get them stuck in your head, you want this stuff to be the plague of your enemies as well. ;) If you get *your* Positive Mental Affirmations stuck in *their* heads too, *they* will be less of a pain.

--Keep on doing things. Go out with your friends, keep doing the things you once *liked to do* even if they seem to be a pain in the neck now. The idea here is two fold: a) you need to maintain contact with your friends and continue to have people to talk with, and b) you need to maintain a positive sense of *accomplishment* in the sense of "See, I'm not so worthless, I actually planned to clean house and do laundry today and *got it done*." Or some such. You need to keep doing things to continue to prove to yourself that you *are worthwhile* and *can do good, useful things*.

--Find something or somebody to believe in that you find bigger, nobler or more important than yourself. This DOES NOT have to be a Higher Power in any religious sense....historical human role models are fine as well. The point is to find an *objective* third source of positive affirmation so that when your friends and family don't support you (and shame on them for that!), and you feel too tired to carry on yourself, you can look to your Muse and say, "Well, I at least know I matter to YOU," in a "keeping the faith" sense (even if it is only faith in Being a Good Vegetarian, or in Being Inspired as Mozart was, or in Being Good According to Forrest Gump).

Ok, I could go on and on, but I hope you get some idea here....you have more options here than just doctors, pills and workbooks, you always have.....

Answer 2

I would say so. Everybody needs someone to believe in them. If a person lacks that, life can be pretty tough sometimes. It's sad that a lot of people all through out the world go through life without one inspiration...or one person to believe in them - believe they can become someone and not just be another "thing" in the world. For the people that do at least have a parent or guardian, or even sometimes a really good friend that believes in them and inspires them to do good in life, they are quite fortunate.

Answer 3

Yes I think it is, I feel like I have noone behind me just against me but there saying they believe. I have alot of aspirations that I think have the potential to be something worthwhile. I told my mom about how I wanted to go to college, and she started ranting and raving about how she went to college and hasn't used the degree she got to better her life. Well I say you have to motivate yourself to do it and she never did anything like that, or take a risk once in a while life isn't always about being consistent. Then I told my wife that I was thinking about starting a group that was against this event that is held in the town that we live, and she told me not to even bother because there is nothing that I can do. Well what the hell does she know when all she wants to do is go to work, come home be lazy more than is normal even by my standards and then maybe go and do something every now and again even though I don't want to do it but will for her because I am behind her, she has no aspirations like me and I just feel like I can't get anywhere because everyone that I care about is telling me to be a mindless drone and do as everyone else (well kind of not like robots, but you get the picture). I feel your pain, but my advice if you want it is to believe in yourself 100% and you should be able to make it. I know I am trying even with all the things I feel are trying to pull me down.

Answer 4

It is harder to go through life not believing in yourself and your own ability. That sounds like the question of a depressed person. See the link below. There might be help for you. It helped me.

Answer 5

yes it is little bit difficult. when some1 believes u u get that backing or support.even if no 1 believes in u , u be right analyse what u r doin and believe in ur self and god. and try. when u know u r right every 1 will be with u . most important believ in ur self .and see the pro and cons of it. and remember every 1 fails and falls down remember to bounce back.

Answer 6

Always easier if someone believes in you. However if you have a fighting character it could make you more determined if people don't believe in you and you might achieve things that even you could not imagine just because you are determined to prove yourself to people. So easy is not always good. And I sound like my mother!

Answer 7

It's hard, but you need to do what you have no matter who believes you cause in the end who benefits from it is you and you end up with the only gratifying satisfaction cause you proved those people wrong.

Answer 8

Yes, it can be very disheartening. What is most important though, is that you believe in you. You are the one who has to live in your life/body so you should always be your #1 fan.

Answer 9

No one ever truly believes anyone until it is proven. To be believed, you must first prove yourself. It is one thing to say something, it is another to back it up with the evidence.

Answer 10

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